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GreensGirl217 · #1 02-19-2009, 07:34 AM

We've waited about a year to finally get married and it happened yesterday. It was beautifully and sweet, but today I can't stop crying. I guess because the morning after marrying my husband, he is not here with me. I thought the year gone by was hard, that was nothing compared to the way I feel right now.

Missing Someone · #2 02-19-2009, 08:10 AM

That has to be sad - to wake up and know that your brand new husband is not with you - he probably feels the same way. HUGS...but CONGRATULATIONS on your wedding. Love each other, help each other through your pain. My wishes to you for a long and happy marriage.

HollywoodsGIRL · #3 02-19-2009, 08:13 AM

Congrats... but i guess this situation is a bitter sweet one.. you ugys are finally a married couple but at the same time u dont have your new husband around. Im sorry. I guess its something over time you will get use to. Wen he first went in im sure u were so sad and after the year it got a lil better. Im sure it will be the same with this situation. Just be strong and tough. Love conquers all!

mommyluv1 · #4 02-19-2009, 08:31 AM

Congratulations on your wedding!!! My fiance and i have debated whether or not to get married while he is still incarcerated..

GreensGirl217 · #5 02-19-2009, 08:50 AM

Thank you all. We debated it also and a lot of people asked me why we weren't waiting. I think it was mostly for him though. He has so many insecurities about where he is and that I am out here and he thinks that one day I will get tired of waiting for him or find someone better out here. Even though I continued to tell him that would not happen, those thoughts were still there on his part, so this was a way of showing my committment to him. I love him and I know I want to be with him for life and I know he feels the same. He has been in for 9 years, hopefully we are looking at a homecoming this year, through post-conviction and parole, so I guess this won't last long. I knew marriage would not bring him home, I knew I would wake up the day after our marriage without him, I knew I would be sad, now I just have to get through it. Again, I am so grateful for PrisonTalk though. A place to vent about things you can't tell most people and other people who understand.

akasweetness · #6 02-22-2009, 05:08 AM

Greensgirl217- first and foremost CONGRATS- you did it. Please stay positive and know that you are not alone. I am so excited for you and your husband. Stay positive.

angel12569 · #7 02-22-2009, 09:08 AM

Congratulations, I know it must be tough, but just remember its not forever. One day you guys will be together. i wish you both a lifetime of happiness and love.

MzCPt84 · #8 02-22-2009, 10:15 AM

Congrats girl! Find joy in the fact that you have accomplished way more than some of us out here. You have married your boo and you get to see him. As for me and many others we have no visitation, no phone calls, only letters. So cheer up and write your man a hot steamy honeymoon letter.

nicoleD14 · #9 03-02-2009, 08:01 PM

Congrats on getting married. I was wondering if you have any regrets about not waiting till he came home? Iam engaged and my man and i have talked about it.

GreensGirl217 · #10 02-05-2010, 06:01 PM

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Originally Posted by nicoleD14

Congrats on getting married. I was wondering if you have any regrets about not waiting till he came home? Iam engaged and my man and i have talked about it.

I am so sorry I never responded...I guess I didn't request notification of new posts on this thread. So it has been a few days shy of a year since we were married. I will tell you honestly that I have never for one second regreted marrying him. It is not always easy going through this but being married to him is. I love him and could not ever imagine being with anyone else. The hard parts are where he is and what he has to go through because of that. He was denied for Post Conviction relief and we just found out today that he was refused any Parole relief...we have 4 more years now with no other options that I know of. We will make it though.

crow57 · #11 02-05-2010, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by GreensGirl217

We've waited about a year to finally get married and it happened yesterday. It was beautifully and sweet, but today I can't stop crying. I guess because the morning after marrying my husband, he is not here with me. I thought the year gone by was hard, that was nothing compared to the way I feel right now.

I realize that it does not compare, but you have my sympathy. The day after I married my sweetheart, I was violated and spent fourteen days in county lockup.

There is nothing fair about the system when it comes to matters of the heart. You have his name now, wear it with pride. Time will pass and you will be together and happy.

kellya5107 · #12 02-05-2010, 06:36 PM

Im so sorry u feel sad. I am engaged but not married yet so Im sure I'll feel this way when that day happens for us if he is still locked up when we do. hopefully things will get better.

akasweetness · #13 02-20-2010, 08:27 AM

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Originally Posted by GreensGirl217

We've waited about a year to finally get married and it happened yesterday. It was beautifully and sweet, but today I can't stop crying. I guess because the morning after marrying my husband, he is not here with me. I thought the year gone by was hard, that was nothing compared to the way I feel right now.

I can only imagine how you feel and I have been worried about that. Please keep your head up and know that this feeling too shall pass but your love will endure and carry you through this. Thinking of you!!

JCJP2009 · #14 02-21-2010, 09:53 PM

Hang in there and keep your head up sweetie. I hope that by the time you read this, you feel better. I can kinda' relate to how you felt the day after your wedding - I'm getting married on Friday and already I'm feeling sad that he'll be there and I'll be here on our wedding night. It is definetly bitter sweet. But you two will come out of this ok in the long run. It will help you both appreciate the little things when he comes home. {{{HUGS}}}