How do you initiate your "special" conversations on the phone?

[thatgirl_78]

Okay, so I'm a little embarassed to be asking advice on this one but here it goes. I know this is a PG site, so I'll try to keep it simple. First off, by no means are me and my husband conservative when it comes to our sex life. Name it and we've done it (except for inviting a third party in...thats just a no-no). For some reason, I just can bring myself to talk dirty to him on the phone. I don't know why, I just can't. And believe that sexy raspy voice he has turns me on after the first word comes out his mouth. I think I'm too afraid someone is listening to us. So maybe you gals can help, how do you navigate your conversations to get to the juicy stuff.

[NoOne1994]

We plan 'those' conversations so he can get to the phone when minimal people are in the phone area.

We both know all of our conversations are recorded and there's a good chance someone could be listening. Neither of us care. He's more concerned with other people in the phone area and I'm more worried about my kids coming in the room. I guess if you both are freaks, think of it like a performance? Or think of it like competition 'I wanna be sexier than the last caller the operator had to listen to!'. Sometimes after the line cuts off I think 'I know I taught that person something new today'

I don't know? Close your eyes, let the rest of the world stand still and imagine its just you and him

That's all I got!

[ambeeeezy]

I think what NoOne said is exactly it. Think of it like a performance if you have to. Or you can be coy & tell him you might be doing something on your end & if he wants to talk you through it, that'd be nice. Either way, he'll enjoying just knowing that you're "pleasuring yourself" in his "presence."

[Justme12]

Thank you for starting this thread because I honestly want to know how other women approach this too.

[MZKELLOGS]

i dont give a hoot if anyones listerning, being honest i kinda like it
if you know when he gonna call get your self worked up befor so when you hit the button to accept your so fired up it just all blurts out, then your off to the races!

[Lorraine]

I like to start with my favorite line... So, what are you wearing?? Lol.

[mrs.bug]

Originally Posted by Lori1817

I like to start with my favorite line... So, what are you wearing?? Lol.

OMG I like you. You always make me laugh, whoooooo...

Well I happen to have a fresh memory in my mind as we participated in this lovely activity this morning...

He was just talking on and on and I stopped him dead in his tracks and said "Mmmm... baby?" in my best sexy voice. Everything went quiet and he said "Yes?" then I told him where my hand was and he said "Oh mami" and we were off!

Where he is we can't actually do it "together" because he's in a dorm and there are 50 other guys around, so he has to take care of himself while he's in the shower (alone and hidden) or in his bunk. I gave him quite a lot to think about later though. *wink* Usually he doesn't like phone sex because his...ummm... gets... yea, and he doesn't want other dudes to see him like that. He had to bend down while he was on the phone today to conceal it, lol. He called three times in a row and when he called back the third time he said "Man baby I had to dial while I was bent down, it looked really weird." Ha!

[Lorraine]

Lmao! I'm glad to hear that phone fun is no longer out of the question

My guy is lucky because the phones in all his units so far have been somewhat hidden. At his current unit, they are behind like a 4ft wall and placed so low to the ground that the guys literally have to sit or kneel on the floor to use them It has turned out to be a good thing though, he actually has quite a bit of privacy and we can play together all we want now

[mrs.bug]

Originally Posted by Lori1817

Lmao! I'm glad to hear that phone fun is no longer out of the question

My guy is lucky because the phones in all his units so far have been somewhat hidden. At his current unit, they are behind like a 4ft wall and placed so low to the ground that the guys literally have to sit or kneel on the floor to use them It has turned out to be a good thing though, he actually has quite a bit of privacy and we can play together all we want now

Seems like that works out nicely. I'd love to hear my man reach that point... ya know what I'm saying, tee hee.

[thatgirl_78]

Okay, so I've read everyones comments and I'll just have to get up enough courage to start something I guess. It's sooo weird because I'm never this timid and I would have thought maybe he would have maybe got something started, but I think it's more exciting in the visiting room than on the phone.

[mrs.bug]

Originally Posted by thatgirl_78

Okay, so I've read everyones comments and I'll just have to get up enough courage to start something I guess. It's sooo weird because I'm never this timid and I would have thought maybe he would have maybe got something started, but I think it's more exciting in the visiting room than on the phone.

I wish we could get closer during visits! TDC does a great job of making sure we never get any form of privacy, of course! We have to sit across the table from one another and are only allowed a brief hug/kiss at the beginning and end of each visit. Of course we always abuse that, not intentionally it's just once you start hugging and kissing how can you be expected to pull away?

I guess a good way to get him started over the phone would be to say something about how you are naked lying in bed, or how you just got out of the shower and you're all wet... something suggestive without having to say "Hey doofas I'd like to phone nookie please."

[tsbaby5109]

Originally Posted by mrs.bug

I wish we could get closer during visits! TDC does a great job of making sure we never get any form of privacy, of course! We have to sit across the table from one another and are only allowed a brief hug/kiss at the beginning and end of each visit. Of course we always abuse that, not intentionally it's just once you start hugging and kissing how can you be expected to pull away?

I guess a good way to get him started over the phone would be to say something about how you are naked lying in bed, or how you just got out of the shower and you're all wet... something suggestive without having to say "Hey doofas I'd like to phone nookie please."

"Hey doofas I'd like to phone nookie please."[/ LMAO!!!

[Pretty Toes]

He usually starts it by asking me things and I am always all shy but lately I have been jumping on the band wagon!!! We talk dirty to each other in visitation too...
sigh.. what I wouldnt do for 15 mins of alone time....

[timsbabygirl]

My husband and I both have our own approach. He listens really closely and if he doesn't hear the little one, he will ask where she is and if he is feeling frisky and I tell him she is sleeping or outside playing or something, he is in no way shy, he simply says "hey ya wanna get naked"
Me on the other hand, I am a little shy about it, and I hint around. I tell him I am all alone in the house and he already knows what that means and if he is on a bad phone he will tell me that he has to change phones and call right back. But we are way past worrying about people listening. He says we give them their thrill for the day.

[Justme12]

Originally Posted by He's girl

He usually starts it by asking me things and I am always all shy but lately I have been jumping on the band wagon!!! We talk dirty to each other in visitation too...
sigh.. what I wouldnt do for 15 mins of alone time....

I am shy when it comes to this too and just lately have really started trying to open up in this way. I always feel so, IDK...out of my comfort zone. It's not about anyone listening though, I could care less about that. But I want to be more open in this way with my man. So, keep the thread rollin', I might learn a thing or two... lol.

[NoOne1994]

Justme12, do you write sexy letters to him? If not, start there. Some find it easier to break free in a letter. If you have written sexy letters, use those letters as the diving board and go wild. If you've only received sexy letters and never returned them, then use his material for a backdrop.

What has mentally helped me is putting myself in his position. I also make an attempt to knock his socks off and make him wanting more. Also, telling him (in EXTREME detail) what I want him to do to me and what I'm going to do to him. It actually takes on a life of its own. You'll be surprised how much help he is. Who knows, maybe he won't shut up and you'll reap the benefits

[#1AndOnly]

It's either in our voices for those "surprise" times or we plan it, he'll warn me. Babe, I'm calling you in the morning and you better not have a damn thing on that frame of yours ! LOL

[Justme12]

Originally Posted by NoOne1994

Justme12, do you write sexy letters to him? If not, start there. Some find it easier to break free in a letter. If you have written sexy letters, use those letters as the diving board and go wild. If you've only received sexy letters and never returned them, then use his material for a backdrop.

What has mentally helped me is putting myself in his position. I also make an attempt to knock his socks off and make him wanting more. Also, telling him (in EXTREME detail) what I want him to do to me and what I'm going to do to him. It actually takes on a life of its own. You'll be surprised how much help he is. Who knows, maybe he won't shut up and you'll reap the benefits

Hey thanks! He has written me a sexy letter and I am planning on sending him back. I thought that would be the easiest place for me to find a "free" voice in that way.

[thatgirl_78]

Ugh... he just called and I tried to bait into it when he asked, what are you doin? So I answered "layin in bed thinkin bout you". How much more obvious could I have been???? This is the most sensual man I have ever known in my life. We average no less than three times a day when he was home. And now nothing but let us be in the visiting room, and its "hey babe, feel something for me or wear a dress the next visit!!!!" Pretty soon I'm gonna have to say "hey doofas, I want some phone nookie!!!" LMAO BTW, I've done the sexy letter thing, had him creamin' in his boxers, so I don't know what to try next.

[IluvJP4life]

Originally Posted by thatgirl_78

Ugh... he just called and I tried to bait into it when he asked, what are you doin? So I answered "layin in bed thinkin bout you". How much more obvious could I have been???? This is the most sensual man I have ever known in my life. We average no less than three times a day when he was home. And now nothing but let us be in the visiting room, and its "hey babe, feel something for me or wear a dress the next visit!!!!" Pretty soon I'm gonna have to say "hey doofas, I want some phone nookie!!!" LMAO BTW, I've done the sexy letter thing, had him creamin' in his boxers, so I don't know what to try next.

I know how you feel. I have been trying for at least a year and have gotten NO WHERE!!! Since he was'nt getting the point while we were talking I went so far to tell him in a letter point blank "I WANT TO HAVE PHONE SEX w/ you" .... this was a month ago and he has said not a damn thing.

He did'nt even mention that I expressed my desires for it. He is really hurting my feelings and making me feel so rejected.

I feel like he doesnt want me. I have read dozens of threads here on phone sex and have noticed that every female who wants it from their man is getting it but not me I dont get it ... we're adults ... I'm 28 .. he's 31 ... we've been together for years ... what the hell is his problem????

[MZKELLOGS]

Originally Posted by thatgirl_78

Ugh... he just called and I tried to bait into it when he asked, what are you doin? So I answered "layin in bed thinkin bout you". How much more obvious could I have been???? This is the most sensual man I have ever known in my life. We average no less than three times a day when he was home. And now nothing but let us be in the visiting room, and its "hey babe, feel something for me or wear a dress the next visit!!!!" Pretty soon I'm gonna have to say "hey doofas, I want some phone nookie!!!" LMAO BTW, I've done the sexy letter thing, had him creamin' in his boxers, so I don't know what to try next.

ok next time he says "what are you doing" just come out with it girl say "im playing with ......." then say something along the lines of " i really miss it when you used to ........" then go to work dont wait for his answers just start moaning!!

[thatgirl_78]

Originally Posted by MZKELLOGS

ok next time he says "what are you doing" just come out with it girl say "im playing with ......." then say something along the lines of " i really miss it when you used to ........" then go to work dont wait for his answers just start moaning!!

OH MY!!!! LMAO!!!! He probably wouldn't know what to say.

[HoNeYiLoVeU]

mane when me and moe are on the phone he is like baby can you do that thang for me please me i get all silly but im like ok baby and so I get right to the point after that girl i am moanin and groanin and doing my thang and while I am pleasin myself he is tellin me that he loves me and that he wants a taste lol he tells me to give him a kiss and just anything sexual and when he sees me he is going to pull my hair. mane that shit right there turns me on cause i like to picture my hair gettin pulled. anyhow we have plenty fun... he knows when im about to or when i have by the way i sound...he loves it and all i can say is dont worry bout anyone but him and only him. ps/he does remember to pull my hair at visit

[mrs.bug]

Originally Posted by IluvJP4life

I know how you feel. I have been trying for at least a year and have gotten NO WHERE!!! Since he was'nt getting the point while we were talking I went so far to tell him in a letter point blank "I WANT TO HAVE PHONE SEX w/ you" .... this was a month ago and he has said not a damn thing.

He did'nt even mention that I expressed my desires for it. He is really hurting my feelings and making me feel so rejected.

I feel like he doesnt want me. I have read dozens of threads here on phone sex and have noticed that every female who wants it from their man is getting it but not me I dont get it ... we're adults ... I'm 28 .. he's 31 ... we've been together for years ... what the hell is his problem????

I told Bug that sometimes it hurts my feeling because I feel like he doesn't want to talk about sex, and he tried to explain to me that as a man when you get turned on and there's no release that it actually physically hurts. I remember one time when he was in county we had a little phone nookie but he was in front of everyone so it wasn't like he could touch himself, and he actually started to cry afterwards. He said he gets so emotional when we do things like that because it only reminds him how much he really wants to be with me... he gets so worked up only to be let down time and time again.

So maybe that's what's up with your man. Some of them would just as soon not even think about sex because they know they can't have it.

[thatgirl_78]

Originally Posted by mrs.bug

I told Bug that sometimes it hurts my feeling because I feel like he doesn't want to talk about sex, and he tried to explain to me that as a man when you get turned on and there's no release that it actually physically hurts. I remember one time when he was in county we had a little phone nookie but he was in front of everyone so it wasn't like he could touch himself, and he actually started to cry afterwards. He said he gets so emotional when we do things like that because it only reminds him how much he really wants to be with me... he gets so worked up only to be let down time and time again.

So maybe that's what's up with your man. Some of them would just as soon not even think about sex because they know they can't have it.

Sounds good, but you can best believe I'm gonna ask him at the visit on Sunday. Knowin him, he'll say something sweet or genuine and make me feel like a big insensitive loser for grillin him about phone sex. I guess I'm just being frustrated because we have intimate moments during our visits, but still would be nice to release, if ya know what I mean.