For those who got married in prison, question about visits?

[Kaylynn]

honestly I would say hell yes to the giving up visits to get laid once lol just for the fact I havent seen him since he went in 6 months ago and he only has 6 left. XD

[j&c<3]

i would bc we communicate alot through the phone and letters...so i would love to do it and bc it also hard for me to visit bc of work and i can save miles on my car..lol

[Tahnzie]

Originally Posted by thugwife

Sex may not be everything, but it is something, if you aint getting any

Kinda like money.. the only ones who think it isnt important are the ones who have a lot of it...

I dont know what I'd do.. probably whichever he wanted... I'd feel kind of strange having sex in a prison.. but hell, at this point I'd probably feel kind of strange having sex ANYWHERE!!

Tahnzie

[31310Mrs.V]

im waiting on my marrige papers right now and man he cant see his counselor fast enough.sex i believe is a big part of a relationship,not everything but i would also LOVE to be able to just lay in bed with him and not worry about anything<3 we get pretty x-rated up in the visiting room lmao but not to the point to where its nasty you know.I miss him,cant wait to see him this weekend. =]

[LadiOutkast]

I Got Married Feb. 21, 2009 n Prison...When The last Time I was On A Family Visit N November They decided 2 Make an Appointment System. I was goin on regular visits when there wasnt an appointment system.I Will NOt Go On Regular Visits becuz Now Calipatria Has An Appointment System. I Don't Wnt 2 Make An Appointment 2 C My Hubby So Now, I Just Go On FAM VISITS...

[Snaps_wifey]

Originally Posted by Tahnzie

I'd feel kind of strange having sex in a prison..

Tahnzie

Actually to be honest, once you're in the unit and it's just you and him, you kinda forget that you are in a prison until it's count time! My husband's prison doesn't start count until the evening time! So when I go for my FV Saturday, I'll check in @ 9:30 am, my husband will probably get to the unit around 10-10:30 depending on how slow the COs are moving that day! Then we will be left alone til around 6 p.m. for the 1st count...then after that count is about every 3 hrs (6 p.m, 9 p.m, 12 a.m, 3 a.m. and 5 a.m.)....on Sunday after the 5 a.m. count we won't be bothered again until 6 p.m. So with that being said, the worse part of the FV is the damn count times during the middle of the night but they are so worth the hassle when it comes to being able to spend time with him!

[justcurious2009]

Sorry but after years of wanting someone so bad...I'd have sleezy sack sex if I could

Originally Posted by teebomm

i think if i had the opportunity to have ANY visits with my man, i would most likely take what i can get get because i miss him so much. if i were given overnight family visits with him, i sure the heck wouldnt be wastign it having sex. something a little more intimate is so much better and feels stronger than a sleezy sack minute. considering the lengthy time that my mans been in, or anyones man for that matter, would you seriously consider dreaming of the perfect sex scene with your man, and then bang 2 minutes later its over? i mean common ladies, how would you all feel about somethign like that???? consider all there pent up stress, and not doing anythign to themselves, and here us ladies have the freedom to do what we please to ourselves without feeling shadowed by other people. nopers. i wouls rather be able to look at my man in the eyes and just stare at him and not even have to say anything, because our hearts are truly one. having him wrap his arms around me again, id melt. but i wouldnt have sex just because i have the chance to. that just wouldnt be fair. id rather wait the whoever long its gonna be till hes out for that. intimacy is SO much more than sex.

[lily_14]

yes yes yes i def. would!!!!!!!!!!!!lol.

[gabbygirl372001]

I only visit every other weekend....and yes...I have family visits coming up next month! Yeah!!!

[Neda36]

Where do u ppl live? MA doesn't have "family" visits... WTF I thought it was nationwide

[PhilsWifey4Lyfe]

Originally Posted by Neda36

Where do u ppl live? MA doesn't have "family" visits... WTF I thought it was nationwide

i live in ny. my husbands prison doesnt have them... but man sdo i wish they did

[spunkysgrl]

I would give up regular visits to have family visits. I wish my state would allow family visits. I believe every state should have that for married couples.

[lilitalymix]

If the economy wasn't bad I would say no. I use to go see him every chance I had like every other weekend to once a month, Now I'm lucky to see him once evey 2 months-----so yes I would give up my reg. visits for a family visit anyday. Havn't even gotten one of those , so u know I'm excited!!!!

[miss_b]

wat is family visit?? explain pls. and do they have it in fci loretto? and do we have to be married to have family visit? or just girlfrend? its the first time. ive never visited prison. my man jus went in. im waiting for visitation approval. which will probably take months im guessing?

[Marcos Girl]

Well Im new to this system my man is doing 29yrs and he wants to get married so we could have more rights but i dont really know any information so can someone fill me in?

[vicky59]

No i have a question? How do u get married in prison? N also can i send care packages to my man in reception

[decoprincess]

Overnite weekend visit vs weekly.
Hands down, yes.

[TheMissez]

I wouldn't give up my weekly visits for a family visit. I NEED to see my baby every week. But we're getting married next month anyway so owwwww!

[deonsgirl]

I would definitely give up weekend visits!!

[Forever&aDay]

I've thought about this a lot because I still have a few more years to go with my baby. I really don't want the first time we're together after all these years to be in a situation where we have to leave one another. I mean, we gave our virginity to one another and it's sort of like we're gonna get to do that again so I would like it to be as special as possible.

[Comet]

I would give up weekly visits for Family visits if we had them, but it wouldn't be for the intent of just sex. It would be to spend some time alone with him. To Cuddle up to him and talk to him freely. At this point though I'll take anything...still waiting on my visitation approval and haven't seen him or heard his voice since 5/26

[HisElizabeth]

Where my husband is the max I can visit is twice a month and that gets so hard he puts in for merit visits so I can go up an extra time every month. Even knowing we do that, I would still give them up if I could have an overnight visit instead, even if it was only every 2 months or so. Of course yes the sex would be a factor but really it would be the time and environment that would make me choose that. I talk to him daily and write him constantly but to wake up in his arms, to kiss him whenever I want, to just get to BE with him without gaurds down our necks and crowded visiting rooms and such small amounts of time to talk.....that would be heaven.

[Temeron0926]

Ray is in a state that does have family visits. I can (if I didn't work and could afford it) see him Friday nights, Saturday days, Sunday nights and Monday days (The visits are 3.5 hours). Tho we are not married yet, but will by around October, IF it was possible to have family visits (that will be argued with DOC at a later date), I wouldn't give my weekly visits up for that. As much as I would LOVE to have family visits, where he is they are about every 5 weeks and you get 22 hours.......not even a full day. So to give up the opportunity to see him every weekend (4X sometimes) to only be able to see him every 5th week............nah....he wouldn't like it either.

[prodicaldaugter]

Although I would love to be able to be sexually intimate with my husband like right NOW, but I would have to say NO. Our visits are vital to our relationship, for now we only have 300 minutes a month to talk which is split between me, the kids, and a few family members (no where close to enough minutes). So we only have our visits, phone calls, and letters. Although he is in the Feds and I can visit any days other than Tuesdays or Wednesdays, we reserve the weekends visits for our family this is when the children come to visit and they do their weekly "man talk" and we discuss any behavior issues or disagreements as well as anything good and upcoming plans just as if he was home. So I said ALL that to again say NO I would not give up our weekend visits for the chance to have sex once every few months ... he don't have much time left, and we have made it this far without sex just fine, so we're good.

[ArsensBrat]

Well as it is I only get to see him once a month right now anyways, ever since they took away Friday visits that only leaves us with one Saturday visit & one Sunday visit & i have to share seeing him with his family too. So I only see him one Saturday a month, then recently at the end of June they changed his work schedule so now he his days off are Mon&Tues so now no visits @ all for him....so sad!!
He cant get a visit when he works the same day they just dont allow it
so now its all messed up so the soonest ill be able to see him is at the end of August or beginning of September when a different work schedule is available that has weekends off
cant wait to see my handsome husband
i love him soooo!!