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imissmybaby08 · #51 08-04-2009, 01:11 PM

I have never felt the need to ask him for those, I trust him and until he gives me a reason not to trust him i wont ask him for them. If he WANTED to send them to me fine, But i also trust the people around him i speak to. Ive THOUGHT about asking him for the records but thats only cause ive come across threads on here thinking i should have then i thought harder about and dont believe i need to. He loves me, n i know that, other than his babymomma and her family n his mom and me, no one goes really

OsideNative · #52 08-05-2009, 07:00 PM

I've never asked for his visitors list nor his phone list. Honestly, I don't really care who's on them. I know who he calls (me & his daughter) and I know who comes to see him (currently no one). I trust that he is honest with me about not talking to other women. The thoughts have never really crossed my mind. And unless he gives me reason to believe that he's lying and seeing someone else, I won't ask for any of it.

dannys girl01 · #53 08-05-2009, 07:41 PM

I never even knew we could get that kind of information...I doubt i would ever ask him. I beleive he would get very angry if i were to ask him.

lililoza · #54 08-06-2009, 11:59 PM

My question is..."Can they send that info to us? Just wondering!

AaronsBeautiful · #55 08-07-2009, 10:56 AM

If you have to ask him for all of that then i think you need to need to look else where. You should not have to ask for such things Because who someone had on their list before you should not be your concern anyway. A realtionship is about trust and if you have no trust then that is not the person for you! How would you feel if they asked you for every one you had in contack with and wanted to know every one you slept with? That is almost like the same of what your wanting to know.

khansgirl · #56 08-12-2009, 10:47 AM

To the person that posted this. See, getting with someone that you know nothing about, brings on this kind of insecurites. I started to vote, but all, but one answer is part of a trust issue. I just hope that all stories turn out to be happily ever after. I just find it weird being with someone that you met at his most vunerable. In jail, people say things and when they come home it's different. I've know my high svhool sweetheart a long time and there's no way that I could wait on him if I didn't. He was really good to me before he went and I know that it's going to be even better. NEVER MARRY SOMEONE THAT YOU MET BEHIND PRISON WALLS UNTIL YOU DATE HIM ON THE OUTSIDE FIRST.

Dreamoftheday · #57 08-12-2009, 12:00 PM

I wouldn't ask him for "proof" of anything. I believe what he tells me. I would not appreciate it if he asked me for "proof" of my phone calls and social life that he can not be a part of.
Besides, how would that make him feel? The prison monitors EVERYTHING he does, then to have me trying to monitor him also...dang, the guy needs to know that I believe in him, that I trust him. They give up so much when they are locked up...I don't want to take his dignity also.

mi.vida · #58 08-12-2009, 02:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MarriedSince08

They should send it to us without us having to ask, and not just for us to know,because we do trust our man,but because the haters,the ones who tell us they are playing us....those people need to see the proof rite there that what we have is true and they are wrong about it.

He.sent.it.to.me.without.me.asking.him

He.also.to ok.himself.off.of.his
pen.pal.sites.that.he.was.on.without.me.asking:thu mbsup:

javefriend · #59 08-19-2009, 04:04 PM

He asked me to send him my cell phone bill to cover a certain time frame to see if I spoke with someone in a certain area code. I told him I would not send him my cell phone bill unless he planned on paying it. (which he can't) He told me he would send me his visiting records but never has. I wouldn't ask for it because to me it would seem a bit degrading since his world has no privacy. So allowing him to remain a private man is the only thing I can do. But I did find out someone was approved to visit him even after he told me he would never want that person visiting. My visits are rare and hard to come by since I live so far away and I would hate to intrude on someone else's visit with him or have someone intrude on my visit with him. This one person in particular would cause a huge problem if they came upon my visit with him. I told him that once she was approved, I would no longer be able to visit since I didn't want to deal with this person. He became very upset and told me he would have her removed and would show me the paperwork. I finally decided I didn't care, he was my friend and no matter if I was visiting I would not make things difficult for him if someone else showed up.

I want to know if inmates fall in love easily or are they just looking to fall in love to pass the time with someone?

Mitch67 · #60 08-21-2009, 01:15 AM

Do you trust him?

If you don't then maybe you're in the wrong relationship. I would be mad as hell if my guy asked me for phone records and I definitely wouldn't provide them so why would I ask him to do something that I would never do myself.

How much does he trust me? He doesn't ask me where I was last night or who I met when I went to a bar or club. He doesn't ask me about guys that I work with or meet at the gym. He doesn't ask for my phone records or even who my friends are on Facebook. Now don't get me wrong I am not out every night meeting men and then keeping them secret. What I am trying to do is show that C trusts me totally and therefore deserves an equal amount of trust in return.

So if your guy isn't asking these type of questions maybe you should trust him back and not ask to see his phone and visitor lists.

ceecee65 · #61 08-22-2009, 06:58 PM

tyroneswife: This is the first time I ever belly laughed on PTO. OMG is this funny!!!!

Price of a T-Netix call: $1.80
Price of soup in the visitors canteen that you can get at Wal-Mart for $.30: $1.50
Giving DOC the middle finger when you lay tread out of the parking lot after picking your man up the day he's released: Priceless

ceecee65 · #62 08-22-2009, 07:00 PM

I dont mean to be funny, but that blister looks like something else I haven't seen for awhile, only smaller.

JGOeffner · #63 09-30-2009, 06:18 PM

I've never asked who's all on his visiting list, and in Texas they have to be on their visiting list to be on their phone list. I trust him and vice versa, he's never asked who all visits me or calls either!

rose45 · #64 10-13-2009, 09:28 PM

Ive never asked and like most trust my man... I actually thought that if you are listed as a spouse or fiancee, then you MWI cannot have another female visit unless they are family???

**Patty** · #65 10-13-2009, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by rose45

Ive never asked and like most trust my man... I actually thought that if you are listed as a spouse or fiancee, then you MWI cannot have another female visit unless they are family???

Depends on the facility.

ImhisladyA · #66 03-10-2012, 03:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by yaya'sbaby

I used to have my homegirl look, now it very rarely crosses my mind. I wouldnt necessarily say that there is a problem if you ask for it. Just for kicks I will ask forhis tonight LOL.

Right! I never thought to ask, but now im gna. Not because im insecure, but to see how he reacts lol

Ceddric's <3

JPrasil · #67 05-03-2012, 05:49 PM

Never ask, never will and certainly don't care to have the information.

csgirlalways · #68 05-03-2012, 08:24 PM

I had never even thought about nor will I ever do it. I trust him completely. He doesn't ask to see my cell phone bill, the house phone bill, trip when I'm going somewhere outside of my house. He trusts me. That's what it all boils down to.....TRUST.

Psychocandy · #69 06-22-2012, 05:49 AM

No I wouldnt ask for a visiting list or a phone list I trust him 100%. He trusts me 100% and he has a lot more to be paranoid about than I do cause Im way over here living life and having fun.

marissaa · #70 06-22-2012, 08:38 AM

As long as I'm on it I wouldn't worry lol (:

missingLance01 · #71 06-22-2012, 10:57 AM

I have asked my fiance for his stuff but in Missouri you have to have a court order to get them. I trust him but I was just being curious when I asked and he got a little upset that I even wanted to know and questioned the trust I have for him. I trust him 100 percent with all my heart and I've learned to never ask a thing like that again. :/ But even though he doesn't ask who visits me or talks to me on a daily I still tell him cuz I'm an open book to him and that's the way it should be.

LeprechaunRush · #72 06-22-2012, 01:51 PM

no. not many people visit and I know who does and who doesn't

If you feel the need to ask, I think you should examine why you think it's necessary.

emtjen · #73 06-22-2012, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by #1AndOnly

I've never asked and it's never been offered. I don't see a reason to ask as I have no trust issues ... If he sent it I would appreciate the effort to let me know that he's completely open with me though ~

This is exactly how I feel!!

HisKissOfLife · #74 06-22-2012, 09:51 PM

He sent me them w/out asking. Here there is no approved call list, he can call whoever he wants so that's kind of pointless but he sent me his approved visitor list and said any time I ever want to see it he's happy to send it. I didn't ever feel the need to have it but I do love the fact that he is an open book with me. He see's nothing wrong with someone 'seeing' for themselves and truly doesn't take offense to things like that.

Tela · #75 06-22-2012, 10:11 PM

If the day EVER comes where I feel the need to ask him for phone OR visiting list...welp thas the day I will know its the DEMISE of our relationship...PERSONALLY I feel thas ABSURD.