Intro--a1sweetypie

[a1sweetypie]

Hi
My man broke parole and was sent back to Concord. He wasnt supposed to drink, but he had a few with family and friends a few times, so, back he went. I have been seeing him for only about a month. It happened really fast. I had my guard up for a little bit, but he is so good to me and so good to his family and friends. His crime happened about 18 years ago and that isnt who he is anymore. I fell for him fast and hard, so did he. He kept telling me he is gonna marry me and I believe him. I have been reading TONS of stuff here and I am not sure what to think. I know he loves me and I love him. I know we can make a great life together when he gets back out (2 yrs). I guess I am wondering if I should "wait" for him or not. I feel a little silly because we were together for not very long before they took him. I havent seen him there yet, he's was taken just last week. I dont know if he even got my letter yet. I am a little confused I guess. We are both in our 40s and we "fit like a puzzle".. according to a good friend of mine. He's smart, handsome, strong but gentle. I KNOW I love him, he's the one for me, but, am I just being stupid?

[Dale'sforever]

Hi there, welcome to PTO and the New Hampshire forum...glad to have you here with us!

[LeaAnn]

Welcome to PTO!

[a1sweetypie]

Thank you for you warm welcomes

[pmitch10]

Welcome.......just take one day at a time for now. It will help keep your sanity.

[Cactus]

Originally Posted by a1sweetypie

I KNOW I love him, he's the one for me, but, am I just being stupid?

Welcome aboard!
This is a great forum, and you're in the right place.
I assure you, there is nothing stupid about love!
I agree with taking it "take one day at a time for now."
cac~

[a1sweetypie]

Yes, one day at a time, a good motto to live by, thank you For some reason, I dont feel like I am waiting for him. I know he will be out, I know I will want to be with him then. It doesnt matter how long, I dont feel like I am really "waiting". I am living without him for now is all.

[Sarich08]

Hi,
I am new to this site too, but not to the relationship part. I agree with the others, one day at a time and enjoy what you can with him, despite where he is. don't doubt your heart if you know you are in love, trust your heart(s) and focus on growing your relationship while he is away. Stay positive.
blessings

[pmitch10]

Welcome Sarich!

[Sarich08]

Thanks for the welcome. I don't have a lot of time to log on to the site, but am always happy when I can. The support definitely helps, just to know there are so many of us out here loving our families in there!!

[Cactus]

Welcome Sarich,
Keep coming back. You are in the right place to find support and many of the answers to your questions.
God Bless~

[doingnhtime]

[quote=Sarich08;4372173]Hi,
I am new to this site too,
Welcome, PTO is a great place to find information and help from people in situations like yours. This is where we a re all drawn together with a common bond and with Gods help we will get each other and our loved ones through it. Also you can get a occasional laugh here from a thread gone wild. Welcome ~ glad your here.

[Sarich08]

Thanks to Doing time and Cactus for the welcom. I am always up for a good laugh. I believe laughter is very neccessary in any relationship, but even more so when we love someone who is doing time. We have to take some things lightly...and I know for me I am grateful for any time I have with my honey, even though I have to drive to Berlin to see him! Even the,sometimes, silly rules they make up in the visiting room, I just go with the flow, follow what they say, even if it changes the next week..ha...I am just so grateful to have him in my life and this is just for a season and I know that God goes with me and that he also walks among those men and women.

"If my God is with me whom then shall I fear"

[pmitch10]

My son is in Berlin also Sarich so if you have any questions feel free to ask.

[john's snoopdog]

welcome to PTO. Glad to have you with us.

[timsbaby41]

Hi and welcome to pto.

[Sarich08]

thanks pmitch. How often do you get to Berlin to visit? if it is okay to ask that in this forum? I try to get up there at least once a month. It is hard though, but what can we do? My honey is serving a life sentence. So I am praying for a miracle. I believe God will bring him home some day yet it still makes it very hard. Thanks again for making me feel welcome.

[pmitch10]

Sorry Sarich for not getting back to you sooner....I have been sick and off the computer for a bit......but feeling lots better. I try to go up once a month at least...I am due for a visit.

A miracle yes.......it can and does happen.....never give up on hope.

[dolphin2you1]

Well, here goes. This is my first time having to deal with something like this. My husband is away and I'm trying to do the right thing here. I'm not sure what to expect. My first visit to the prison will be soon. I'm a little scared by all of it.
What not to wear/what to wear/what to say/do??? I'm just so confused. I set up an account for telephone calls, but I hear there are a lot of them out there. So, if you know of a good company to sign up with, please let me know. I never ever dreamed I'd ever post on here or even look for such a forum.
But, in the long run, we all need a little support from others in the same boat. Someone who truely understands what we are going through.
Thank you,
Dolphin

[doingnhtime]

Originally Posted by dolphin2you1

Well, here goes. This is my first time having to deal with something like this. My husband is away and I'm trying to do the right thing here. I'm not sure what to expect. My first visit to the prison will be soon. I'm a little scared by all of it. What not to wear/what to wear/what to say/do??? I'm just so confused. I set up an account for telephone calls, but I hear there are a lot of them out there. So, if you know of a good company to sign up with, please let me know. I never ever dreamed I'd ever post on here or even look for such a forum.
But, in the long run, we all need a little support from others in the same boat. Someone who truely understands what we are going through.
Thank you, Dolphin

Hello Dolphin, first let me say welcome to PTO. I also never imagined myself being here and now I cant imagine where else I would look for help and support then right here, actually I wish I found it sooner. Sometimes we give a little and some times we take a little. Welcome to our family... Visits are not to scary. What you can do depends on what section your husband is in. Always on the side of caution I dress modestly. Some have been giving grief about the lenth of their shirt sleeve or skirt. Then can make you leave and go change so I just stick to pants and a long sleeve top or sweater. Oh no zippers or hoods on your top. Don't know why but thats a rule. When you get there you will fill out a card and give them your ID (license) they will give you a lock & key to put your things in a locker. Depending you may be able to bring some quarters in and get some food in the visit room. If you would feel more comfortable you may pm me and I can help with some of the other details. The phone company you use also depends on his location. I have avail ICSolutions. Since that is my only choice I say they are great!! Others have had some minor issues but I can put up with some odd things for the sake of getting to hear the voice on the other end. I don't know how long you have been on this road but try and remember to take it easy and come here often as you can. Jump into any post or if you want to share feel free to start your own. Together we can get through the process. We just need a little help from our friends

[pmitch10]

Welcome Dolphin...it depends a little bit also on what prison he is in. Concord, Berlin, Laconia.....

Ask him to send you a visitors list of do's and don'ts. But doingnhtime gave you a lot of good points. It is good to have the inside help from here as a lot of us learn as we go.....it truly is an adventure with its highs and lows.

We shall make it through! Again, welcome!