My mother-in-law is a wicked witch!

[chelseagreg1427]

Originally Posted by MRS. DONEZ

she's doesn't have and never had good parenting skills! she thinks that life is only about getting wasted with her children! my husband was always in the streets when i met him! he was 11 yrs. old and i was 12 and i remember seeing that family drinking on the front porch everyday, and my man was either at my house or somewhere roaming the streets. I know my husband and regardless of her being his mother, he's not going to allow her to be ugly with me, he will never disrespect his mother but he will put her in her place because he doesn't like for anyone to tell me anything! i've been there for my husband since day 1 and I'm still here waiting for him, I've been there more than anyone in his family, so I don't understand her but I am not going to let her get the best of me!

good for you!!! you said it right there... :ive been there for my husband since day 1 and im still here waiting for him, ive been there more than anyone in his family.."
as long as you and your husband know that, all will be well. shes not married to you guys and cant change anything, especially since you know he will stick up for you.

you are on track and SHE is just a small bump in the road

[SpicaRigel]

How is your son doing? Aye this hit me because a dear friend of mine has a one week old grandson in the hospital fighting for his life...
I wish i lived closer to you...honest to God i own a Glinda The Good Witch Gown and i'd let you wear it so you could walk up to that Wicked Witch and tap her on the nose with your wand, and say,"Rubbish! You have NO power here! Get going before someone drops a house on YOU!"
Seriosly honey, its very obvious your Mom-in-Law doesnt have all her cheese on her cracker! She's a manipulator, an alcoholic, a drama queen, she is MISERABLE is what she is! Miserable, unhappy, she's a mess!
You be a bigger woman than she(actually she is emotionally a child) and show the rest of the family what A Woman With Class is,ok? You show them what that is, because THAT is what you ARE...A Woman With Class.
I know you are dealing with tuff issues and i commend you for how you are coping with the.
What a great role model you are for your daughter!
I hope your son is okay, i really do. You have lots on your plate.
Take care of yourself also as you are dealing with this very selfish, self centered,sad, sick woman.

[MRS. DONEZ]

Originally Posted by chelseagreg1427

good for you!!! you said it right there... :ive been there for my husband since day 1 and im still here waiting for him, ive been there more than anyone in his family.."
as long as you and your husband know that, all will be well. shes not married to you guys and cant change anything, especially since you know he will stick up for you.

you are on track and SHE is just a small bump in the road

THANK YOU, I FREAK OUT ON THIS WOMAN BECAUSE IF AND WHEN I BECOME A MOTHER-IN-LAW I KNOW THAT I AM GOING TO WANT MY CHILDREN TO BE HAPPY WITH WHOM EVER THEY CHOOSE TO MARRY! THAT WOMAN HAS HER HUSBAND AND THEY ARE BOTH BITTER PEOPLE AND THEY DESERVE EACHOTHER, WHY WOULD THEY WANT TO INTERFERE, IN SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE, WHEN THEY CAN MAKE EACHOTHER MISERABLE! HA! HA!

[chelseagreg1427]

thats why!!! because they are miserable themselves and cant stand the fact that you are happy!
im sure the way they see it, hes in prison so you CANT be that happy! but you are ! and theyre together and cant even be happy!

[MRS. DONEZ]

Originally Posted by SpicaRigel

How is your son doing? Aye this hit me because a dear friend of mine has a one week old grandson in the hospital fighting for his life...
I wish i lived closer to you...honest to God i own a Glinda The Good Witch Gown and i'd let you wear it so you could walk up to that Wicked Witch and tap her on the nose with your wand, and say,"Rubbish! You have NO power here! Get going before someone drops a house on YOU!"
Seriosly honey, its very obvious your Mom-in-Law doesnt have all her cheese on her cracker! She's a manipulator, an alcoholic, a drama queen, she is MISERABLE is what she is! Miserable, unhappy, she's a mess!
You be a bigger woman than she(actually she is emotionally a child) and show the rest of the family what A Woman With Class is,ok? You show them what that is, because THAT is what you ARE...A Woman With Class.
I know you are dealing with tuff issues and i commend you for how you are coping with the.
What a great role model you are for your daughter!
I hope your son is okay, i really do. You have lots on your plate.
Take care of yourself also as you are dealing with this very selfish, self centered,sad, sick woman.

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!!!! YOU ALL MADE MY DAY! YOU ALL ARE THE REASON I SMILED TODAY! THANK YOU SO MUCH LADIES! (MY MOTHER-IN-LAW IS)

[Fancy]

Mrs. DONEZ,

Sweetheart, you are an amazing woman. I wish life would just hand you a break.

You have held your hubby down and you have suffered right along with Joseph. You got other kids too. You are doing amazing.

I struggle with weight myself and I completely understand how you feel about the weight. If you are like me, you use good food to cope and sooth all these heartaches away. Food is like a moment of happiness, and in a very unhappy world....sometimes, it is about all we got.

You and your hubby will make decisions when he comes home if or when you want to work together on the weight and how it effects your health and happiness.

Your hubby will also choose you over his wicked mom. I say forget her and all her hurtful behavior....God has called you for bigger things....she is just a mere distraction to the important work you have been chosen to do. You know this Mrs. Donez....you are special.

You got a fan in Tennessee and I say forget her and focus on more important things.

[MRS. DONEZ]

Originally Posted by tennwife

mrs. Donez,

sweetheart, you are an amazing woman. I wish life would just hand you a break.

You have held your hubby down and you have suffered right along with joseph. You got other kids too. You are doing amazing.

I struggle with weight myself and i completely understand how you feel about the weight. If you are like me, you use good food to cope and sooth all these heartaches away. Food is like a moment of happiness, and in a very unhappy world....sometimes, it is about all we got.

You and your hubby will make decisions when he comes home if or when you want to work together on the weight and how it effects your health and happiness.

Your hubby will also choose you over his wicked mom. I say forget her and all her hurtful behavior....god has called you for bigger things....she is just a mere distraction to the important work you have been chosen to do. You know this mrs. Donez....you are special.

You got a fan in tennessee and i say forget her and focus on more important things.

thank you, i have always had an issue with my weight, honestly i have learned to cope with a lot of things and i am trying really hard to lose it but not because of her, not even for my husband, see i have a bad heart and i was never suppose to gain as much weight as i have but being in the hospital as much as we have been, it's hard to be as mobile as other people, i'm just stuck in this room, that woman is not perfect, trust me she is no where near that! Ha!ha! My husband has never taken her side over mine because he himself knows that his mother is horrible, he always tells me to ignore her. I was thinking that maybe she's trying to get me to fight with my husband before he comes home, so he wont come home to me but you know me and my husband in all 20 years that i've known him, we've never ever had an argument! He's my best friend, my soul mate, my other half, we are so alike and agree on everything, we never have had a reason to argue! So i know that she has no power over our relationship, that woman that has my husbands son, was only a one night stand and my husband doesn't even really know her, her son was born right before my husband went to prison so my husband doesn't even know that child but we are going to be there for him because the baby has no fault of nothing, but ever since i married ray, his mother has gotten closer to that woman and wanted him to be with her because that other woman is a butt kisser and i am not sorry to put that way but it's the truth!

[hiswife78]

Damn girl thats FUKED UP!!...
But you know what you have to be the bigger person & look the other way people like that isnt even worth it not even your own mother in law..!!!
Just keep your head up...
& if your hubby loves you the way u are then to hell with her
REAL TALK..
Hope everything gets better for you girl take care & GOD bless♥

[cinderella2004]

Awww, I'm sorry you're upset. I hope your son is doing better. Your daughter sounds like she's resourceful and that's a great thing to be.

I wish you luck with your MIL and I wanted to say my mother is 83. I have a very big family and if you walked into my mother's house you'd see pictures on her wall that've been there many years - maybe like 25, 30 years, maybe longer. My wedding pictures are on the wall, a couple times since I'm couple times divorced. Old wedding pictures from one of my brothers and two of my sisters who are also divorced hang on the walls. Many grandchildren also. These are pictures that've been there for years and I doubt my mother is taking them down anytime soon. Just wanted to throw that out there ... I don't really think your MIL is being mean, these are pictures she's been given and she's put them up around her. I think you can only be offended by them if you allow yourself to be.

If this was me I'd try to turn things around. I'd let my MIL know that I was grateful she helped my daughter. Could be your MIL is nervous for her son to come out of prison after so long and slam dunk into the responsibility of all the children. You had said one of the children is his so maybe she is leery of this and nervous about it for him. You said she's a drunk and I think regardless many times its best to shrug your shoulders and let things so. You live longer that way and if she was drunk she was only talking crap so let it go. Maybe try communicating with her in the morning before she gets a chance to drink. She could be mean though before her first drink if she's that bad so be careful.

Best wishes to you and I hope you let some things - like old pictures - let them slide. Its so not worth it !

[lovingwife1192]

Originally Posted by MRS. DONEZ

O.M.G. I AM SO UPSET BY MY MOTHER-IN-LAW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER WHOM BELONGS TO MY HUBBY, STARTED MIDDLE SCHOOL THIS YEAR, AND WELL MY YOUNGEST SON IS STILL IN THE HOSPITAL AND I HAVEN'T REALLY BEEN WORKING, ONLY WHEN I HAVE SOMEONE TO COME & STAY WITH MY BABY! WELL MY DAUGHTER IS 12 YEARS OLD AND I KNOW THAT SHE WAS ONLY BEING THOUGHTFUL, SHE DIDN'T WANT TO ASK ME FOR THE SCHOOL SUPPLIES THEY TOLD HER SHE NEEDED AT SCHOOL, SO SHE TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO CALL HER GRANDMOTHER AND ASK THE WITCH FOR MONEY FOR THE OTHER THINGS SHE NEEDED FOR SCHOOL BECAUSE I WAS NOT WORKING AND DIDNT HAVE MONEY! WELL I DIDNT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS UNTIL MY MOTHER-IN-LAW CALLED ME ASKING IF I WAS GONNA TAKE MY DAUGHTER OVER THERE, AND SHE EXPLAINED THAT MY DAUGHTER ASKED TO BORROW MONEY FROM HER! I TOLD HER THAT I COULDN'T TAKE HER BECAUSE I WAS AT THE HOSPITAL BUT THAT WHEN I GOT OFF WORK TODAY THAT I'D TAKE HER OVER THERE! WELL WE WENT TO HER HOUSE AND THE WITCH WAS NOT HOME BUT MY SISTER-IN-LAW IS COOL AND LET US IN, WELL AS I WALK IN, I NOTICED PICTURES ALL OVER THE WALLS AND A LOT OF THEM WERE PICTURES OF MY HUSBAND AND HIS EX, AND THEN THERE WERE SOME OF A ONE NIGHT STAND THAT HAD HIS CHILD AND THE WITCH HUGGING ALL HAPPY LIKE IF THEY WERE STUCK TOGETHER! THEN I FOUND PICTURES OF ME HIDING BEHIND OTHER PICTURES! I WAS SO UPSET BECAUSE I FIND THAT VERY DISRESPECTFUL ESPECIALLY BECAUSE I'M HIS WIFE AND SHE KNOWS THAT IT BOTHERS ME! MY MOTHER-IN-LAW HATES ME AND I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHY! I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING TO HER FOR HER TO HATE ME, ALL I'VE EVER DONE IS LOVE HER SON, AND OF COURSE I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT HAS BEEN THERE FOR HIM THROUGHOUT ALL THIS, SHE ONCE CALLED ME WHEN WE HAD K-MART DOWN HERE IN SAN ANTONIO AND SHE WANTED TO LET ME KNOW THAT THEY HAD BIG, BIG, BIG, CLOTHES ON SELL AT K-MART LIKE FOR ME, THEN WENT OFF AND SAID THAT SHE COULDN'T BELIEVE THAT RAY WAS WITH ME BECAUSE RAY NEVER LIKED FAT GIRLS AND WELL MY HUSBAND HAS TWO OTHER BOYS BY TWO OTHER WOMEN THAT WERE NOT EVEN HIS GIRLFRIENDS! SO I TOLD HER WELL I KNOW THAT NORMA AND LISA ARE ALSO FAT AND HE HAS KIDS WITH THEM, SO OBVIOUSLY HE LIKES FAT WOMEN! SHE'S JUST UGLY AND COLD AND I HATE THAT! I'M SORRY I JUST NEEDED TO VENT AGAIN BECAUSE I AM GOING THROUGH SO MUCH RIGHT NOW WITH MY SON AND THIS WOMAN JUST LIKE TO MAKE SURE I AM AS MISERABLE AS POSSIBLE! SORRY THIS THREAD IS SO LONG!

i HAVE HER TWIN AS MY MOTHER-IN-LAW! I could tell u stories that would make ur blood boil! Mine hasn't even come to see her son yet who was taken by the DEA 2 1/2 weeks ago, much less show up in court. My mother was there in court for him, but his own "breeder" wasn't. She's not a "mother," just a "breeder." It takes more than giving birth to be a mother. She took his money tho when he gave it to her to remodel her darn kitchen. She knew what was going on.

Do NOT let this witch get u upset. That is exactly what she wants. Who gives a crap about what is hangin on her walls.Yes, it is wrong that she is doing that, but u can't control that old heifer! (that's a cow) She is a "TOXIC" person to u. She brings nothing positive to ur life,so STAY AWAY AS MUCH AS U CAN. DO NOT feel badly that ur daughter asked her for help. THAT WITCH OWES HER GRANDDAUGHTER MORE THAN THAT. Let the old crone give those kids as much as they can get out of her. They are her responsibility as much as yours.

As far as what she says about your appearance, do u really care what she thinks? She's taking her anger out on u. Mine does it too. It is my fault he did what he did. We've been married for 27 yrs, and it is always MY FAULT when he messes up. If they have to admit their sons "fu^&*ed up on their own, then they(the breeders) have to accept responsibility for the mistakes their sons made. If they blame us, then they don't have to do that.

Your pic shows a BEAUTIFUL young woman. Hold ur head high. Wish I looked like u!

[retired-37]

It's going to be okay MRS. DONEZ. While I don't know your MIL personally, I do know that mean people tend to be just that..........MEAN!! She was nice to you when you paid for her trips just as she is nice to the 'ass kissing' ex. In reality, I think she would be mean to anyone who her son is with. Don't buy her anything or pay for anymore trips. Because, you know she is only being nice to you because she got something in return. How do I know this?? Because, our district manager at work is exactly this way. He is nice to the employees who kiss his ass and give him things. I told him that I didn't care if he didn't like me.......I was there to do my job and if he didn't like me because I didn't kiss his ass or give him gifts like the other guys he could f**k off!! Thank God he doesn't have the authority to fire me!! But if looks could kill at that very moment, I'd be dead TEN TIMES OVER!! Now everytime he comes around, he smiles and says hi......not one cross word comes out of his mouth!! Maybe, your MIL needs a REALITY CHECK!! But, keeping it on a nicer note........the next time she calls about a sale on 'plus size' clothing you might want to say something like....." thanks for the tip, I'd love to see what you got for yourself".....andy

[leftbehind2]

I am sorry you have to deal with her. My only saving grace with my in laws is that the kids are all grown & I don't have to see her witchy face

[only1love]

I know it's hard, because I had one just like her, but let it go in one ear and out the other. Your husband will handle her and the meanness.

It's not your weight! That is an excuse. Don't comment because it is like feeding a fire. You have bigger issues to deal with and they take priority over her impression of you! Of course she does that with the pictures to upset you. No other reason for it. I am sure your husband will re-arrange her photo collection when he gets home, and in the meantime, these are the women he DID NOT choose.... so who cares?

You will accomplish more by ignoring her comments than letting her know how you feel at this point. It is easier to blame you than to face her son's imperfections.

[Momma_Manda]

Oh man, I totally get what you're saying. My mother-in-law drives me insane! I can't stand her.. But, since it's my fiance's mother I tolerate her for HIM! But then, he got transferred and all of his belongings were sent to me.. I found a letter from his mom talking about how she doesn't know if we'll actually make it, but she hopes we do for our daughter. She went off how I supposidly get rid of the things she buys for my daughter, which I never have once. She's says I'm ungrateful, when I've ALWAYS thanked her for every thing.. I've taken her feelings in to considerations. I've tried so hard to get along with her, and then I find out that she's talkin' shit. Then my fiance told me how one of his boys got locked up with him and said that his ex wife was calling his mom asking how MY FIANCE was doing.. I was so pissed.. the b!tch left him high and dry when he went to prison the last time.. they were married for 3 months and then she said she was sticking by his side.. 1 letter in the first week, 2 years later he got divorce papers. Now his mom is talking to her again! WTF>! My fiance has been in for a year and I have been by his side this whole time.. writing him, getting phones hooked up so he can call, sending pictures, giving money.. EVERY THING! But she's pretty much saying I'm not good enough for him! Gosh, she's a witch too! I know what you mean.. and just don't let it get to you.. it's a waste of time and energy.. But, I hope things get better in that case.. cause it's complicating.. I know!

[MRS. DONEZ]

Originally Posted by achapinguy

It's going to be okay MRS. DONEZ. While I don't know your MIL personally, I do know that mean people tend to be just that..........MEAN!! She was nice to you when you paid for her trips just as she is nice to the 'ass kissing' ex. In reality, I think she would be mean to anyone who her son is with. Don't buy her anything or pay for anymore trips. Because, you know she is only being nice to you because she got something in return. How do I know this?? Because, our district manager at work is exactly this way. He is nice to the employees who kiss his ass and give him things. I told him that I didn't care if he didn't like me.......I was there to do my job and if he didn't like me because I didn't kiss his ass or give him gifts like the other guys he could f**k off!! Thank God he doesn't have the authority to fire me!! But if looks could kill at that very moment, I'd be dead TEN TIMES OVER!! Now everytime he comes around, he smiles and says hi......not one cross word comes out of his mouth!! Maybe, your MIL needs a REALITY CHECK!! But, keeping it on a nicer note........the next time she calls about a sale on 'plus size' clothing you might want to say something like....." thanks for the tip, I'd love to see what you got for yourself".....andy

THANK YOU SO MUCH, YOU MADE MY DAY TODAY, I COULDN'T STOP LAUGHING ABOUT THE PLUS SIZE REMARK! I LOVE IT!