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PhilsWifey4Lyfe · #1 05-10-2010, 05:18 PM

First i want too introduce myself because some of you dont know me. I am Ashley. My husband is in prison. we got married there Oct. 2nd 2009.. welll lately i have been thinking about something .. my husbands prison doesnt have family visits... they are on the odd / even visits... i only get to go the ODD day of the weekend but my question is...

would you give up visits every weekend if that ment having only one family/overnight weekend visit every few months ?

thugwife · #2 05-10-2010, 06:07 PM

HELL YEAH!!!

I dont go every weekend because I cant afford to, and I probably wouldnt anyways if I could because I get only one day off a week. Back when I was dirt poor (when he first went in) I would drive 30+ miles 3 x a week to see him for 15-20 minutes. I dont know HOW or WHY I done that.

My husband said he would SERVE OUT, if the got one sex visit

a YEAR!

Rosr Mary · #3 05-10-2010, 06:10 PM

Call me old fashioned, but our first time will not be on prison grounds.E ven tho we'll be married soon, he'll still have to court/ date me on in the free world before he goes to bed with me .And besides we BOTH need our weekly visits.

loveispatient13 · #4 05-10-2010, 06:22 PM

I wanna say yes cuz DAM i miss SEX

HOWEVER...

I happen to visit just about every weekend or every other, i prefer to see him more frequently than to see him once to just have sex...We communicate a lot thru out our visits, i would hate to lose that time. Cuz chances our during the over night visit there would be no talking lol!!

timsbaby41 · #5 05-10-2010, 06:23 PM

Hell yes !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jeswannabhiswyf · #6 05-10-2010, 06:24 PM

N A Heartbeat!!!!!

richieslady · #7 05-10-2010, 06:27 PM

My man & me will be getting married soon i would give anything for familey visit but he cant get them i hate it he got 30 years but i love him he worth the wait

reesesbosslady · #8 05-10-2010, 07:02 PM

well my husband has 18 years and i drive from new york to maryland 2 to 3 times a month. It would be alot less tiresome on me if we could have family visits. But maryland doesnt have them anyway.

Pretty Toes · #9 05-10-2010, 07:02 PM

oh yea....u know i am a virgin again. lol

harasubam · #10 05-10-2010, 07:12 PM

sex is not everything ,i would rather have the visits, i dont go every week anyway even though i could but i care more about visiting to talk and fill him in on little life joys he is missing so he can feel apart of things.however we are a bit older, not trying to have children or anything ,if we were young and trying for a family then ide think differently.

thugwife · #11 05-10-2010, 07:49 PM

Sex may not be everything, but it is something, if you aint getting any

iloveyoumore · #12 05-10-2010, 07:58 PM

Of course I would give up weekly visits for family visits. I don't go see him every week or every other week anyway. It is too expensive and too far.

LovingDana · #13 05-10-2010, 08:08 PM

No way! Although my babe only has 6 years to serve. If it were longer I would say yes. I am still new to this whole thing though so ask me again in a year!

cldom · #14 05-10-2010, 08:18 PM

Yes i would give up wkly visits for fam visits every few mos. He is constantly on lockdown at his prison anyway. Often times I only see him once every few wks anyway. Plus, the wait time, stress, drama, nonsense, inconsistency of the rules for visitor processing at his prison is so incredibly draining anyway. We get fam visits evry 6 wks.

*BellaEstrella* · #15 05-10-2010, 08:48 PM

I would say no, to keep our weekend visits, but he would say yes to the family visits. We.re young, and neither has kids. We want to start a family.

teebomm · #16 05-10-2010, 08:52 PM

i think if i had the opportunity to have ANY visits with my man, i would most likely take what i can get get because i miss him so much. if i were given overnight family visits with him, i sure the heck wouldnt be wastign it having sex. something a little more intimate is so much better and feels stronger than a sleezy sack minute. considering the lengthy time that my mans been in, or anyones man for that matter, would you seriously consider dreaming of the perfect sex scene with your man, and then bang 2 minutes later its over? i mean common ladies, how would you all feel about somethign like that???? consider all there pent up stress, and not doing anythign to themselves, and here us ladies have the freedom to do what we please to ourselves without feeling shadowed by other people. nopers. i wouls rather be able to look at my man in the eyes and just stare at him and not even have to say anything, because our hearts are truly one. having him wrap his arms around me again, id melt. but i wouldnt have sex just because i have the chance to. that just wouldnt be fair. id rather wait the whoever long its gonna be till hes out for that. intimacy is SO much more than sex.

PTO-79211 · #17 05-10-2010, 09:46 PM

My husband and I get family visits...and yes...I would give up seeing him every weekend for the family visits. For us...it actually saves money to just have family visits than to spend the money for regular visits. Plus...you get to be alone with your love and not have all the restrictions you would have normally...so its totally worth it. Especially if you get them every month...than you are not waiting a long time to see them again

31310Mrs.V · #18 05-10-2010, 10:38 PM

HELL YES in a heartbeat Lmao;;i see him every single weekend and he just makes it harder and harder for the both of us haha.BUT i am waiting on the marrige papers right now =] hes only maybe 1 1/2 to 2hours away from me

PhilsWifey4Lyfe · #19 05-10-2010, 11:08 PM

i want to thank all you ladies for replying.. it means a lot.. and you all have mentioneed everything that i have thought about.... i get too se my husband every weekend.... i am penny pinching pretty much right now to see him... my husbands prison doesnt have family visits but i think it might make things better if we got to have that time alone...MAINLY because every visit they seem too "pick" on us because we are newlyweds and whatever and they think we are going to have sex right there on the table... YET...... there are people jerking there men off, or fingering each other... im just sick of getting treated like crap every visit... it makes me not want to go there at all.... which of course is putting stress on me and my husband.... grr

WIFEYGARCIA · #20 05-11-2010, 12:17 AM

my husband & i just had our 1st fam bam visit & it was way better then reg visit.he's far & i would rather drive all that way for a fam visit then just a reg visit.

PrettyBluLuv · #21 05-11-2010, 12:40 AM

YES! I see him once a week right now cause he is still in "county" but will be seeing him at min 2 to 3 times a week until he gets sent upstate... If I only got ONE 24 hour visit every few months I would take it in a heart beat! Not to sound like a fend but I MISS HIM!!!!!!!!!! He is banking on those visits but I'm not cause I don't know if they will happen. I WISH I had an ABSOLUTE!!!!!!!

Snaps_wifey · #22 05-11-2010, 01:32 AM

Well I am one of the fortunate ones who do get Family Visits as a matter of fact I have one this Saturday....and I must say that they are lovely. To my husband and I, it is more than just a time to have sex...don't get me wrong, being able to is a + but that's not all that we look forward to! FVs gives us the opportunity to spend quality time with each other, just laying in each others arm without having to worry about a damn CO looking at us crazy trying to say that we're violating the "excessive contact" rule! It gives us the chance to just chill, relax and have fun with each other like we use to do before he got locked up!

Hisoneandonly · #23 05-11-2010, 06:28 AM

OH heck yes, esepcially after the xrated dream of him I had last night lol..

I only get to see him once a month as it is so I would have no problem with that. zTo bad VA won't let that happen.

Ladybug417 · #24 05-11-2010, 07:02 AM

I don't get weekly visits becuz he is in NY & I live on GA. Thankfully he is in a FRP facility. We drop our application on Monday. I have been fortunate to see him at least every 3 months or so. Its not planned just when I can juggle cash around. Our last visit was stressful. He and I have never been intimate so now that we are married its par for the course. I told myself I didn't really want to come back until we could get approved for our visits and have much needed private time. I have liked this guy since I was 15! I'm now 36 and I am so in love, but it goes far beyond that. I pray he makes boards in 2011...oh how wonderful that would be.

PhilsWifey4Lyfe · #25 05-11-2010, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Ladybug417

I don't get weekly visits becuz he is in NY & I live on GA. Thankfully he is in a FRP facility. We drop our application on Monday. I have been fortunate to see him at least every 3 months or so. Its not planned just when I can juggle cash around. Our last visit was stressful. He and I have never been intimate so now that we are married its par for the course. I told myself I didn't really want to come back until we could get approved for our visits and have much needed private time. I have liked this guy since I was 15! I'm now 36 and I am so in love, but it goes far beyond that. I pray he makes boards in 2011...oh how wonderful that would be.

i have known my husband since i was 11... he was 16... of course nothign was happening then ... i actually never even liked him... but we knew each other threw my cousin and his brother who WERE married... we never ever been intimATE at all.. but i couldnt be more in love with him .. he makes me so happy... its not that i even want the family visits just for sex.... just to be able to cuddle with him like the lady a few posts up said... just to be able too hold each other without the co's saying we are violating the touchin rule would be great! I... I get to see my husband every weekend... but i think i would gladly give up every weekend ( basically beCAUSE we aer always getting picked onn every weekend because we just got married in oct ) just too have family visits..