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C_hopson<3 · #26 04-09-2009, 09:07 AM

me and my husband got married before he went in we already knew he was gonna go away for some years so we did it now. so i can have his last name then i ended up geting preg so me the baby him would all share the same last name. plus it also helps with his trust. he knows we are married and i would never break that bond by cheating on him.

holly g. · #27 04-09-2009, 09:08 AM

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I am just curious how many of you would wait until your loved one is comes home to get married or would you prefer getting married now? Me and my boyfriend have talked about getting married but we have decided to get married when he comes home. What would you ladies recommend? What are your ups and downs of being married while he is in, if you are already married?

me and my boyfriend have talked about that also...i wanted to marry him now but he doesnt want to because he says we deserve a nice wedding and i guess that would be better than getting married in a prison....

Waiting Angel · #28 04-09-2009, 10:03 AM

I have been with my guy since May 2007, and he got locked up in April 2008, so I had almost a year with him on the outside before he was locked up. We already knew this was coming so we didn't even move in with each other, but we have been talking about getting married, and I told him we could talk about it, plan it, and all of that stuff but he comes home Aug 2009 and I told him to wait until he gets out to even propose because I don't want my wedding proposal to come on a phone, in a letter, behind glass, or with a C/O standing over us. Since we met in May I think he's wanting a May 2010 wedding,and I'm good with that.

oldcolonymami · #29 04-12-2009, 06:26 PM

My husband and I did it now. February 18th, 2009. He is a natural lifer, so we had no choice if we wanted to make the commitment and cement our covenant. Our wedding was explained upfront how it would be and we accepted it. Me, him, our Imam, the Rec Officer and a C.O. No family or friends and we got 10 minutes after to spend together. We have a bond that we have just grown into and we are eachother's backbone. He and I share love, faith, we are a team and we get through this everyday together. What can I say, I love him and he loves me.

oldcolonymami · #30 04-12-2009, 06:32 PM

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He's pushing me to get married while he's in there but I refuse. He said he'll feel more secure if we're married but I tell him LOVE IS NOT VALIDATED BY A GOVERNMENT DOCUMENT. HAVE FAITH IN ME, NOT A SILLY PIECE OF PAPER.

My husband used to say what you are saying now. When he finally proposed and we married 4 months later, he admitted that being married made things feel different to him. It made him feel more in love with me, more committed, and like we were joined and more than boyfriend and girlfriend, which he could be with any woman. He wants me forever. That "piece of paper" means the world to us both now.

gigglez87 · #31 04-13-2009, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by oldcolonymami

My husband and I did it now. February 18th, 2009. He is a natural lifer, so we had no choice if we wanted to make the commitment and cement our covenant. Our wedding was explained upfront how it would be and we accepted it. Me, him, our Imam, the Rec Officer and a C.O. No family or friends and we got 10 minutes after to spend together. We have a bond that we have just grown into and we are eachother's backbone. He and I share love, faith, we are a team and we get through this everyday together. What can I say, I love him and he loves me.

Congratulations! you only got 10 minutes together? They should have given you two a little more time together!

rwindley22 · #32 06-21-2009, 10:56 AM

Okay Ladies Here Me Out. Be Open Minded and Understanding.
I was arrested and went to jail. While in jail I met this woman. I was hooked up with this man thru his sister. I got a chance to meet his mom and she cant stand me. She is going out her way to destroy us. She giving other people his info so they can write him. she tried to hook him up with the lady she living with. Yesterday he asked me to marry him. I told him I would but wanted to wait. I also told him if and when we do get married I want a private ceremony. I told him inside or out I want it prvate. He said if it's out he wants a big wedding (250 people). He doesn't want to wait until he gets out. He wants me to marry him now! He gets out in June/August 2011. I am not sure what to say or do. Any words to say? Words of Encouragement? Words of Wisdom? HELP! the crazy thing is that I am on probation until March 2010 so they will probably say no.
He asked for my info and said he going try and ask any way!
Ladies/Men What Do You have to say bout this?

Destiny111 · #33 06-21-2009, 11:56 AM

[quote=Ms_Jah;4566133]I love him unconditionally so am marrying him this Saturday!
Not gonna let no monkey stop the show! Besides love shouldn't have any boundaries in my opinion.

CONGRATULATIONS!!

gigglez87 · #34 06-22-2009, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by rwindley22

Okay Ladies Here Me Out. Be Open Minded and Understanding.
I was arrested and went to jail. While in jail I met this woman. I was hooked up with this man thru his sister. I got a chance to meet his mom and she cant stand me. She is going out her way to destroy us. She giving other people his info so they can write him. she tried to hook him up with the lady she living with. Yesterday he asked me to marry him. I told him I would but wanted to wait. I also told him if and when we do get married I want a private ceremony. I told him inside or out I want it prvate. He said if it's out he wants a big wedding (250 people). He doesn't want to wait until he gets out. He wants me to marry him now! He gets out in June/August 2011. I am not sure what to say or do. Any words to say? Words of Encouragement? Words of Wisdom? HELP! the crazy thing is that I am on probation until March 2010 so they will probably say no.
He asked for my info and said he going try and ask any way!
Ladies/Men What Do You have to say bout this?

First Off Congratulations! As for his mom not liking you...I know it can be hard to deal with but my advice is it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks or saids even if it's family because the relationship is between you and your loved one. They are just going to have to accept you. You need to be strong to overcome the obstacles that are thrown at you. As for you being on probation they could say no but it never hurts to try. It all depends on the superintendent so just have faith and everything should come out ok.

TinaV · #35 09-21-2009, 12:18 AM

My hubby and I were married in jail and let me tell you, we just had our two year anniversery yesterday and I've never regretted it. You can always have a real ceremony when he comes home, but it made his bid so much easier.

I love my man!

I say go for it!

ninibella3 · #36 09-27-2009, 10:05 PM

I agree! Why wait? I cant wait until my fiance gets shipped out of Hampshire County and goes to Cedar Junction...does anyone know how it works there? I was trying to look up online but has anyone gotten married there and if so can you let me know what its like there? I'm hoping that it even gets approved because he might have some INS issues, but his mother got her naturalization papers before he turned 18. So, technically he should be a citizen. IDK...all I know is that he's the love of my life and I would marry him tomorrow if I could!!

julie30 · #37 09-28-2009, 01:09 PM

I am getting married while he is still in jail. He has 5 more years left and has already been in there for 3yrs. Then once he finally comes home we will have a big celebration. I am not big on the whole wedding thing and being the center of attention. So it works for me. I guess it would all depend on how much time and what you guys want. It's depends on the person.

Good Luck !!!

KeithsWifeyxOx · #38 11-15-2009, 09:42 PM

I'd PREFER getting married when he comes home. But knowing my impulsive ass I probably won't be able to wait. I've been down almost 2, and we may have 4 left...That's a long ways.

jeffsbaby · #39 11-22-2009, 04:59 AM

If you would have asked me this a month ago I would have said nope not waiting. 2 Things have changed now. 1. Jeff is so mad about the prison's wedding agreement. He can't kiss me! He is having a fit. 2. He is a lifer and does not have a out date right now but, is going for sentence reduction and if that is so we are getting married on the beach! If he does have a lot more time we will do it in there. He says baby your already my wife!

garciabby44 · #40 12-30-2010, 06:40 AM

My husband && I got married almost 2 months ago but we also promised each other that as soon as he gets home, we will be planning a wedding that everybody can attend. Do it! It's your choice && your relationship.

HoneyB71 · #41 01-04-2011, 02:36 PM

I would get married now and once, he is home renew our vows in the wedding that we have always wanted.

truluv4life · #42 01-08-2011, 08:01 AM

He would want to wait. His thing is he doesnt want everyone in his business. I dont mind, I'd rather those memories out here.

Neda36 · #43 04-07-2011, 09:48 AM

We are getting married while he's incarcerated. We're setting up plans for July. I never wanted a big wedding and he does sooooooo this is a way of me getting what a want. A small private wedding. Even if he is in prison. I'm going to have one friend and he's going to have one friend. TA DA!
When he comes home we'll have a ceremonial wedding for him since it's what he wants.

missingyouedmi · #44 06-19-2011, 09:53 PM

very sad mine asked me to marry him and even bought me a ring I told him I wanted to waite to he comes out to get to know him better I also limited the money I was sending him to 200 a month all this just happened I just got a letter telling me he is placing another add to meet someone else. I am shocked I cannot believe this is happening to me.

paradise soul · #45 08-26-2011, 12:35 AM

Me and my man would have to wait for almost 5 yrs to get married and we simply don´t want to wait. We love each other, we want to spend our lives together, we don´t want to wait!!! We want to get married as soon as possible and do it again the way we wished it would be when he comes home.

agoodwoman318 · #46 11-18-2011, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by missingyouedmi

very sad mine asked me to marry him and even bought me a ring I told him I wanted to waite to he comes out to get to know him better I also limited the money I was sending him to 200 a month all this just happened I just got a letter telling me he is placing another add to meet someone else. I am shocked I cannot believe this is happening to me.

I am SO sorry......
Marrage is not an option untill he asks. He wont ask untill he is sure and he is out.
Simple answer... No

misscadibaby · #47 01-09-2012, 08:14 PM

We are def waiting...in my mind a wedding is a celebration of your love...and I know how we both like to celebrate

It just wouldn't be right if we couldn't get nice and get it in after the ceremony. That just wouldn't be true to "us"....you know?

mschocolate · #48 02-09-2012, 09:57 PM

I would prefer to get married now than to wait until he comes home just to get it over with I am so excitied and he told me that we will get married one day and that we will get the rings Nd dress and everything. He will Love me forever.

JustHeather · #49 07-09-2012, 03:31 PM

We already know that one day we will be married but we are waiting to see what happens at trial. Our situation is a little different so we are playing it by ear. If he gets committed we may do it before he is home and then petition for visits. Either way we will be married regardless and we are both fine with something small and simple.