I am tired of everyone!

[Onedaycloser13]

I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine, and I am going to warn everyone I am in a mood. I am tired of everyone in my life right now, including my bf. I feel like I have been through the wringer and none of them even care! Everyone takes takes takes and when I have given everything well they take some more! I am basically single, because seriously I am by myself all the time, I am lonely, I am everything a single woman would be except I don't have freakin sex! Not that I had a whole lot when I was single, but I know it wasn't a freakin three years. Hell I don't want sex, you know what I want I want to feel special to someone...to have someone hold me for an hour....a romantic dinner....just to feel like I am important! You know all that mushy stuff most of us woman thrive on! Right now, I just want to run, not walk and be by myself. Forget about all my health issues, forget about my never ending needy kids and bf. Just be me!

[LeBeau]

Amen!

[patchouli]

Yes ma'm. This ain't easy on a good day. But we do it. Good vent ...is that an oxymoron Probably....but I'm thinking this whole prison life is one big oxymoron after another Keep your chin up!

[Tuesday123]

BIG HUGE HUGS KANDV!!!!

Im alone most of the time too, by choice. I cant handle too much negativity so I have no problem kicking anyone to the curb on a natch if need be.

Dont answer your phone, emails, or anything else until you are damn good and ready.

And when their climbing the walls wondering why they couldnt get a hold of you? Just say because it got to be too much and I needed space.


When you set clear boundaries, people listen and if they dont? you didnt need them anyways

Originally Posted by KandValways

I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine, and I am going to warn everyone I am in a mood. I am tired of everyone in my life right now, including my bf. I feel like I have been through the wringer and none of them even care! Everyone takes takes takes and when I have given everything well they take some more! I am basically single, because seriously I am by myself all the time, I am lonely, I am everything a single woman would be except I don't have freakin sex! Not that I had a whole lot when I was single, but I know it wasn't a freakin three years. Hell I don't want sex, you know what I want I want to feel special to someone...to have someone hold me for an hour....a romantic dinner....just to feel like I am important! You know all that mushy stuff most of us woman thrive on! Right now, I just want to run, not walk and be by myself. Forget about all my health issues, forget about my never ending needy kids and bf. Just be me!

[baby_ bird]

I know how you're feeling but keep your head up. Tomorrow will be a better day

[crazy2010]

I hope things get better for you, you are not alone on the running it would be nice to escape this miserable life for a while!!

[alw]

Welcome to my world KandV...

[Onedaycloser13]

OMG, and my bf calls and asks do I have hope? Hope in what? Everything I have hope in is crumbling beside my feet lately! Of course I didn't want to cry to him, because he cannot understand that I am not a man and actually lose it at times, but he called when I was crying. Anyway, conversation didn't go very well. At this point this is a problem too, because my soft place to fall and the person I can talk to about anything has thorns that just wants to fix....and I don't freakin need fixing!

[DaMeS_GiRl88]

I think we are all feeling what u are feeling take it day by day and try to keep yourself busy

[sukel5]

Your not alone baby. We all feel this way from time to time. I just pray and hope for the best. There are alot of us out here by ourself. Keep your chin up and don't ever give up.

[LifeTraveler]

Lord have mercy!! Been there and done that! I probably go there at least once a week! LOL I know it's not funny, but I DO know what you're talking about.

[ralphiesbaby]

I feel you girl I feel like that sometimes to. Hang in there!

[iloveyoumore]

I feel like that too sometimes and then I realize it's me that is having the issues not everyone around me. Usually happens when I give too much of myself and expect to get something out of it. I'm giving for the wrong reasons. I stop taking time for myself and turn it around on everyone who loves me. I stress myself out and have a big old pity party. Do what you need to do and then change your priorities. Kids will always need something from us and you need your man. Him trying to fix things for you is his way of showing you how much he loves you. My husband does that and when I shoot him down I can hear the disappointment...it's me pushing him away. Take good care of yourself okay?

[vera31]

I feel that way sometimes, too! Do a few special things for yourself. Buy some aromatherapy bubble bath in a calming scent (like lavender), and take a long, hot, relaxing soak. Go to the movies and see a comedy. Buy YOURSELF some pretty flowers and place them where you tend to feel stress the most. Get a 30 minute body massage or facial, at a massage/beauty school if money is tight. Sometimes we need to have a breather from our daily lives.

[gabbygirl372001]

OMG....I am hearing you loud and clear. I am feeling the same way. I give and give and give...and get nothing in return. I was at my breaking point tonight. If you figure out a solution for this...let me know...cuz Im right there with ya sista!

[missiva]

Originally Posted by vera31

I feel that way sometimes, too! Do a few special things for yourself. Buy some aromatherapy bubble bath in a calming scent (like lavender), and take a long, hot, relaxing soak. Go to the movies and see a comedy. Buy YOURSELF some pretty flowers and place them where you tend to feel stress the most. Get a 30 minute body massage or facial, at a massage/beauty school if money is tight. Sometimes we need to have a breather from our daily lives.

Oh Vera you just expressed my thoughts! I mean I was thinking and searching about what you "kandy" could do for yourself.
The best thing to do now is kick the tent pole! This is an expression used in my country and say drop everything and run off "now" that is what you need! Look for someone to look after your children for a while and do something that gives you pleasure. I don't know exactly were you live, but if it's near Richmond, I was searching on google earth and it's a beautiful city. You can take a sunbathing on Belle Isle; go to Forest Hill Park;to the Siné Irish Pub & Restaurant or just walk by the river!
And I think you seam estressed, maybe it would be nice search for a therapist, forget the taboo that therapy is for crazy or people that can't go by themselves, in fact everyone should do therapy at least once in their life, if you can find a good professional it would be just a friend that will listen to you and don't interfere in your life, believe me!
Good luck!!!

[Naunnie2]

I understand what you are going through. I have been there too. The only true advice or words I can give you are
1Peter 5:7> Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.
and also
Exodus 33:14> The Lord replied, "My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest."

May God bless your day

[BlueEyedEllie]

[retired - 666]

Originally Posted by KandValways

he cannot understand that I am not a man and actually lose it at times,

I swear I think because they are around men *ALL THE TIME* and *FOR SO LONG* they really do forget we are different. Mine expects me to be a freaking war tank at everything and I just cant. Truth be known ...none of us can.

[SpicaRigel]

K sounds like you need a time out before you burn out.
You cannot give, give, and give...you have to stop and have some recieving to balance it out...please take time for yourself and do something nice for yourself. You are not SuperGoddess babe, you are human...
xo!
Dana

[mzindependent25]

I think u should take out some time and do something for yourself =). Sometimes its hard having to keep your head up and always being the 'strong' one. I can definitely relate to you wanting to feel special to someone...i believe we all just want to mean SOMETHING to someone...forming bonds is a part of human nature =).

[AaronsBeautiful]

What is stopping you? Nothing but air and opportunity! Take a day or even two away from everyone. Get you a hotel room and go out to dinner do not take a cell phone if you do only answer it for emergencies! This is your time to take time by yourself. Treat your self to the jacuzzi at the hotel. Then when you have refreshed your self then you will be able to look at things from a rested prospective. If we do not think about us who will? Sometimes we all need a break this is the best suggestion I can give. When the children go to bed soak in a tub turn the lights off and put candles in the bathroom put some roses in your water get some wine and a cheese or fruit plate. Put some candles around the house and curl up with a good book. You just have to be creative to get away from the world for a short time. While your relaxing write a letter to your man and let him know what you want to do with him sexually while your giggling and listening to some romantic music! I hope that this helps you some to make you feel better.

Originally Posted by KandValways

I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine, and I am going to warn everyone I am in a mood. I am tired of everyone in my life right now, including my bf. I feel like I have been through the wringer and none of them even care! Everyone takes takes takes and when I have given everything well they take some more! I am basically single, because seriously I am by myself all the time, I am lonely, I am everything a single woman would be except I don't have freakin sex! Not that I had a whole lot when I was single, but I know it wasn't a freakin three years. Hell I don't want sex, you know what I want I want to feel special to someone...to have someone hold me for an hour....a romantic dinner....just to feel like I am important! You know all that mushy stuff most of us woman thrive on! Right now, I just want to run, not walk and be by myself. Forget about all my health issues, forget about my never ending needy kids and bf. Just be me!

[bssugafoot]

KV,
Breathe and stop! Hang your Cape up for a minute and find a moment of solitude. Have someone that owes you a small favor keep an eye on the kids and do something just for you. I agree with not answering your phone, emails, etc. just so you won't break down. It's okay to cry because us woman can only feel better if we let it out by ourselves sometimes. Hang in there girl, we all have been there a time or two. Doesn't it blow that random strangers feel your pain and your family never notices and ask you to do something else? I know it gets me every time! You will see the light shining a little brighter as you begin taking time for yourself bubblebath, manicure and pedicure all the simple stuff we like, do it!

[missiva]

Originally Posted by AaronsBeautiful

. If we do not think about us who will? When the children go to bed soak in a tub turn the lights off and put candles in the bathroom put some roses in your water get some wine and a cheese or fruit plate. Put some candles around the house and curl up with a good book. You just have to be creative to get away from the world for a short time. While your relaxing write a letter to your man and let him know what you want to do with him sexually while your giggling and listening to some romantic music! I hope that this helps you some to make you feel better.

I loved your ideas!
And K. like Aarons' said, if we don't do anything for us who will?
For me put some crazy music and get into the mood sometimes makes me feel so much better!
Don't push yourself if you're not available at the moment!

[confusing]

Been in that place as well, many times. It shows me when I feel that way, its time to step away from the world and do something for me and only for me. Something that I enjoy and gives me the energy to fight the world again