His put-downs of me!

[BlueEyedEllie]

Originally Posted by crazy2010

WHATS A SHIZZNET??

I think someone needs to start a pto dictionary as sometimes i am just lost!!

[Mitch67]

Originally Posted by marcsbeth

I think someone needs to start a pto dictionary as sometimes i am just lost!!

I'm sure there is one someplace. Does anyone know where the dictionary is located?

[CoNpal]

I would love an update on this thread. He should be out by now. I wonder how it's going?

[AaronsBeautiful]

Let me tell you do not need this kind of person. You have to learn to love your self before you can love anyone else. When someone calls you fat ass etc. or anything outside of what your name is you do not need them. Abuse comes in all forms like verbal. I am sure that he may have been with smaller woman when he tells you these things you need to pop back at him and tell him to go and find the smaller woman you use to be with. He will look pretty shocked for you to say that. Why would you take an unhealthy way to lose weight like that? Purging becomes an illness that part I know for a fact. Dam what he says or what anyone else says. Beauty comes from with in. You need to stop putting your self down as well. Talking about you are not worthy of him what the hell?!?#@ He is not worthy of you please believe and he is showing you by the things that he says to you! You can do bad by your dam self. There is no Gold Dip Stick that is made yet. Where you found this loser find a better man for your self that will treat you with the utmost RESPECT! A man that will love you for you no matter what you look like. Stop worrying about what he wants and worry about what you need! You come first then he comes secondary. Life is too short to live it like your living it! What you do in your life today cannot be undone tomorrow. Keep in mind your going to go right back to what you were being called when he gets out. If he says he is sorry well he has to make nice with you to get funds while he is in jail! So when he gets out it is back to business with he name calling! a leopard does not change his spots i am hear to tell ya please believe me! If you want to lose weight exercises and eat lean gourmet (only a buck at walmart) or something but lose weight because you want to. Not because someone else wants you to. The key to losing weight is portion control meals! What if you get bulimia do you really think he is going to want you then? I am kind of thinking not! When your comfortable with your self you do not worry about what others say! I will pray for you. I hope some of what I have said to you really makes you think. The only one in life you have to account to is yourself and *GOD*. You need to find some positive people as well that will keep you on the right path! What your going through is abuse there is no sugar coating that. But it is not my life it is yours I am just looking in the glass from outside just like the rest of the ladies that made comments. When it is all said and done you have the final decision to make. From this day forward work on you and what will make you happy. There is an old saying if Momma ain't happy no one will be happy! So momma get happy and find your inner strength! If you plan on staying with this man you need to get what you deserve to be treated like a Queen! Or you learn to play his game and say slick sh*t back to him when he calls you names! I know two wrongs do not make a right but in some cases it stops the other person from acting a certain ways when your calling them on there flaws! The other person is sitting and thinking dam what the hell? !?#&% I know words hurt like a fist sometimes! Here is a song I am sure you can relate to. This is the kind of man you want. Listen to the words carefully! It says it is being blocked on here so click the little arrow it will take you to you tube so you can watch it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yCmsZUN4r_s

Originally Posted by atsgirl89

ok, before Adam went in this last time he had a real problem with calling me all kinds of mean names such as bitch, slut, whore, nasty, tainted, FATASS, and even said "youd be more attractive if you were skinnier". all his past girls have been SOOO much prettier and skinnier than me and i dont feel like im worthy of him. hes since apoliogized about those comments but they are forever engraved into my memory. Since he has said all that i have went from 195 pounds to 172 pounds but not in a healthy way. i starve myself, workout ALOT, and recently even purge. this type of behavior isnt new for me, but its fired back up since the man that i love with all my heart has said thses things to me. Now, in the letters i write to him he's telling me that "he loves how i look right now, and i dont need to lose any weight" blah blah blah. I dont know what he wants!!!! But i do know its like mental torture for me. I dont want to get hassled about my eating disorders bc i already know they arent healthy, but when i feel starved and empty, i feel happy. (I know, im demented!) Sometimes i think he WANTS me to be fat so that i cant leave or find another man. maybe im just being paranoid. but, He gets out in 13 days hopefully and im really stressing. I dont know what to do and i dont know what he wants. Give me some advice ladies!!!!
PEACE
Ashlee

[Rejoice. . .]

Originally Posted by crazy2010

WHATS A SHIZZNET??

Lol. Snoop Dogg talk, shizznet = shit.

[vera31]

He is trying to keep you emotionally weak with his comments, so that you will be a lot more easy to keep a "handle" on. Men (or women) who do this cannot possibly have real love for you, as they can barely stand themselves. Of course, they usually cover this up by having big egos and by making it seem YOU are always the problem. Although you should end the relationship permanently, this is not enough. You also need to find the root cause of WHY you would put up with such treatment. Something needs to be healed within you. I know because I have been there and am still healing!

[cjSweetwater]

Me too. Has anyone heard from the girl lately? I hope and pray that she's all right.

Originally Posted by CoNpal

I would love an update on this thread. He should be out by now. I wonder how it's going?

[thuy_duong]

Originally Posted by cjSweetwater

Me too. Has anyone heard from the girl lately? I hope and pray that she's all right.

I was going to comment on this thread but seeing that she hasn't come on, I don't really see the point. I think she has already made her decision... but, I did want to make a point that NO ONE in this world needs to be treated like the way she did. How horrible of a person can you be to degrade a person to such levels... as if calling her fat wasn't bad enough, he had to call her all those other ruthless names. No real man would ever disrespect a woman like that. He should have known better, considering the fact that a woman was the one that gave birth to him!

To the OP, if you ever come back on... I wish you luck. And I hope you do what is best for you.

Mel

[nimuay]

Presumably, he's out now - from her post, he should have been out on 6/29.

I do hope she comes back with a good report!

[pipeliner]

Move on, don't waste your life on someone like that, they don't change,only gets worse,wasted 27 years on one.