Explaining to others how you can love an inmate

[cwmram]

I am a strong-willed person anyway and I think those that know me, know better than to ask me something that would tick me off!!! My love for Chuckie is ever present and his for me goes without question. I am proud of our love and I am very proud of my husband - the love of a good women is what is behind a lot of men that come home and never get into any trouble! I don't feel that I need to explain my reasons for doing anything. God blessed me with this man and I am totally committed and IN LOVE with my soulmate!!

Much Love
Becki

[Care9]

When my [former, lol] closest friend asked me "Why do you want to marry him?" and "Why do you love him?" and of course the "Why would you want to stay with him?" I gave it a lot of thought and the ONLY answer I have to those kinds of questions is "Because I cannot think of ONE reason not to." That has really been my only answer because its true and there is absolutely no way anyone can refute it even if they try. "But he's in prison." is the usual one. "Yes" I say, "very observant of you. Definitely an inconvenience, but not a reason to NOT love him." (etc.)
As for when people have said "But what if he doesn't make parole?" I say......"But what if he DOES?!?" And if they say "But what if your marriage doesn't last?" And I say the same thing "But what if it DOES?!?!" Or "But what if its not really true love?" (????) (what a dumb thing to say but I've certainly been asked this.) And I just smile and say.........(you guessed it) "BUT WHAT IF IT IS??!?!?!?"

I don't really mind answering people when I perceive that they really are curious and they've asked with a kindness. But there are always the ones who really are asking only because they want to debate the issue. You know what they say about "politics and religion" ~~ Well, I like to add one more to the things I won't debate with someone else: Politics, Religion and Who I love and why" :-)

Stand strong ~ Remember Who You Are. Not who others want you to be, or who others expect you to be, or even who others think you should be. Remember who you really are................

Care

[jasonsmyhoney]

I Know Watcha Mean, And Unfortunatley We Women Who Wait For Our Men Get Pecked With Those Kinds Of Questions Always. But The Thing Is You Should Just Tell His Brother That You Love Your Man And That You Wanna Be Down For Him. No Relationship Is Ever Picture Perfect And Incarceration Is Just A Situation That We Deal With, But It Shouldnt Mean You Love Him Any Less. If You Love Your Man Despite Of What Anyone Says, Stand By Him. Your Love Could Be The Greatest Defense He Has From The Cold Outside World While He's In Jail. Keep Your Head Up Girl!

[DTAYLOR008]

Thanks everyone for responding. My man has been in for 2 years now and I have been there since day one and I am not going anywhere. I just can not help but get frustrated with the fact that people here in the "free world" don't understand our love and that I can't discuss it with anyone. I am sick of hearing the day to day details of co-workers relationships, etc. What me and my man have is way more special but I have to sort of lock it all up inside. (no wonder he gets 10 page letters a day from me! ) Its not a perfect world, but I am not the type to hide my love away. I am not ashamed of my man at all- he is the most beautiful, intelligent, thoughtful, insightful and perfect man I know- sure I would LOVE for him to be here in the free world, but the fact that he is not does not make my love for him vanish. True love never dies. I am so glad to have this group. If I didn't have you girls I don't know what I would do. Bless all of you.