Just let me vent please

[confusing]

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

[DYMOND0311]

awww im sorry for what your going through. i feel the same. stay strong mama!

[Tuesday123]

No advice, no suggestions, just ((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))

Originally Posted by confusing

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

[Onedaycloser13]

I had a thread something like this a while ago...men think don't listen they fix. When you vent he thinks that you need him to help you, and though it is irritating he doesn't understand your needs to just let it off your chest! For me I have had to tell him before I start,"babe I don't need you to fix, I just need to tell you what is going on"...it got so bad in my situation I felt that he is saying "You should have done this and that" that I was doing nothing right! It is the basic difference between men and women and in order for you to vent some kind of agreement should be made so he knows that his instincts don't kick in, and that is to fix it for you.

[J&D7]

[lovehim4life]

Originally Posted by confusing

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

Yea sometimes you just gotta let it out. but know that you are not alone. I have a 4yr old who keeps asking why is it taking si long for her daddy to come home and yes an eighteen month old who doesn't really know dady either all while I work and take care of them and him......and then people wonder why your so tired. Keep your head up. Adversity builds character!

[crazy2010]

You deserve to vent, at the least, I should say!

[CoNpal]

Feel better now? Sorry you're having a rough time.

[ralphiesbaby]

Hope u are feeling better

[Mrs.Parker~A.N.F.]

Well...you came to the right place
Vent all you need here mamas!!! There is many wonderful supportive peps on here

You seem to be doing a wonderful job already...keep that strength up and remember we will listen to all your vents and understand greatly since we are all in similiar positions..

[Miss_A]

It's always hardest for the kids. So vent away, mom. Vent away. *hugs*

[Hallwaywalker]

Originally Posted by confusing

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

Girl, you seriously are my hero. You kick ass.

And I have always, always thought that the women on here who hold it down out here while their husbands, b/f, etc. are inside, AND they take care of the kids are amazing. I don't see how you do it. I have always thought that all this shit is so, so, so much worse on the kids...

[DollFace13]

I've learned that talking to a total stranger is the best thing. they dont' know you, they dont know your situation...they really CAN"T offer advice which is great cause your not looking for any. And since they are a stranger you have to go into greater detail about everything even giving back stories/side stories and after your done you've let off SO much steam. you're still in the same situation but you feel slightly relieved for the time being.

plus who cares if they judge you...if they tell anyone your story it wont be anyone you know so who cares right?

[DarkStorm]

I totally understand how you feel . You are not alone!

[Her_Man]

Originally Posted by KandValways

I had a thread something like this a while ago...men think don't listen they fix. When you vent he thinks that you need him to help you, and though it is irritating he doesn't understand your needs to just let it off your chest! For me I have had to tell him before I start,"babe I don't need you to fix, I just need to tell you what is going on"...it got so bad in my situation I felt that he is saying "You should have done this and that" that I was doing nothing right! It is the basic difference between men and women and in order for you to vent some kind of agreement should be made so he knows that his instincts don't kick in, and that is to fix it for you.

Very wise words, and you are totally correct! Thanks for pointing this out, and we men do need to be reminded of this occasionally.

[timsbaby41]

Vent your azz off girl

[DanniRhodes]

I totally understand... You are NOT alone if you ever need to talk and have someone just listen. Im always here or on facebook if you want the info private message me ill be happy to give it to ya.

Originally Posted by confusing

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

[rockys lil girl]

Thats right let it all out we are here for you. Hugs BIG hugs for you

[cjSweetwater]

Quietly listening! Let er rip!

Originally Posted by confusing

Trying to vent to my partner or family is just frustration . Some times I am not after answers or solutions to the problems, some times there are no answers to the problems. But sometimes I simply want to vent my frustrations out without people telling me what to do and how to do it.
My partner doesnt understand what its like waiting for him (just I dont understand what its like for him). But Im sick of him thinking its nothing major.

I think its major having a 3.5yr girl worry that Im not coming home cos her daddy didnt. I think its major that she stresses and cries when I have to leave. I think its major that a 8yr boy has closed himself off because he doesnt want to get his hopes up that you might come home. I think its major that our 18 month old son doesnt know his daddy and couldnt care less that you are not here. I think its major that I am looking after 3 kids, waking up at 4:30am with the baby who thinks its a great time to start the day. Then work full time, study part time and deal with your mother and police and lawyers and court and everything else.

I just want to vent and I get over it, pull my big girl undies up and deal with it. But for once just let me get it out.

[PEN PAL 2 FEW]

Just wanted to send you some feel better hugs, hope ur feeling better soon