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lorenicole · #26 09-01-2009, 10:48 PM

Where I visit, there are tons of guys who have multiple women who visit. It is crazy! Other visitor's are always curious to see if they'll ever get caught in the act. It's hilarious!

mrschris · #27 09-01-2009, 11:24 PM

where my hubby is, the officers WILL let a woman know if her man is playing her, and they WILL NOT have any hesitations in doing so. ive seen it with my own eyes.

gotta love nj LOL.

loveispatient13 · #28 09-02-2009, 01:28 AM

I wouldnt trip i know my man would have anyone else there (like another woman) I know exactly whos on his visiting list

Mrs_Krobetzky · #29 09-02-2009, 01:42 AM

No I think I would be good on that one lol. The only people Ryan has on his visitation is Me, his Mom, and his baby sister. His mom doesn't visit and his baby sister only gets to visit if she goes with me. Like someone said before about their man, Ryan has been in for almost 5 years now, so all the hoodlums and dope hoes he ran with don't even think about him. But if someone did happen to show up in there I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it, I would enjoy my visit with my Boo and after I drive my 2 hours back home i'll probably have acouple of 'nicer' words for the chick or dude that was up there. I say that because anyone from Ryans past visiting is BAD NEWS! lol

LadyBabyJoker · #30 09-02-2009, 02:32 AM

I can't lie.. I have trust issues too but that's because I'm VERY insecure and I'm a half MWI (long story)... plus lots of broads would go visit him in county and try and jock. I don't blame you for feeling how you did. Especially when we can't be there with them all the time, when we want, you can't help but feel slightly insecure in your relationship. Not knowing what they do when you aren't around will get to anyone. Even if you don't think about it on the daily, it's still there subconsciencely so comments like that would get to you.

IrishFire · #31 09-02-2009, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by HONE3YDYPPZ

.But wouldn't you have felt the same way?

Yep. I love and trust him very much, but considering the way the CO put it, there would have been a few thoughts going through my head as well. Now, I wouldn't leave, not after a 5-hour drive, but he would have probably wished I'd have left had it been scandalous.

IMURHUNI · #32 09-02-2009, 06:13 PM

Yes I would have been spitting feathers, but at the same time I would have asked her politely if it were his family members that were already there and if she didnt tell me then I would act calm until I got to the visiting room, once I saw who it was I would have breathed deeply, smiled to myself and then thought...............what an idiot I was to think it may have been anybody but family. He would never have known that I secretly doubted his loyalty for a short second.

rockys lil girl · #33 09-02-2009, 08:35 PM

I dont get it why would you be mad its not like he was there with another woman right? Yeah the co maybe tried to stir some drama but we know how they can get sometimes. I dont see why you would be mad if anything im sorry but your man should be the one mad and thats for you doubting him sorry jmo

Jeremy's_April · #34 09-03-2009, 12:42 AM

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Originally Posted by nimuay

Frankly, I don't see that the CO did anything wrong. She basically informed her that she would have to wait because someone else was visiting. She didn't say who, but then, she shouldn't.

this was my reaction too. what did the CO do wrong? they always ask "who are you here to see?" they always ask "what is your relationship to him?" i believe the CO was simply letting you know why you weren't going to get into visit right away, and i know here in Indiana it's illegal for them to tell you the "who". i can't even call to make sure i'm on his visit list, invasion of privacy and stuff. so i'm really not seeing where the CO was wrong....?

Jeremy's_April · #35 09-03-2009, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyBabyJoker

I can't lie.. I have trust issues too but that's because I'm VERY insecure and I'm a half MWI (long story)... plus lots of broads would go visit him in county and try and jock. I don't blame you for feeling how you did. Especially when we can't be there with them all the time, when we want, you can't help but feel slightly insecure in your relationship. Not knowing what they do when you aren't around will get to anyone. Even if you don't think about it on the daily, it's still there subconsciencely so comments like that would get to you.

the bolded part is what i'm not understanding. the CO said he's visiting with someone else. she didn't say there's some other chick visiting him right now. she didn't say he's with his girlfriend...she said someone else is visiting right now. then she asked who the OP was and what relationship (which as far as i know is STANDARD practice when you go visit someone in prison) *shrugs* maybe i just don't get it......