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Jillian · #1 10-26-2010, 08:30 PM

Today was very weird for some reason i was watching E! Investigates and they were talking about Teen Pregnancy Nightmares and after that it had a show called Husbands who kill. In the first show it showed a 14 year old who was pregnant by a 22 year old. He would get violent with her when he didn't get his way but she didn't want to leave him. Her parents even got a restraining order against him but they still spent time together. End of the program he had her killed and went to prison for it. He didn't want the baby to be born or it would have proven that he did father that child and he would get in trouble.

The next show was about husbands who kill, now i watched the show and i was appalled by what i was seeing and how these men killed their wives over some of the simplest things. The weirdest part about all of this was the phone call my family received tonight stating that my cousin's husband stabbed her to death this evening at her job. Her and her husband were separated and have been for some time. We don't know any of the details except that the children were right there when he did it. They saw it all, he told them kiss daddy goodbye im going to kill your mom.

Things are never that bad where you have to take another person's life. If things aren't working out, and you have tried , there is nothing to do but let it go, move on. Why hurt someone who may still have love for you but doesn't want to be with you anymore.

**LeBeau** · #2 10-26-2010, 08:48 PM

Oh, Baby, I'm so sorry that this particular horror has touched your family... I hope the children are given all the love and all the therapy they will need to recover from this.... now, go hug someone short who loves you and remember that I'm here if you need me... Will be on the road headed home tomorrow and Thursday, but I'll check in when I can.

nimuay · #3 10-26-2010, 08:49 PM

Oh, Jillian, that's so awful!

vera31 · #4 10-26-2010, 09:31 PM

I'm sorry this happened to your cousin. My prayers go out for her and the children.

Jillian · #5 10-26-2010, 10:04 PM

Thanks you all, i think what is the hardest to understand besides the actual attack, is that there were two security officers/ her co workers who just stood by and watched. Only her son tried to help her. I was telling another one of my cousins that things happen here but people do try and step in and help. He said that there in Trinidad everyone just keeps walking or just look as it goes on its like they are all desensitize to what is going on.

I have been thru domestic violence before with an ex and that got really scary at times, but i was able to make it thru it. I thought i knew and understood the jest of it but this is on a whole other level of craziness. Its unimaginable trying to think about what was going through those kids mind trying to fight off their father. nonetheless my cousin sabrina.

Sunflower · #6 10-27-2010, 06:46 AM

Im so sorry. Those poor babies. How anyone can stand by and watch is beyond me. Sending lots of prayers!!
God Bless,
Lisa

Jillian · #7 10-27-2010, 11:16 AM

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Originally Posted by LisaSutton

Im so sorry. Those poor babies. How anyone can stand by and watch is beyond me. Sending lots of prayers!!
God Bless,
Lisa

Thanks i think what it is, is that people in trinidad don't want to get involve for fear of retaliation from the person or their friends.

Jillian · #8 10-27-2010, 01:32 PM

here is an article of what happened to my cousin. http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/...105839568.html

Brandy · #9 10-27-2010, 01:35 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that, how sad for your family and her kids. .
many prayers for your family..

That is just insane he told the kids that, that is going to scar them badly.. awe poor babies..

Sunflower · #10 10-27-2010, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Jillian

here is an article of what happened to my cousin. http://www.trinidadexpress.com/news/...105839568.html

My goodness those boys will never forget what they saw, I pray God washes over them. This is so so so sad! I will keep all of you in my prayers!!!
God Bless,
Lisa

mooshy · #11 10-27-2010, 04:26 PM

No one will ever understand what goes on in the mind of a man who can act like that. What an appalling thing for your family Jillian. Those poor boys - will they be surrounded by family there?

13lazyboy · #12 10-27-2010, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Jillian

Today was very weird for some reason i was watching E! Investigates and they were talking about Teen Pregnancy Nightmares and after that it had a show called Husbands who kill. In the first show it showed a 14 year old who was pregnant by a 22 year old. He would get violent with her when he didn't get his way but she didn't want to leave him. Her parents even got a restraining order against him but they still spent time together. End of the program he had her killed and went to prison for it. He didn't want the baby to be born or it would have proven that he did father that child and he would get in trouble.

The next show was about husbands who kill, now i watched the show and i was appalled by what i was seeing and how these men killed their wives over some of the simplest things. The weirdest part about all of this was the phone call my family received tonight stating that my cousin's husband stabbed her to death this evening at her job. Her and her husband were separated and have been for some time. We don't know any of the details except that the children were right there when he did it. They saw it all, he told them kiss daddy goodbye im going to kill your mom.

Things are never that bad where you have to take another person's life. If things aren't working out, and you have tried , there is nothing to do but let it go, move on. Why hurt someone who may still have love for you but doesn't want to be with you anymore.

Wow your story has touched me deeply. I was one of those girls that was pregnant and beaten by her husband. It was only one occasion but boy did affect us both. I was always quick to snap but this time tables turned and well he went away for DV and I was taken 51/50. My husband did come home and things are good but on the back of my mind I always wonder will it ever happen again. I too have changed my ways where I think before I react. Cause we both lost so much. Our pact now is if we are not happy then we just have to move on and deal with it. Nothing is worth loosing a life for. And to think that in a blink of an eye I almost killed him for putting his hands on me. I would have lost my kids but God gave me and him a second chance.

I want to thank you for your post because you made me think and put things in more of a perspective cause you are right you should just let it go and I am very sorry for your loss.

tnm8 · #13 10-27-2010, 05:30 PM

I am sorry for your loss. This just goes to show that Domestic Violence is a serious issue that many people don't want to understand. What i don't get is why nobody tackled him to the ground if they saw him pull out the knife? I mean, I would've been suspicious of the man just walking in like that... You can feel a person's vibe when they aren't entirely good {at least i can} This is so sad... Those kids will remember that for life, and they probably did see their dad beat on her before, that is why she left..

only1love · #14 10-27-2010, 05:56 PM

This is so very sad! I am so sorry that you are going through this. I feel so bad for those children

Jillian · #15 10-27-2010, 09:09 PM

Thank you all for the support, i really appreciate it as does my family.

Jillian · #16 10-27-2010, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by mooshy

No one will ever understand what goes on in the mind of a man who can act like that. What an appalling thing for your family Jillian. Those poor boys - will they be surrounded by family there?

Yes my uncle and aunt will take the boys in, the good thing is my uncle and them have always been a strong part of the kids life.

Jillian · #17 10-27-2010, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by 13lazyboy

Wow your story has touched me deeply. I was one of those girls that was pregnant and beaten by her husband. It was only one occasion but boy did affect us both. I was always quick to snap but this time tables turned and well he went away for DV and I was taken 51/50. My husband did come home and things are good but on the back of my mind I always wonder will it ever happen again. I too have changed my ways where I think before I react. Cause we both lost so much. Our pact now is if we are not happy then we just have to move on and deal with it. Nothing is worth loosing a life for. And to think that in a blink of an eye I almost killed him for putting his hands on me. I would have lost my kids but God gave me and him a second chance.

I want to thank you for your post because you made me think and put things in more of a perspective cause you are right you should just let it go and I am very sorry for your loss.

I am glad that you gained something from my post. I am sorry that you have been through that type of violence before. i am glad that things are going better for the both of you. Its good that you and him realize that you both needed to work on something and that if it doesn't work out in the long run the best thing is for yall to go y'all separate ways. That is what God does he helps you all to find better ways to deal with different situations in a more calmer perspective. Thank you again

mooshy · #18 10-28-2010, 12:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Jillian

Yes my uncle and aunt will take the boys in, the good thing is my uncle and them have always been a strong part of the kids life.

Well that is certainly something to be grateful for and wonderful that they have such a positive male role model at such a crucial time..

ladyred23tx · #19 10-28-2010, 12:17 AM

My prayers will got out to you and you family so sorry for your loss

Jillian · #20 10-28-2010, 12:35 AM

thank you

**LifeTraveler** · #21 10-31-2010, 04:09 AM

Jillian, I am just now reading this. I am SO sorry for what happened to your family member. And, OH, those poor children. I wanted to cry when I read the article.

I have all your family in prayer!!

Jillian · #22 11-01-2010, 09:08 PM

Thank you so much for that, i really appreciate it .