Made A Decision

[Trinia21]

My son who has been in county jail for 7 months awaiting trial is having a bail reduction hearing tomorrow. He is 23 and his drug abuse and alcoholism led him to the crimes that put him there. I have decided to bail him out if the bail becomes low enough. I am putting it all in God's hands. If it is His will, I will be able to get the money together; if not, I pray for strength for my son to serve more time. It has been a difficult decision because if he goes back to using, it could give him ultimately more time as he can't seem to stay out of trouble when he is using. I could lose my little bit of savings. His lawyer feels it helps his case to be out of jail and my son wants time to think clearly and make the right decisions. He is in one big room with 80 men and it's terrible he says. I am going to give him a chance but I'm asking that my higher power decide. I am anxious and scared and he is also. We could sure use some prayers.

[dbass]

Prayers going out to you Trinia. May you have peace with whatever happens, and so may your son.

Deb

[djsmom]

please....if you can make the bond...tell your son from someone who knows....THIS is a time when HE can make a difference in his life, and maybe the outcome of his situation. he needs to use the time out on bond to take charge of his life and addictions. get help. work, volunteer, stay busy busy busy. so that when he goes back to court he can show the judge all he has accomplished. i do believe that helps. my son could not seem to get into that mindset....though he hasnt done bad, he hasnt, in my opinion, done enough from his first bond, that would make an extremely good lasting impression. your son has an opportunity....if he messes it up, his life will be messed up for a long time.

[heavy]

Iwill be Praying for your son and you.Hope everything works out for the best.

[Lunchlady]

Sometimes we just have to take a chance...go with your heart....good luck...hope and pray everything turns out the best!!!!!

Cottie

[Lordbew/us]

I understand your decision, and I wish you the best. If your son is able to bond out I pray he will take this opportunity to get back on track. It is a scary path he is choosing.
I know your heartache.

[only1love]

I am glad that you have made this decision. Let's hope that you son will make the changes he needs to turn this around!

[Niki]

I agree with DJsmom- let him know that how he handles his freedom while awaiting trial will very likely determine what happens next in his life. If he does well he may very well get a lower sentence but if he goes back to his old ways, life as he knows it may be changed for the worse for a long time. I'll keep you and your son in my prayers too.

[BeachMom]

You have to do what your heart tells you. And yes, putting your faith in God is what I did as well.

If he gets out I wish you the best and hope he understands the gift he is being handed.

K

[sleepless in Tu]

I hope for the best outcome and I pray your son realizes what you are willing to do for him.I hope he means it when he claims he needs to be to think more clearly.I'd be so sad if you were to loose your savings.Only you know what is best for your family,I hope all goes well.

[Joshua's Mom]

I pray that everthing turns out good for you and your son. When my son got bail reduction we bonded him out. He did not go back to his drug of choice (meth), but he did start taking pills and smoking pot. He tested dirty twice, and the judge brought that up at his sentencing. I pray that your son makes wiser decisions. Best of luck!

[scared family]

I will be praying for you and your son! I will pray that God gives him the desire in his heart to change his life!

[Tryin2Cope]

You and your son are in my prayers...I pray all works out for your family..