LIFE IN MEXICO after deportation

[flilly13]

Hi everyone. just wanted to update. It has been since April 1st that my husband has been deported to Mexico.

He was detained on January 21st 2010 with an VERY old charge. It was an A.F. (aggravate felony) We immediately hired an immigration attorney and a criminal attorney and to avail there was no chances given to stay. With that said on March 30th my husband, attorney and I made the decision to "throw in the towel."

Since then we have been able to spend the summer here in Tijuana. The kids are getting ready to go back to school soon so this is going to be a new page of our journey.

I was thinking today, in regards to deportation it is not only the person that is being process that is deported but the whole family. This has deported myself and our children because we have made the decision to stick together!

It was one thing for the government to make this decision for my husband to whom they owe nothing to being is was never an American Citizen. But they have (in a roundabout way) FAILED my children to whom are American Citizens:-(

[jahlove]

I agree - the U.S. is losing one great American citizen - me! I try to find the silver lining and sometimes I think this may be a blessing in disguise. I love America, but sometimes I wonder if it's time for decline is here - just like Rome. And so then I think, well, I won't be here to see it fall. That may sound crazy, but I cannot believe how much money taxpayers spend on incarceration and that money goes straight into the pockets of corporations and and politicians who take of each other. I could go on and on . . .

[LR81]

Yeah, its sad the effect that immigration laws have on familys. Good luck with your situation!

[zunigan]

Its always to bad, it effects the whole family, not just the one deported. We have to learn to live all over in another country where everything is different. Does the goverment or anyone here care? No! All they care about is getting them out. Our prisons are filled with those from this country who commit all kinds of crimes. Lucky for them they are citizens so they can stay. I don't know if the outcome would have been the same for us and my husband might have had a better chance at good medical care here. He may have died just the same. But I truly think he might have had a much better chance had he been able to stay here an contiune the care he was getting. It doesn't make much difference now the is gone and I will never knew. I hope things get easier for all of you who have to move to another country and try to fit in.

[negretelove]

zunigan---sweetie i am so sorry for your loss..many hugs


my family will be starting the journey to mx in a little less then 3 months and i am terrified. neither one of us know what to expect we were both raised in the states. my children are confused and angry...they want the family together but do not understand why they have to leave all that they know. i do not know what our future holds we seem to be taking alot of this out on each other these days. i am at the point of what is meant to be will happen.

[mlr0609]

I have been in Nuevo Laredo for 1 yr and 2 months...it was a huge change and culture shock for me and my children aswell...my son is 13 yrs old and he goes to school in Laredo Texas...it was hard for him to adjust last year but this year he was very excited...he dosent even complain about having to get up at 5am so that we can get to the puente early and cross to america...it does take alot out of you...but as long as you and your husband agree that you will get thru this together and have an understanding that your children will have some bad days then things will go alot smoother...Well just thought I would let you know some of my experience...Good Luck and God Bless

[flilly13]

Originally Posted by negretelove

zunigan---sweetie i am so sorry for your loss..many hugs


my family will be starting the journey to mx in a little less then 3 months and i am terrified. neither one of us know what to expect we were both raised in the states. my children are confused and angry...they want the family together but do not understand why they have to leave all that they know. i do not know what our future holds we seem to be taking alot of this out on each other these days. i am at the point of what is meant to be will happen.

I wish you all the luck and prayers are with you=) there will be plenty of bumps in the road but all WELL worth it once you are all together. feel free to pm with any questions you may have. Where will you be moving too?

[negretelove]

aaahh thank you!
i know it will be worth it..especially after 8.5yrs of prison. all of it is just overwhelming...we planned planned oh and planned but it seems like none of those plans are going to go through.

we want to be on the border for now..i was hoping to cross my kids for school but i think i will be homeschooling until we get things together.
he wants to go to rosarito but it seems more expensive there so i was telling him lets start on tj.

i guess it is going to be a 'play it by ear situation'.

[flilly13]

Originally Posted by negretelove

aaahh thank you!
i know it will be worth it..especially after 8.5yrs of prison. all of it is just overwhelming...we planned planned oh and planned but it seems like none of those plans are going to go through.

we want to be on the border for now..i was hoping to cross my kids for school but i think i will be homeschooling until we get things together.
he wants to go to rosarito but it seems more expensive there so i was telling him lets start on tj.

i guess it is going to be a 'play it by ear situation'.

aww mija it will get better and yea rosarito is still a lil costly. I am going to p.m. you with my contact info. There are a lot of things I can help you with on your move!

[flilly13]

Originally Posted by flilly13

aww mija it will get better and yea rosarito is still a lil costly. I am going to p.m. you with my contact info. There are a lot of things I can help you with on your move!

ooh yea forgot to tell you that I have all four of my kiddos on homeschooling and they love it! I can give you info for that tooo..

[lost14]

Just be careful t the border. MY usband and I decided he would live in Reynosa and once he got setteled and stuff then my son and I would move there. Well he got off the bus in Reynosa and within minutes someone tried to kidnap him and his 2 friends. They ran back into the bus station and decided to buy a ticket out. When they were doing that a police officer came and questioned them about waht happened. They expained everything. Were taken into a room to be questioned more and while they were in there they men that were trying to kidnap them came in. The police talked about chanrging them with drug possesion (and I know for a fact my husband and these 2 guys did not have drugs on them, heck they had just been deported). They were finally let go once they all handed over all there money. This all happened between 6-7pm so not even really late.

Not trying to scare you but just make you aware of what is going on near the border (I do think it is worse in Reynosa though).

Hubby is in Veracruz now doing well.

[luis84]

I currently have about a year living in El Salvador.

I have been through many horrible things -- but nothing close to what the US Government did to me and my family.

Best decision I ever made was to move here.

Thank you US government for causing excellent citizens to have to leave. Good job.

[LadyBlackz]

Well come next year I'm gonna need all y'alls help. Especially you Filly My man is probably gonna be sent back to Guatemala. It would take a freakin miracle for us to win his Witholding of Removal case. So we are planning on heading to TJ. So when that time comes....best believe I'm gonna be on here buggin y'all It's kinda nice to know that I'm not the only one going through this. And yes...the government doesn't give a crap how many families they destroy. They aint just deporting him...they deporting me too.

Filly- Would you mind helping me when that time comes?

Zunigan- Am so sorry for your loss

Negrete- WHO DAT!!!!!

[flilly13]

@ luis84. Amen to you! I feel the exact same way you do...

@ ladyblackz: Of course I will help you in anyway I can.... Its a big process but it CAN be done! Keep in touch and lemme know whats goin on!!!

[zunigan]

Everyone on here will give you any help they can. We have all been through this mess in one way or another. Its not the best living in Tijuana or anywhere in Mexico but its do able. Let us know what help you need there are lots of people living there that can help. www.tijuanablog.com is another place you can ask questions and find out how to go about moving there. Lots of nice people. Good Luck....my son lived in Meza for over 20 years. He came back to California three years ago to rent my house so I could use that money to pay for my husbands medical care. Nice place, but hot.

[sidewalker]

I just wanted to say to Zunigan
that Im so very sorry for your loss. bless you and yours.
(((hugs)))

[lost14]

Lady, your husband is from Guatamala? Have you looked into immigration requirements into Mexico from someone from Guatamala? I have heard (but don't know how true) that Mexico treats Guatamens like we treat Mexicans and that they sneak over the border into Chiapas but if caught they will be deported and I think they treat them far worse then ICE when they deport (but again all stuff I just "heard"). Please look into it cause I won't want you to have to go thru this process twice.

[LadyBlackz]

Originally Posted by lost14

Lady, your husband is from Guatamala? Have you looked into immigration requirements into Mexico from someone from Guatamala? I have heard (but don't know how true) that Mexico treats Guatamens like we treat Mexicans and that they sneak over the border into Chiapas but if caught they will be deported and I think they treat them far worse then ICE when they deport (but again all stuff I just "heard"). Please look into it cause I won't want you to have to go thru this process twice.

I'm on top of it...we aint planning on SNEAKING into anywhere...

[lost14]

Originally Posted by LadyBlackz

I'm on top of it...we aint planning on SNEAKING into anywhere...

Good I know some people just think that all those Spanish speaking countries cause just go back a forth between them...Just cause we can go freely doesnt mean everyone can.

Glad you are on top of things.

[LadyBlackz]

Originally Posted by lost14

Good I know some people just think that all those Spanish speaking countries cause just go back a forth between them...Just cause we can go freely doesnt mean everyone can.

Glad you are on top of things.

You CAN travel freeley between Guatemala, Belize, El Salvador and Honduras without a passport. Mexico is a whole other story.
Didn't really appreciate the "Sneaking in" comment.

[lost14]

Originally Posted by LadyBlackz

You CAN travel freeley between Guatemala, Belize, El Salvador and Honduras without a passport. Mexico is a whole other story.
Didn't really appreciate the "Sneaking in" comment.

I just wanted to make sure that you had your ducks in a row. I said some people we know because that was the case. My husband had a friends that actually was deported from Mexico to Guatamala and was treated very poorly and almost killed. My husbands family lives 30 min from Guatamala so they know a lot about what is happening at that border.

I was accussing you or him of anything. Just saying it might be difficult to get legal papers in Mexico if you have been deported from here so be careful. Sorry if you took offense when I was just trying to help.

[jAimE'z.gIrL]

Hello everyone,
I'm a bit up-set that my man is going to get deported also. Not because I have to leave with him but because I feel bad for him. I mean, he's already paying for his crimes and has been for about 6 yrs!!!! Now they want to send him to Mexico???? His "country of origin"????? This is his country,this is all he knows! What really hurts is that he hasnt seen his son since he was about 2 years old (7yrs old now). Now that he is getting deported it will be impossible for them to see each other. Babymomma doesn't want her son to go to Mexico and visit because she thinks he wont come back! which I think is dum because my man would never do anything to hurt his son and I wouldn't let anything happen to him. I just hope everything turns out good, I know that it will be hard for Jaime to adjust to the life style out there. It's hard enough that he hasnt been around family and people in general for years and where we are from you get critized for every single little thing so I know it's going to be hard for him to get a job just because of his tattoos and backround. I decided to stick by his side tho' and ride with him until the end....THERE IS NO IMPOSSIBILITIES WHEN IT COMES TO TRUE LOVE!

[primoswife34]

Girl I agree with you !00%... I too will be leaving to Mexico whe my husband gets out... Me my hubby and our two kids.... I an nervous but I am more anxious to finally be a complete familia again... I don't care where its at as long as the 4 of us are together.. My man has been down for almost six years and he has to more to go... some days are harder than oithers and I get depressed but I know I have our to babies to take care of. Thank god for my family the support me all the way and have always supported my decison to wait for my husband..... I married him through good and bad thick or thin.... I am by his side 110%... as long as we are together I kbow we will adjust to Mexico... Te amo mijo.. y te extrano.....

[lopez4ever]

Wow! you guys are truly an inspiration to all of us!!! Moving to Mexico, when you dont' know the country! My plan is to move over there 2 in about 2-1/2 years when my husband is done serving his time and gets deported... but i'll be honest.... i'm scared! I've never lived outside of the United States, but i know that i dont want to be without my husband and he can never come back.... 4yrs in prison is not worth trying to be in the united states... and next time would only be worse.... ITS mexico now FOR THIS FAMILY!!!!
xoxo to you all!!!

[zunigan]

won't be easy but to be together is better than alone here. You will adjust and learn to love Mexico. You can always come home if you want to. take care