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Keepin6 · #26 09-11-2010, 03:09 PM

Well thank god here in canada you don't need to be married to get trailer visits. I did three years of them with my ex and let me tell you. Those four days together is incredible. No camera's. Cook for him. Spend time with children. It's great. Now i also know about five or six couples who got married thinking it would be easier once they got to federal but it makes no difference. Most of them did it just for package purposes but i did it to show some love. My man was my world and he knew it. Aw. The good old days lol i'm back with my ex before him now. And PA don't get trailer visits so no dice.

Kuntry_By<3 · #27 09-11-2010, 07:51 PM

We are not gettin married solely on conjugal visits. We love each other very much. Sex is not everything. Even though it does help lol. I dont think Georgia allows conjugals anyways

but we plan on saying our "I do" s on April 23!

REyNAiSEM · #28 09-11-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Vegas

I would marry him....but not while in jail! I'm not tryin to get pregnant and then I go thru a pregnancy and begin to raise a child w/o.....=(

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Originally Posted by dopeys_shortee

very true! me && my bf were really upset because when he qot taken in, i was havinq symptoms && we thouqht i was preqnant. then when he qot sentenced...we were scared. luckily i wasn't cause it would be his first child && he would've missed a lot

Unfortunatly for me I had to go through the whole pregnancy and birth of my son without my man. fortunatly for me he'll be out 2 months b4 my sons first birthday and not when my sons grown enough to know better. Its deffinaly hard on me emoitionally and deffinatly physically. He knows that i love him but he knows its his own fault hes in there. even though he cant be here I write him in detail and send pictures so that he can be up to date on everything. its deffinalty not how I seen my first pregnancy going but when you want it to work you deffinatly make it work

but to answer the poll We dont have those visits here in AZ Id still deffinatly marry him anyway!!!
those of you who say you wouldnt marry him come on nowwwwwwwww unless ur old school and dont do the deed until your marry you cant say you dont miss it. maybe you wouldnt do it just for that but i think everyone on this site deffinatly would

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Originally Posted by FredsGal

We are not gettin married solely on conjugal visits. We love each other very much. Sex is not everything. Even though it does help lol. I dont think Georgia allows conjugals anyways

but we plan on saying our "I do" s on April 23!

heyyyyyyyyyyyy thats when my hubby is supposed to get out!!!

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Well thank god here in canada you don't need to be married to get trailer visits. I did three years of them with my ex and let me tell you. Those four days together is incredible. No camera's. Cook for him. Spend time with children. It's great..

GASP!!!! AMAZING! CANADA GETS MORE AND MORE WONDERFUL THE MORE I KNOW ABOUT IT

dopeys_shortee · #29 09-11-2010, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Well thank god here in canada you don't need to be married to get trailer visits. I did three years of them with my ex and let me tell you. Those four days together is incredible. No camera's. Cook for him. Spend time with children. It's great. Now i also know about five or six couples who got married thinking it would be easier once they got to federal but it makes no difference. Most of them did it just for package purposes but i did it to show some love. My man was my world and he knew it. Aw. The good old days lol i'm back with my ex before him now. And PA don't get trailer visits so no dice.

omq! ahhhh why can't we be in Canada? or why can't we qet family visits without beinq married? im not talkinq just for the sex either...we like cuddlinq toqether a lot.

dopeys_shortee · #30 09-11-2010, 08:50 PM

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Originally Posted by REyNAiSEM

Unfortunatly for me I had to go through the whole pregnancy and birth of my son without my man. fortunatly for me he'll be out 2 months b4 my sons first birthday and not when my sons grown enough to know better. Its deffinaly hard on me emoitionally and deffinatly physically. He knows that i love him but he knows its his own fault hes in there. even though he cant be here I write him in detail and send pictures so that he can be up to date on everything. its deffinalty not how I seen my first pregnancy going but when you want it to work you deffinatly make it work

but to answer the poll We dont have those visits here in AZ Id still deffinatly marry him anyway!!!
those of you who say you wouldnt marry him come on nowwwwwwwww unless ur old school and dont do the deed until your marry you cant say you dont miss it. maybe you wouldnt do it just for that but i think everyone on this site deffinatly would

heyyyyyyyyyyyy thats when my hubby is supposed to get out!!!

GASP!!!! AMAZING! CANADA GETS MORE AND MORE WONDERFUL THE MORE I KNOW ABOUT IT

awww im sorry that he missed all that but at least he's qettinq out soon. the baby won't remember;; hes still too little so thats the qood thinq.

yea i do miss it...a lot. i'm somewhat open to qettinq married while he's locked up but time-wise...it makes no difference. hes qot less than a year && a half left;; we'd have to qet approved, qet a date, then we'd have to wait to qet a family visit date. by the time all that is done, he'll prolly be out already lol. we miqht as well wait so we can do it biq.

Keepin6 · #31 09-11-2010, 10:59 PM

Ya they say that it takes a lot of aggression and hostility out of the inmates and anybody doing federal time can get them. Like i said four days every month and a half... As he said. Hurtin for certain! Lol

BrownEyedGurl · #32 09-11-2010, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Ya they say that it takes a lot of aggression and hostility out of the inmates and anybody doing federal time can get them. Like i said four days every month and a half... As he said. Hurtin for certain! Lol

Thats probably so true, about the hostility and aggression, I never thought about that. That would be nice.

dopeys_shortee · #33 09-11-2010, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Ya they say that it takes a lot of aggression and hostility out of the inmates and anybody doing federal time can get them. Like i said four days every month and a half... As he said. Hurtin for certain! Lol

4 days?? every month && a half?? wow! i would be floatinq on cloud 9 with that lol! i read some where that you only qet family visits in california every 6 months or somethinq && only 42 hours...plus you have to be married. i knew i was riqht when i told my bf we should run away to Canada

i really did say that btw lol

Keepin6 · #34 09-11-2010, 11:10 PM

Lol ya it depends really on the facility. We were about every six weeks. It's like a little complex of five or six i guess kinda like townhouses. We get a barbeque and if you have kids which we didn't there are some swings and stuff in the back yard. Lol can wave at your neighbours lol it was great. I loved them. I find the american and canadian system to be very different. Something in america dude would get ten years and here you won't even go to the pen for it. Maybe a year. Its so different

dopeys_shortee · #35 09-11-2010, 11:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

Lol ya it depends really on the facility. We were about every six weeks. It's like a little complex of five or six i guess kinda like townhouses. We get a barbeque and if you have kids which we didn't there are some swings and stuff in the back yard. Lol can wave at your neighbours lol it was great. I loved them. I find the american and canadian system to be very different. Something in america dude would get ten years and here you won't even go to the pen for it. Maybe a year. Its so different

there are definately some chanqes that i think everyone can aqree that need to be made to the american justice system.

some of our wonderful PTO ladies should become senators so we can qet the chanqes we are all wishinq for

~*C4$per'$.WiiFeY*~ · #36 09-12-2010, 12:44 AM

Well I said yes! BUT I have been w/my man for 6 years and had been engaged for the last 3 years we just never got around to getting married while he was OUT! Now he went back after being out the whole time we've been together and the amount of time he'll be down, we decided to get married while he was still here in town b4 he got taken to DVI for the family visits (we have 3 kids). I went through w/it cuz we had plans on doing so out here anyway!

luvn2bratz4life · #37 09-12-2010, 12:56 AM

I didnt do the poll because none of the answers would be right.Im marrying my guy next week because we love each other.We already know what the ups n downs are and we are gonna get through this together.If sex was all i wanted i could get that out here..We cannot have family visits after were married..at least not for a little while until his in custody status goes down.Sure imma love it once we can but for the time being we are focusing on strengthening our relationship in other areas.

young love · #38 09-12-2010, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by toccaram

We got married in jail but he asked me 2 months before he got locked up. I already knew I was going to wait the 5 yrs for him so the fv were just a bonus although we have had 1 it was great he was transferred to a different prison and now they are trying to screw us out of fv. I know if were getting them on a regular basis it would definately help the time go faster. 3 more years to go. But ladies doing a jail wedding let me tell you you go home on your wedding night pretty lonely....LOL

i know i also got marry on jail,and i left feeling lonely,hopefully we can get congujal visit's,

REyNAiSEM · #39 09-12-2010, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by dopeys_shortee

we miqht as well wait so we can do it biq.

i deffinatly agree!!!

Kuntry_By<3 · #40 09-12-2010, 08:55 AM

CONGRATS Reyn! Glad we picked a good date lol.

DannysGirl11984 · #41 09-12-2010, 09:30 AM

i marked yes but it really all depends.. it depends on how much time he had... like write now no. but if he had like 10 years or something than yeah.

HisElaine · #42 09-12-2010, 10:28 AM

Kansas doesn't have Conjucal visits... But even if they did, it wouldn't make a difference. Neither of us want to get married until we know 100% that we'll NEVER have to do it again! I don't think getting married solely for sex is a good idea! Having been thru a divorce myself I can tell you, a piece of A** isn't worth the hassle of getting a divorce when things don't work out.. JMO

Emansgirl · #43 09-12-2010, 11:51 AM

Definately YES! but not jus for sex-thats jus tha icing on tha cake

i dont think its tha rite decision for everyone-if their time is like 5 or so yrs-i would forsure wait till they got home. but my guy got 19+ and together we have too little ones that love him very much and jus to have that little normality and being a family without sitting at a table with all tha restrictions would mean tha world to us..me and him are still fairly young-im 22 and he 25-i love him very much n i kno tomaros never promised-what if that day never comes- so i want to make tha most outta this life we were given together-we gonna be together anyway why wait THAT long-i dont want to waste my life away by waiting for everything-with a man n prison i feel like thats all i do is wait..

sage26 · #44 09-12-2010, 12:56 PM

I would do it now if they let us not b.c of the conjugal, but b.c i'm ready to marry him. but i just want to know if we get marry in there we can't have conjugal! if we could that would be good, he wants to wait til he is out, i don't. i'm ready.

mzsogood · #45 09-12-2010, 01:44 PM

i married my hubby, but it wasn't for conjugal visits. Texas doesn't offer them i married him because he is my soul mate and my bestfriend

Keepin6 · #46 09-12-2010, 01:56 PM

And being someone who has done them believe me, sex isn't the best part of it. It's the normal day to day life you live. Cooking together. Barbeque some steaks. Have kids play with dad. It's great. Four days of normal life.

ride_or_die · #47 09-12-2010, 05:39 PM

i didn't vote because my answer wasn't there. my fiance is in for a very long time and i rather marry him while he is in because who knows what will happen in the years to come before he get out. i want to be his wife before i leave this earth! We do not get conjugal visits and since i am in texas we have to marry by proxy so yes i am giving up everything i ever dreamed of as a little girl wanting to get married but i love him with all my heart and i will marry him anyway that i possibly can!

Lorintaylor · #48 09-12-2010, 08:40 PM

Yes I would!! We are already engaged, my man comes home in nov and we plan on getting married in Feb. but i'm deff going to have to say yes on this one!

SOLLIAH · #49 09-12-2010, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Keepin6

And being someone who has done them believe me, sex isn't the best part of it. It's the normal day to day life you live. Cooking together. Barbeque some steaks. Have kids play with dad. It's great. Four days of normal life.

that is the real purpose behind Family visits. So a inmate and family can be together. Enjoy his wife and kids. Most people miss that.

Keepin6 · #50 09-12-2010, 11:25 PM

Ya i know. I see all these people mentioning its not just because of the sex but thats not the point lol like i said it supposidly makes inmates less aggressive and hostile and gives the prison less problems. But those 4 days of normality meant more than the banging going on. Just being able to sleep next to him was well worth it.