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mrsgary · #1 08-19-2010, 10:18 PM

Okay here's my ? my boyfriend of 9 years wants me to make him a myspace page and put a picture of him up and put his info on how to write him. That really pisses me off for one thing cause i am like isn't that telling me that you ain't gone be faithful 2 me when you come home. So i told him wtf i look like making my man a myspace page so other females can write you. I also asked him do he think that he can be faithful 2 me when he comes home and if not let me know now so i wont go threw tha heart ache and being a fool of being faithful 2 him while hes in there and he comes out and do me dirty. But anyway so i got a letter today from him he mad because i told him i will not make him a page and that for my info hes not going to mess over me when he comes home and he just wants some pen pals to write him cause he say that i am the only one who writes him. Also he wants me 2 send em pictures of other females and of myself but i am wondering should i respect his wishes and do the things he wants or leave him alone? or what would you do if this was your man? but he also told me don't write him no more and if i love him don't write but i am going to write him anyway and tell him off. I have done nothing but been here for him threw everything and never did anything to disrespect him and it pisses me off for him 2 treat me like this. Like i do something so wrong when all i ever done was b here for him.

nichelej05 · #2 08-19-2010, 10:24 PM

Personally, I'd let him do this bid alone. At this point, I wouldn't care how much time I have "invested" in a relationship. He's shown how much he cares for and respects you. Honestly, I think his "wishes" sound dumb. Sounds like he wants you to be his dating service. I wish my man, friend or even an ex would tell me not to write but send other girls his way. He wouldn't have to worry about me writing, visiting or calling because I'd be off with a man who respects me and our relationship.

scd123 · #3 08-19-2010, 10:32 PM

I understand the pictures part at least. Can they be pictures of celebrities? I probably wouldn't mind sending my bf pictures of celebs...plus I know he would be trading them for stuff he needs (which would save me $)

I would have a problem with the myspace thing...does he have any friends that you know? I sent my bfs info for writing him to a few of his friends from high school, including a few females. (Because I know them and trust them, not to mention they're married lol)

mrsgary · #4 08-19-2010, 10:38 PM

Yea that's what i was thinking. It is really his lost and he will regret the choice he has made. But i just hate the fact that we have two kids together. Our last one is going to be four months this sunday. But he says that i am sleeping on him i wrote him 3 times last week but he mad he should be happy that hes getting any mail some ppl don't have no one to write them. But i use to write him everyday and he says he spoiled and is use to getting mail everyday but i guess writing him 3 times last weeks wasn't enough but he rarely writes me but i just be happy to hear from him and know that he is okay..

mrsgary · #5 08-19-2010, 10:41 PM

Well i have sent him pictures of models before and he said that he done sold those but now he wants like pictures of girls in the free world as he calls it he said that he doesn't want any model pictures and he doesn't have any real friends.

Johnsgurl2010 · #6 08-19-2010, 10:43 PM

IMO thats little boys games. I mean, if he wants the be a grown man, and have a grown up relationship, I dont think he needs a myspace page. Just what I think

nichelej05 · #7 08-19-2010, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsgary

Yea that's what i was thinking. It is really his lost and he will regret the choice he has made. But i just hate the fact that we have two kids together. Our last one is going to be four months this sunday. But he says that i am sleeping on him i wrote him 3 times last week but he mad he should be happy that hes getting any mail some ppl don't have no one to write them. But i use to write him everyday and he says he spoiled and is use to getting mail everyday but i guess writing him 3 times last weeks wasn't enough but he rarely writes me but i just be happy to hear from him and know that he is okay..

If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. I know there's children involved but think about how much he's REALLY thinking of you, your feelings and children. It's beyond selfish and quite sad. You said it makes you mad, so why do something you aren't comfortable with? If he was really about you, he wouldn't ask/insist/demand you to do anything that obviously upsets you. I would question his seriousness in this relationship. Honesty and trust don't seem to be hanging from this branch. Its your decision but you don't have to make yourself suffer because of HIS actions.

mrsgary · #8 08-19-2010, 10:52 PM

Yea i totally agree I just hate i love him but like i told him he is disrespecting me and i really do not appreciate it. But thanks for your opinion.

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Originally Posted by Johnsgurl2010

IMO thats little boys games. I mean, if he wants the be a grown man, and have a grown up relationship, I dont think he needs a myspace page. Just what I think

scd123 · #9 08-19-2010, 10:52 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsgary

Well i have sent him pictures of models before and he said that he done sold those but now he wants like pictures of girls in the free world as he calls it he said that he doesn't want any model pictures and he doesn't have any real friends.

That seems messed up. Ya, I would have a problem with sending pics of "real" girls too.

mrsgary · #10 08-19-2010, 10:57 PM

Thanks for your response. I am taking the time to realize to just put myself first and whatever happens happen but i will not let him get the best of me no matter how much i love him. I am so use to putting him first and making him happy but the things he just said to me was beyond disrespectful to me. I mean he wouldn't like it if i told him something about a guy.

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Originally Posted by nichelej05

If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. I know there's children involved but think about how much he's REALLY thinking of you, your feelings and children. It's beyond selfish and quite sad. You said it makes you mad, so why do something you aren't comfortable with? If he was really about you, he wouldn't ask/insist/demand you to do anything that obviously upsets you. I would question his seriousness in this relationship. Honesty and trust don't seem to be hanging from this branch. Its your decision but you don't have to make yourself suffer because of HIS actions.

mrsgary · #11 08-19-2010, 11:01 PM

Yea i know

but i am getting over it. The more i think about the more i am just like i am too good for the bs. When i sent him pictures of the models i told him that i didn't have a problem with that because its not like he know them and he can't get with any of them but now he has went over the boundaries.

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Originally Posted by scd123

That seems messed up. Ya, I would have a problem with sending pics of "real" girls too.

nichelej05 · #12 08-19-2010, 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsgary

Thanks for your response. I am taking the time to realize to just put myself first and whatever happens happen but i will not let him get the best of me no matter how much i love him. I am so use to putting him first and making him happy but the things he just said to me was beyond disrespectful to me. I mean he wouldn't like it if i told him something about a guy.

I'm glad you're starting to put yourself first. If it was me, I'd put on some lipstick. Kiss a sheet of paper. Draw a booty and under that put the word "goodbye". That would be the last letter he got from me. But then again, do your thang

mrsgary · #13 08-19-2010, 11:12 PM

Lol too funny i might just do that. But thanks and i will I been threw a lot with him and i just can't let him do me any kind of way! I don't care if you are lock up and away from females if you want to be single you have the choice to be but me as your suppose to be wife you will not be disrespecting me.

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Originally Posted by nichelej05

I'm glad you're starting to put yourself first. If it was me, I'd put on some lipstick. Kiss a sheet of paper. Draw a booty and under that put the word "goodbye". That would be the last letter he got from me. But then again, do your thang

Tiny xo · #14 08-19-2010, 11:38 PM

wow, don't send him shit. he's got balls asking you to 1. send him pictures of other women & 2. send pictures of yourself also. no respect at all. in my opinion, a dude in a relationship having a myspace, facebook, twitter, whatever, is just a bad idea. i would never make him one. why, so women can write him? yea right.

he wants penpals because you are the only one who writes him? why is it that YOU writing him is not enough? that should be all he needs & wants! let him do his time alone. he's messing around in there. don't send him a single picture, especially not of yourself. he could be selling them to other inmates.

i would leave him, but that's just me, & only you can decide what to do. but to me it pretty much sounds like he's showing you right now exactly how he's gonna act when he gets out. if it's this bad now, imagine what he will do when he is free. he sounds pretty selfish. you don't wanna be kicking yourself when he gets out once things are way worse for not leaving now while you have the chance. give that some serious thought.

SOLLIAH · #15 08-19-2010, 11:43 PM

I would do the kiss on a paper thing. No signature. My man would know its me. Ha.

Temeron0926 · #16 08-20-2010, 01:40 AM

Boy I will tell you what I would do IF Ray ever asked me to do that! I would tell him EXACTLY where he could get off! That is so disrespectful! He doesn't need a MySpace page when he is in prison, he doesn't need to have you putting his address out there so others can write to him, he doesn't need pictures of anyone but you!

I would write him one more letter. Tell him exactly how this makes you feel. Tell him if he insits on wanting to go through with this, then he can just pound sand and find some other woman who will let him disrespect her like that!

There is no way in hell I would put up with this kind of behavior from my fiancee' and he knows it!

YOU need to choose if you want to stay with someone who would treat you like that from prison, because it is a good bet he will treat you worse when he gets out. JMHO!

needmyhubby · #17 08-20-2010, 02:20 AM

Wow, I am so sorry. I really don't understand men/ boys. You have stood by him and then he asks you that. Just remember you are a wonderful mother & deserve to be treated like a queen and if you are not enough for him, well then he just doesn't deserve you. You take care of you and your children and some day he will realize how stupid that was. My prayers are with you and your family. He should be proud that his woman was waiting for him and taking care of his children without help.

teyesbaby · #18 08-20-2010, 02:56 AM

He was not worthy of a woman like you from the start. Let him go i know it will hurt but you have already invested nine years to him and you deserve better. You have to set certain limits when it comes to making your man happy don't go down that road with him trust me at the end of that road will be alot of hurt and pain for you not him. You can now focus more on yourself and taking care of your two children that's what counts at the end of the day. Give him to The Lord he will handle him.

1_day_at_a_time · #19 08-20-2010, 03:13 AM

WOW!!!!! Girl....def start putting YOU first.....what good will possibly come out of him wanting other females to contact him??? If my man EVER asked me to do something like that all he'd be hearring is the dial tone in his ear-I just feel that's SO disrespectful. Why does he even want to hear from other ppl? I can understand sending model or celebrity pics or something like that...Hell I offered to get him Playboy!!! LOL And then he gets mad at you? You deserve better sweetie-Would he be ok with you having a page for guys to contact you "just to talk" while he's away? I bet not! Take care of yourself!

mikeswifey730 · #20 08-20-2010, 06:01 AM

I would thank you tiny but I'm on my blackberry lol (later I will)

Ok OP um this dude is on some ill ass shit if my husband EVER requested pix of other chicks or to make a myspace or facebook page for him so he can get other letters I would put him in place with the quickness bc in *my* eyes then AM I NOT ENUFF? This *to me* sounds like the start of a jacked up situation, keep ur eyes open n be careful wit this one..

ShoesHappen · #21 08-20-2010, 06:05 AM

It does sound fishy that he wants pictures of females ... that's just plain disrespectful to you, he should just want pictures of you!
As far as the social networking website goes, well, I made my husband one too, and he has old friends sending him friend requests left and right, some ask for his address, others don't. Putting a physical address on a website like that is probably not the best way to go, that is personal info you don't really want just anyone to have.
If you're worried about him cheating, don't you think it's time for a visit and a long talk about your relationship and where both of you stand?

BlueEyedEllie · #22 08-20-2010, 06:35 AM

I would be very hurt if my man had asked for pics of other women.(I thought it was bad when he bugged me for pics of myself,constantly.

)He is being extremely selfish and insensitive and is letting you know loud and clear that his heart is not completely with you.It is up to you to decide what you want to do,but he is NOT being loving to you AT ALL!!

t'slovingwife · #23 08-20-2010, 06:46 AM

Big red flag! I know you have invested a lot of years in your relationship, BUT....he is trying to get you to help him find other females. Just not right...no myspace page, no pics of other women. I would surely step back. Take care of you!

HisSexyLove · #24 08-20-2010, 07:55 AM

I would not be with that at all sounds completely disrespectful and shows very little care or concern for you.

nakeisha99 · #25 08-20-2010, 11:10 AM

Sounds like he trying to run game on you. That's crazy. I guess I'm getting old cause I don't understand the Myspace thing. To me, his intentions seem quite obvious. Why does he need a female pen pal? Why aren't you enough? These are questions I'd be asking.