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secondtimer · #26 06-25-2010, 08:33 PM

I guess i don't understand why they have to change their names, I don't know a divorced woman that ever went back to her maiden name unless she was real young and had no children.
Even a contested divorce they end up getting it finalized don't worry about her do what you have to do.

**Keltria** · #27 06-26-2010, 02:22 AM

Sorry, probably off topic, but what is wrong with keeping your ex's last name? I have been divorced for 16 years and still have my ex's last name. It is a hell of a thing to change it here in South Africa where I live. Maybe his last name was better than her original one was

DYMOND0311 · #28 06-26-2010, 08:16 PM

Well this chick is pathetic & desperate. Having her grown ass sister write childish messages on myspace & thinks that she will convince him to be with her. It's about that time for her to get a reality check. She is playing games with him saying she will give him the divorce but knowing damn well that's the only reason he speaks to her so she thinks as long as she keeps playin her game he will have to talk to her; well this skank has something coming to her. GAME OVER! & get this..she tells him she's not goin to give it to him cuz he has no reason. No reason? Really? 5 years being m.i.a & the fact that he don't love you nor wants to be with you isn't reason enough? Omg silly females these days!!!

DarkStorm · #29 06-26-2010, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by DYMOND0311

Well this chick is pathetic & desperate. Having her grown ass sister write childish messages on myspace & thinks that she will convince him to be with her. It's about that time for her to get a reality check. She is playing games with him saying she will give him the divorce but knowing damn well that's the only reason he speaks to her so she thinks as long as she keeps playin her game he will have to talk to her; well this skank has something coming to her. GAME OVER! & get this..she tells him she's not goin to give it to him cuz he has no reason. No reason? Really? 5 years being m.i.a & the fact that he don't love you nor wants to be with you isn't reason enough? Omg silly females these days!!!

She sounds like such a mess!

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this...I had an abusive husband a long time ago and filed for divorce but told them I didn't know where he was so I was told to put an ad in the paper (a tiny ad way in the back

) and after a certain amount of time if he didn't respond, I could get the divorce and he would not need to have responded...not sure if this would apply to you since she is reaching out to him so much but thought I'd throw it out there...
I wish you both the best and that this nightmare will be over quickly so you two can just focus on your love

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Hisoneandonly · #30 06-27-2010, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by DarkStorm

She sounds like such a mess!

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this...I had an abusive husband a long time ago and filed for divorce but told them I didn't know where he was so I was told to put an ad in the paper (a tiny ad way in the back

) and after a certain amount of time if he didn't respond, I could get the divorce and he would not need to have responded...not sure if this would apply to you since she is reaching out to him so much but thought I'd throw it out there...
I wish you both the best and that this nightmare will be over quickly so you two can just focus on your love

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I had a friend of mine get her divorce that way, she was told that since she wasn't sure where he was to get the papers sent out she could print an ad run it for some time and then if he didn't respond she was divorced..

Tuesday123 · #31 06-27-2010, 09:27 PM

He can get it granted.

His best bet is to not even respond to any of her letters,,,,,,,,,, but hey,,,,,, now he has her address. So one more place to serve the divorce papers to.

I know it sucks when they crawl out of the wood work and all of a sudden want to be there.

Take Comfort in knowing he doesnt want her to be there. Help him finalize the paperwork and be done with it.

If she loved him so much she shouldnt have left him the way that she did.

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Originally Posted by DYMOND0311

Ok so heres a quick background of the situation.

My fiance went to prison a little over 6 1/2 years ago. He married his girlfriend and a year later she went M.I.A. No letter, No Visits..NOTHING! So around 2006/2007 he filed for a divorce. She never responded. The next year he did it again. She never responded. Then again in 08; still NOTHING. So me and my man (who i've known for about 13 years) decide to get together and start a relationship last year. Well the end of last year "his wife" decides to come around. After 5 years of having not a word to say to him, not even a letter or a visit so he could see his son, she wants to come back into his life and "make it work". He told her he wants to move on and for her just to please give him the divorce. So finally she signed a affidavit. Well their court date was yesterday and he literally begged her to please go and finalize it. Well of course she didn't. And by him being in prison its hard for him to get it granted due to the fact he cannot attend his court hearing. So anyways i just needed to vent because I don't understand why this female just cant give him the damn divorce.

Like seriously, why? You haven't been around for 5 YEARS! Im sure she's moved on so why not let him!

HisBlueEyedGal · #32 06-27-2010, 10:02 PM

Last I checked, Texas law will grant a divorce in favor of either spouse if the spouses have lived apart without cohabitation for at least three years.

I'd be leery of your man saying, "I want to divorce my wife because I'm in love with another woman". If he words it more like, "She abandoned me. I didn't hear from her for five years. I assumed the marriage was over and I moved on. That's why I want a divorce. I don't love my wife anymore."

Whatever happens, I really, really hope you get that chick in check with the divorce thing. Nothing irks me more than a fair weather wife.

http://www.divorcesource.com/info/di...ws/texas.shtml

DYMOND0311 · #33 06-27-2010, 10:08 PM

believe me he's tried...they know he didn't hear from her for 5 years but NOtHiNG! Hopefully on the next court date they will grant it..i will tell him to write a letter to the judge stating what's been going on because she did abandon him & now that he sees parole she comes around..funny huh!..he has tried divorcing her before I even came in the picture..i know he just wants it done with and eventually he will get it with or without her! Thank you all for ur advice all we can use now is Prayers!! Thanks again!