The Simple Pleasures of a Prison Relationship

[Resah]

Originally Posted by ojos azules

Whoa, back up the truck! You get to LICK stuff off his fingers?!?!

And I thought I had it good with what we can do.......

Yeah, girl. I don't know if there's a rule against it or not, but nobody tells us to stop, so we don't...

I mean, we try to be discrete, but sometimes, it gets good enough to put me in the mind of something else...

Resah

[Missen Him]

This thread truly had made my day

I love the fact that my man now is no longer running and hes dealing with his issues. He was on the run before he got locked up...and when hes released off these charges..hes free for goood..No more looking over his shoulder...And when he gets out he will be able to start a relationship with our new born son ....and continue that realtionship throughout his whole life. I also love the fact that he now realizes whos the one for him and whos been real all along. He said jail made him realize alot of things...but hes never once doubted he didnt love me. Im glad im able to be there for him during this time...hes gotten so close with god..and really is taking this time out as a spirtual growth...He prays 5 times a day...and is really working on his inner soul. Hes clean from drug addiction..and is able now to really face his inner demons.. in hopes to one day be free from them

[LoveBuggy]

Taking everything both big and small and being grateful for it...I think being ther for one another and being able to lift each other up when we need it....I know I am repeating what others have said already but NOT TAKING THINGS FOR GRANTED!!!

[Patty]

Fantastic thread!

I share the simple pleasures that most have posted thus far and would only add what a blessing it is to have someone in my life with whom I can feel "thiscloseto'' regardless of the physical distance between us.

All the best and then some more,
Patty

[NowHisWife]

great thread!

for me i would say being in this type of relationship with all of it's negative possibilities and still knowing in my soul that he loves me and that he's in this forever.

i also love the fact that he is completely considerate of me and the financial straits I am in and doesn't ask for much. i love that this situation has shown me this character in a way that i don't know if i would have seen it otherwise.

lastly i love that i am able to give him a place that he can depend on and feel completely safe with.

all other day to day things like mail, phone calls, visits truly make my day as well.

[niffer19]

My simple pleasures of a prison relationship...

Connecting with him a much deeper level then anyone else in my entire life.

Reading a letter from him and just being totally consumed in the moment...it feels like he is here with him when I read his letters.

Having the BEST conversations on the phone even though they are only 15 minutes long...mind you we use to spend HOURS on the phone at a time.

Cherishing every moment that we have together.

Visits...him reaching out for my hand and feeling like he is reaching out for my heart.


I woke up in such a bad mood for some reason, got on here, read this and it totally made my day. Thanks BooBoo<3!!!!

[HisHeart31]

My simple pleasures:

-I live for Saturdays. Saturdays have become our "Date days" We get to spend from 9am to 3pm together every Saturday and for those six hours time stops. Nothing else in this world matters. And we truly have fun with each other. (I've never been so good at monoply, scrabble, connect 4 and boggle.. it's kinda crazy )
-Those six hours we spend together every weekend give me enough strength to get through the next week without him

-When I open my p.o. box and theres a letter from him, when I open the letter and its a piece of paper with just the words "I Love you" on it. those make my day!

-Not taking a single second with each other (in person or on the phone) for granted.

-Suddenly those 3 words are more than just words. When he says them I feel his whole heart and soul behind it.

-Everytime that phone hangs up or we seperate in the visiting room to say goodbye i'm living off of those moments, those conversations, those feelings, to give me the courage I need to get through the next six years of this; and the same with him. we live for each other.

-I can't even hate on the NYS DOC right now.. b/c truly if it wasn't for him being incarcerated our relationship wouldn't be as strong today as it is, and we most definitely wouldn't be getting married right now. I take this bid as a positive for us, it has given us so many "Advantages" towards us as a couple. Together we are so strong, and so sure of this love that this prison bid is barely a bump in our road. The next six years is so teeny tiny compared to our big picture

Great Thread booboo<3

[PTO-189145]

LOVE these ladies!!!! what great words girls! I love our devotion to our men!

[PEN PAL 2 FEW]

It's like an old fashioned romance, being able to only communicate via paper and pen, I've learned to appreciate the small things, and how happy I get when I see a letter from him to love someone so deeply, so strongly, and knowing it is true love, not someone that I slept with before I got to know, this is the first relationship that I have ever had where there hasn't been any physical intmacy, and how just looking at him through glass gives me such massive butterflies
It's about treasuring every moment in visit, every I love you, every smile, it has really changed me and the person that I am, knowing that this kind of love only can happen once in a lifetime

[PEN PAL 2 FEW]

Originally Posted by BooBoo<3

We all read about the terrible aspects of our relationships...the lonely nights..the expensive calls/visits..and the heartache. But what about the great things?..I find myself overcome with joy sometimes...just happy to be with him. Even though we cant physically be together right now..we're emotionally connected every minute of everyday. In a way I'm "content" (thanks akaptrosa!!! )...Why don't we concentrate on the positive sides of our relationship...so lets hear it.

The Simple Pleasures of a Prison Relationship:

* Hearing the words "i love you" and actually feeling the truth behind it

* Developing a strong relationship based on emotions, not physical need.

* It gives "reasurrance" a deeper, more true meaning.

* Never, EVER taking one single moment for granted..learning to appreciate the company of one another

* Holding his hand, and realizing that in that moment of time you're connected beyond words.

* The kiss "goodbye" is always meaningful and heartfelt. As if the entire love felt in the relationship is put into one single kiss.

* The mail brightens any day

* Creating life goals, and learning life's lessons....together

* Maintaining a strong bond, based on friendship and loyalty

* The phone calls, and how you actually cherish them.

* Being grateful for one another..in good times..and in bad.

* Understanding that this is the way things have to be for now.. and holding on to the future.


We all know that this whole prison relationship isn't all negative. We are strong women...lets concentrate on some of the positives!


What are your simple pleasures?...

Great Thread Sweetie!!!!!

[ariggle_07]

We have learned to LOVE, TRUST, RESPECT, APPRECIATE ONE ANOTHER AND WHAT WE HAVE. HONESTY AND COMMUNICATION HAS REACHED NEW HEIGHTS. WE'RE BUILDING A STRONGER FOUNDATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP FOR NOW AND THE FUTURE

[keysgirl]

OMG This post brought tears to my eyes. The positive far outweighs the negative...

being loved so totally, completely and unconditionally unlike anything I have ever experienced before

loving him so hard making me wonder if I have ever really been in love before

how he can be on one and all I have to do is say, "I'm sorry Daddy" and he's speechless

how I can hear him smiling

trusting him with my life and my heart

intimacy that is better than any sex I've ever had

in 5 days and a wake up, after 350 days, we will have our contact visits back, OMG...I haven't touched my husband in almost a year

Thanks BooBoo for the post

[mrsfoote]

I feel you KB - Friday night at midnight is defintely our simple pleasure.

[kare bear]

Originally Posted by KandValways

The best thing for me that has happened and what I cherish the most from this experience, is that we have really learned to communicate with each other. Kind of a necessity really, because if ALL you have is communication than you better do it well. For the sake of our relationship we both had to learn to do it better. In turn our relationship has been stronger than before he went in.

I have to agree that our relationship did the same thing....that was the one positive definately that has come out of this. I think if he hadn't went in the lines of communication wouldn't be as open and deep as they are now.

[crazycasey183]

Great Thread.....Thinking of the Positive things help me make it threw the day....Thanks for that.....

[badd bxtch]

One simple pleasure that I appreciate, is falling in love.

When you are out in the world & have the ability to see eachother on a daily basis.. you get confused about what you feel. Are you really in LOVE with this person, or are you just so used to their presence that you don't want it to change?

With a man that's incarcerated.. you truly find that answer. Ain't no way you are gonna stick around and write a man for 3, 5, 10 years.. even life just because you are 'used to him' or 'can't deal with change right now'. It is a test of love & loyalty.. the 2 most important factors in a relationship.

[HisHeart31]

Originally Posted by badd bxtch

One simple pleasure that I appreciate, is falling in love.

When you are out in the world & have the ability to see eachother on a daily basis.. you get confused about what you feel. Are you really in LOVE with this person, or are you just so used to their presence that you don't want it to change?

With a man that's incarcerated.. you truly find that answer. Ain't no way you are gonna stick around and write a man for 3, 5, 10 years.. even life just because you are 'used to him' or 'can't deal with change right now'. It is a test of love & loyalty.. the 2 most important factors in a relationship.

I love how you said this badd bxtch! Your absolutely right! a lot of people stay together for the convenience of the relationship and fearing that change without that person. Not that i love that my man is locked up, but for the sake of our relationship, i've never had a deeper connection with anyone in my life. I hate having to miss him but i LOVE having him to miss! well said for sure!!

[Our journey]

Such a wonderful and uplifting post....THANKS!

[Resah]

Originally Posted by PEN PAL 2 FEW

It's like an old fashioned romance, being able to only communicate via paper and pen,

Yeah... that's true. Something about the barriers/distance and having to write out how you feel slows everything down and makes it all the more warm and sensual -- in spite of everything.

[outinaussie]

learning what unconditional love truly means..
being there on his journey into becoming the man he was meant to be..
having someone help me/support me/encourage me to grow in every aspect of my life..
bonding with someone mentally & spiritually...
that joy you get from loving being in love... a happiness that seriously from the heart..
enjoying all the lil things people take for granted in relationships out here..
being adored, respected & loved for just being me...

[BJ'sWife0718]

Awsome Thread!!!!!

I think one of the biggest "Benifits" of a prison relationship is getting a true understanding of the word "commitment". So many get married and leave when the relationship gets a little tough. throught this experience we have found a trust and faith in eachother that we will survive anything. We now know that both of us mean it when we say "Come hell or high water, I' ain't going anywhere". We now how to pick up the slack when the other is strugling. We have learned true interdependence on eachother. We have developed a love that is strong enough to break thru walls and bars, 800 miles, days of no phone calls...to be able to still feel it at random points during the day and know he is thinking about you right now, even with all those obsicles is so amazing. I love my husband more today than i did yeasterday, and I'm sure it shall continue that way. I LOVE you Baby! 84 more days!!!!!!

[Val912]

omg booboo <3 you always know what to say to brighten my day!! your thread totally brightened my day and totally cheered me up. thanks @

my simple pleasure: that last minute when the phone starts to beep and no matter the topic you hurry and say your goodbyes and the i love you's

and my wonderful letters i get tues - sat that proves that this relationship is worth all the negativity it comes across and that hes worth waiting for.

[Pretty Toes]

I am thankful for my daily calls!! I would never give them up! I love to hear that sexy ass voice especially first thing in the morning when its all raspy.....sigh..
I love how he looks at me and smiles. I love his laugh and how I can make him laugh over silly things!!
I love my man!!

[Stephen's girl]

I love that we get a unique opportunity to REALLY get to know one another better without so many other things getting in the way. We knew each other well before, but we've both gotten to know very different sides of each other that we might not have otherwise gotten to learn as much about

Great thread!!! I love POSITIVE threads!! I feel ya' it's hard being away from him but I'm deliriously happy to be with him and have him in my life, so I feel joy and happiness OFTEN

[hannahtomn]

*loving someone so deeply that the sound of his voice makes me smile.

*to have a connection with him that we have the ability to say things without talking.. To feel what each other's hearts are thinking.

*seeing a letter in the P.O. Box.

*when the phones get left on and I get a surprise phone call when I'm tucked away in bed.

*knowing that in T minus (enter # here) days I can HOLD my man.

*smelling his cologne on his shirts.

*knowing that it only gets easier from here. And that half the couples out there could never do what us prison/jail wives are doing. Knowing that makes us both feel so confident in our relationship.

*(someone else already said it) suddenly hearing/seeing those three little words takes on a whole new meaning.