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Warrior Wife · #1 04-22-2009, 06:09 AM

Hi sisters,

Well IMHO we need some new and positive threads goin' on up in here

So I'm gonna do my best to get us going!

My question is:

What is a GOAL that you share with your man? Something to aspire towards TOGETHER?

It could be a goal you share while he's still down, or something you're looking towards when he comes home.

Dana and I have many shared goals. Our biggest goal is to start a church or ministry that will reach out to offenders and their families, a safe place where people don't have to "hide" their past or the fact that they have a loved one who is or used to be incarcerated.

So how 'bout it, ladies? What's one goal that the two of you share???

xo,

WW

QPunky7408 · #2 04-22-2009, 07:31 AM

Hey Warrior Great Thread..... And Great Goal I wish you luck with that it is much needed everywhere. Our goals aren't as ambitious as that but my goal is too get out of debt and start saving for our own home. That is really something I want in my life and of course he wants what I want so....lol. And Also to work on his sobriety and staying out of prison.

HannahGD · #3 04-22-2009, 07:53 AM

Our number one goal together is to overcome this, followed by having the wedding of our dreams, and having more children together. =)

raxid_star · #4 04-22-2009, 07:56 AM

Hmm. Being good parents. Getting out of debt. Buying a house. Him staying off drugs, both of us staying away from alcohol. School.

xgot420issuesx · #5 04-22-2009, 08:25 AM

One of the many goals we have set is to move to a whole new place, not to run from the past, but to move to a nice place, where it is warm all year long and a good place to raise our family. We always try our best to live a good life, and we will continue to do so when he comes back home. Another goal is for him to finish school, make a career for himself, not just a job. To pick up where we were so rudely interrupted, and move on with our heads held high.
We have many goals, nothing that isn't obtainable either, nothing far out there, just live simple, as we have always done.

Chellie · #6 04-22-2009, 09:09 AM

Great thread...and I would love to come to that church when you goth get it up and running. One of our many goals is to change our lives around and be a good example for our children. Another is to open a non-profit organization that gives free counseling to people in poverty. I want to help women and children dealing with the many pressures of living in the ghetto. And he wants to help young men stay off the street. He wants to school these kids on where a life of running the streets will lead. His words.."If I can help 1 person get out of this life style and make something of themselves then all of this that I went through will be worth it." God willing we can get this done.

God Bless

QPunky7408 · #7 04-22-2009, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Chellie

Great thread...and I would love to come to that church when you goth get it up and running. One of our many goals is to change our lives around and be a good example for our children. Another is to open a non-profit organization that gives free counseling to people in poverty. I want to help women and children dealing with the many pressures of living in the ghetto. And he wants to help young men stay off the street. He wants to school these kids on where a life of running the streets will lead. His words.."If I can help 1 person get out of this life style and make something of themselves then all of this that I went through will be worth it." God willing we can get this done.

God Bless

Honestly I think about that for him. I never really brought it to him but I would hope that one day he would use these experiences to help some kids not to make the same mistakes. I know he wants to come home because his nephew is falling off the right track and he wants to show him that its not the way to go maybe by doing that he can find himself wanting to help everyone. I will make that a goal to mention this to him just to put the thought in his mind.

Warrior Wife · #8 04-22-2009, 10:56 AM

Wow, sisters!

What beautiful goals!

And you know what? They are absolutely achievable!

IMHO, any couple who can not only survive but also OVERCOME this experience has aready proven they've got what it takes to make their goals a REALITY!

xoxoxoxo,

WW

earlsgirl22 · #9 04-22-2009, 10:59 AM

to live and peaceful God fearing respectable life for us and our children

BlueEyedEllie · #10 04-22-2009, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Chellie

Great thread...and I would love to come to that church when you goth get it up and running. One of our many goals is to change our lives around and be a good example for our children. Another is to open a non-profit organization that gives free counseling to people in poverty. I want to help women and children dealing with the many pressures of living in the ghetto. And he wants to help young men stay off the street. He wants to school these kids on where a life of running the streets will lead. His words.."If I can help 1 person get out of this life style and make something of themselves then all of this that I went through will be worth it." God willing we can get this done.

God Bless

marc and i both ALWAYS wanna keep God #1 in our lives. we both want more schooling. he recently started a class to get certification to work with at risk youths.(i didn't think felons could work with kids but he says alot of ex-inmates work in rehabs and with at risk youth.) i want to go back to college and finish my degree in social work. he REALLY wants to find and start a relationship with his mother. and i REALLY want to learn how to be the best possible wife i can be for him in the future because that's what he deserves. kudos to ALL of you for having goals!!!

BabygirlNGary · #11 04-22-2009, 11:03 AM

We both want to travel somewhere new every summer with the kids to see the major landmarks of the U.S. like the Grand Canyon, Niagra Falls etc.

Greek_Koukla · #12 04-22-2009, 11:06 AM

Warrior Wife - that is an amazing goal!! I love it!

Joseph and I have 2 main goals in our lives right now!

1) We help each other, motivate each other to do well in school/classes.. I'm currently working towards my masters right now - so close to being done and he's going for some more college credits offered at his facility. We both KNOW that education is so important and we have a little support system going..

2) To be amazing parents.. his dad left his family when he was young so he always vows to be the best dad to our children. My mom is so-so but my dad is amazing, I vow to be THE best mother to our children.. We want kids so bad!!

miss k_0836 · #13 04-22-2009, 11:42 AM

Are ultimate goal is happiness. We want to raise our children to grow up and make good choices for themselves. We want to stay strong in god, and in our relationship. Every future challenge we want to overcome it together gracefully! We just want to be happy, living the american dream!

RobertWideman · #14 04-26-2009, 03:32 PM

[to stay together for the rest of our lives. we are both older people and i truly hope we are together until we pass away

quote=Warrior Wife;4599561]Hi sisters,

Well IMHO we need some new and positive threads goin' on up in here

So I'm gonna do my best to get us going!

My question is:

What is a GOAL that you share with your man? Something to aspire towards TOGETHER?

It could be a goal you share while he's still down, or something you're looking towards when he comes home.

Dana and I have many shared goals. Our biggest goal is to start a church or ministry that will reach out to offenders and their families, a safe place where people don't have to "hide" their past or the fact that they have a loved one who is or used to be incarcerated.

So how 'bout it, ladies? What's one goal that the two of you share???

xo,

WW[/quote]

Temeron0926 · #15 04-26-2009, 06:49 PM

Ray and I would like to own our own home together. I know we will be "up there" in age when he gets out, but we are hoping that I will be able to find something between now and the time he gets out. We all know how hard it is to find a rental house when one of you is a convicted felon, so if I can find one before he gets out we will be good to go. Besides the fact we won't have a landlord telling us what we can and can't do in our home.

bigwhip · #16 04-26-2009, 07:22 PM

Educating the youth is very important to Luke and I. Luke really enjoys the opportunity to speak to the youth that visits the prison. He tells them his story since he was 17 when he went to prison and hopes that he can affect at least one kids life in a positive way. Working with youth has also been very important to me seeing as how I went to school to become a teacher. So when he gets out we both want to educate youth about the importance of decisions in their teenage years.

EddiesBaby · #17 04-26-2009, 07:32 PM

We've already talked about finding a place somewhere between our two families, his is in Texas, mine in Arkansas and CA, but more importantly, we both are going to work together and make sure we're both provide each other with a stable and loving environment so he never goes back. Ever.

Queen*JW*25 · #18 04-26-2009, 08:22 PM

I'm currently in college for my criminal justice major which will hopefully land me in law school and eventually land me a job for the department of justice. He is in alot of programs trying to get his degree in business and learning a few languages. He wants to start his own business i plan to back him up. So besides our goals of being successful together, another goal is to stay very much into each other.

MKGS561 · #19 04-26-2009, 08:42 PM

These are our goals that we have actually discussed together to strive for everyday...

1. Financial stability.

2. Live in a good and safe environment for our children.

3. Make sure everyday we have a moment for one-on-one time.

4. For us to do out part in making sure our family lives a long, healthy, fun, loving life.

kimberly brooke · #20 04-26-2009, 09:05 PM

Our goal is to eventually get married, buy a big house with 4 bedrooms and a huggge back yard lol. And get two dogs. Then when the time is right, make a little boy <3.

Daywalker · #21 04-27-2009, 03:00 AM

We have a mutual goal of being able to open a very small halfway house (privatized) for non violent offenders looking to seriously change their lives. Guys like my husband who made a legitimate mistake and don't want any more prison in their lives. I met a lot of guys at his place (which was a clean living facility) that had no one in their lives to support them, to give them a reason to change, and really, if you don't have a reason, will you really be inclined to make a change?

I'm Taoist, in spiritual nature, so I would want the place to contain lots of gardens and places for quiet thought and meditation (prayer, if you're so inclined). I also happen to really enjoy growing as much of my own food as possible, and preparing very healthy food and nothing would tickle me more than cooking for a half dozen guys who are hungry and really want to eat.

We're already working on it - I'm in school to get my Psych degree (eventually I will have my Master's degree, and I would like a Doctorate in Forensics), but for now, the degree in Psych will be enough to get us some federal funding to help fund the halfway house. And I'm sure we can partner up with at least one active ministry in the area we settle in.