Has your man ever told you he's afraid of losing you?

[Franksgirl4ever]

My husband tells me that I left him once (when we were kids my family moved away) and that he is scared that I will leave him again. We are first loves-one and only true loves. I reassure him as much as I can...I tell him that I took my vows very seriously and hopefully this is the part where we are getting the bad out of the way before we get to the good! You know, the worse before the better!!!

[luckiigurl_3.14]

My love tells me he's afraid he's done too much to hinder our relationship and he's scared to death I will leave him with nothing and no one... He says he'd rather die or kill himself than lose me, especially if it's his own fault. =[ All I can do is assure him that without a damn good cause I will not leave his side. I love him more than anything in the world. He saved me from myself. <3

[Adam'sSunshine]

We both have our moments, but we communicate very well with one another about what/how we are feeling. When he was locked up a few years ago, his girlfriend had sex with two of his "friends" and tried with his brother, all within 2 months of him being arrested. He knows that I am not like anyone he has ever been with.
He has told me several times that he loves me enough to want to see me happy-even if that means me being with someone else-and that if this ever gets to be too much on me ( I have Lupus and he worries that I stress too much and make myself sick ) he would understand me walking away, especially since he got 30 years, and though we are hopeful his appeal will get approved, it is a reality that he may have to do all his time.
I dont see myself ever walking away from him, regardless. He has treated me with more respect and shown his love for me more than any other I have been with.
I believe when it's real, time and distance don't diminish your feelings toward each other...we are always together in our hearts, and will be together again physically one day

[KNA392]

Originally Posted by Adam'sSunshine

We both have our moments, but we communicate very well with one another about what/how we are feeling. When he was locked up a few years ago, his girlfriend had sex with two of his "friends" and tried with his brother, all within 2 months of him being arrested. He knows that I am not like anyone he has ever been with.
He has told me several times that he loves me enough to want to see me happy-even if that means me being with someone else-and that if this ever gets to be too much on me ( I have Lupus and he worries that I stress too much and make myself sick ) he would understand me walking away, especially since he got 30 years, and though we are hopeful his appeal will get approved, it is a reality that he may have to do all his time.
I dont see myself ever walking away from him, regardless. He has treated me with more respect and shown his love for me more than any other I have been with.
I believe when it's real, time and distance don't diminish your feelings toward each other...we are always together in our hearts, and will be together again physically one day

Wow this sounds exactly like me and my fiancee.. he tells me all the time he would never ask me to stay he would rather me be happy with someone else. we are still waiting to find out how much time he is going to do but he is worried that i will leave him if he does have to do a good chunk of time. i tell him all the time that he is stuck with me im not going anywhere. but i love the last part you put about when its real time and distance don't diminish your feelings towards each other. thats how i feel too!

[PrettyBluLuv]

lol Hubbys been saying it before we even got married and he got locked up... I think he pretty much knows by now but every now and then he tells me in his letters and almost always on the phone. But he know if I can still be with him after him doing his crime and him getting 25 to life, Im pretty much not going anywhere unless he flat out does something that he knows I won't put up with... You should consider yourself lucky cause there are some men who feel their woman is obligated to be with them...

[lilmscomplete]

I think this is a fear that runs through most peoples thoughts when their locked up. Me and my baby have had our ups and downs, and he has expressed feeling this way to some degree; But he knows in his heart I aint going nowhere. Reassuring someone is a good start but my policy is strictly show and prove. I've stuck by him this long and he knows thats not gonna change

[jdcl0215]

in the beginning mine was scared that he was going to lose me. he would always tell me, I don't know what I would do without you, and that i'm the only thing keeping him sane while he is in there because he knows that i want him home safe.

[Tims_wife]

I have another question, you have such a nice time ticker, where did you go to get that ?

as to the question of the poll - he said he was scared before, but I am not going anywhere and am very proud to be his wife and often tell him so. It is such a hard time on the men, they need to be reassured

Originally Posted by hisprettygirl10

mine tells me he is scared i might get tired of this and leave to not because he really believes i would but because of his past. this is his first time ever in trouble, but all his ex's and both babymommas did him rlly dirty. He is starting to realize im not goin anywhere though we have deep convo's about our trust issues and its getting better. have you tried gettin your man to write out his faults & insecurities and you do the same just to try to get on the same level?!

[inmyheart4ever]

yes he thinks i might leave because of how long he has..but iam his forever

[magicnb]

mine tells me that all the time and i tell him calm down...LOL

[Paulson1371]

Yes, several times he has told me and his family that he is terrified of losing me.I just tell him that it is not a possibility.I remind him that we have a strong relationship and have been thru alot. He says he knows and then he says that there are guys out there that can give me what he can't and I tell him that if he can't give it to me than I have no desire to have it.He was sentenced for 25 years to natural life,and him and I have been married 15 years,he has been locked up 14 years and so it's not a matter of him not trusting me its more a matter of him worrying that I am going to get tired of waiting for him,well I have waited 14 years so I don't think me getting tired of waiting will happen.It hasn't been easy for either of us.

[Marie_Marie]

He has told me a couple times that he's scared he's going to lose me. I try to make him feel secure that I'm going to stay with him. I love him with my whole being and don't even look at other men...and I think part of him knows I will never leave him.

[forever_ever_baby]

My hubby is very scared of loosing me that will never happen after all the stuff we have been through

[luvsham]

My husband goes through phases were he says he wants to divorce me because he thinks that it is wrong to ask me to wait soooo long for him. I tell him that it is wrong for him to decide whats right for me. It makes me so sad becuase I know he is just really depressed cause he is looking at such a long sentence. I try to tell him that it is not good for him to think negative thoughts, but I know that it is hard for him not to.

[jy_ty]

I think in the back of his mind he worries about losing me but he knows he has a good woman (he tells me this all the time). I have no plans or thoughts what-so-ever to leave his side. I've told him the only way I'd leave for sure is if he cheats on me or hits me. We have a good, healthy love and I would never jeopardize that.

[NurseDown]

So I received a hysterical phone call from the love of my life today which completely had me in tears. He cried all 20 minutes of our phone call pleading that he is being tormented all day and all night with the thoughts of me leaving him. I had to take a deep breath and try to calm him down. I kept pleading with him that where I am to go? I'm 14 weeks pregnant, our home is under major renovation, I work 70 hour weeks at work and since we just moved 2 years ago to this state, I barely have any friends. I reassured my love that I don't want anyone else. He kept crying and asking "why has God stopped hearing me? why has he given up on me?" Of course I reassured him that God didn't stop listening and hasn't given up on him. I told him that through all the animalistic things we've done to one another God has given us this time to sink or swim. If we work together lovingly and united we can withstand any test of time or event. If we start playing the blame game and attacking each other and keep going the way things were going before he went in we'd fail miserably and go our separate ways! I love this man with all my heart and soul and would give my life for his. No other man could ever take his place and I will wait a lifetime to just get 1 night (if it has to come to that) to lay in his arms and just be held by him and kissed on the head.

[Tamara981]

He told me alot in the beginning that he was scared of losing me. Then it went to please don't hurt me. And now I think he is confident enough in us and our relationship to know that he isn't gonna lose me.

[perlahernandez]

Originally Posted by carla510

Thank You ALL i some times have my moments of not knowin wat to do cuz i have NO one to talk to cuz they dont understand n so now i spend all my days on here lol

omg!! my man was always telling me this when he was only in county, because he said that he knew he had already made me go through so much, it really would irritate me and id be like junior i love you and you know im not going anywhere but apparently he thought or thinks differently since a lot of his homeboys have lost there girls, now his in state jail and i dont get my first visit until after january the 7th, (my bday :'( ) and i know its driving him crazy not knowing anything about me especially since im prego, and our one year old son. hopefully i get to see him soon, and im pretty sure ima have to be reassuring him everytime lol, but yea just like you im here like 24/7, just cause its so hard for my sisters and mom to understand i mean they try, but they cant cause they've never been in my situation, so if you ever need to talk to anybody im here! i seriously consider this website a gift from God lol!

[Ohusillywabbit]

Yes he is & once he did ! He had some growing up to do !

[JenZ]

Good question! Mine never says he is afraid of losing me, but I know why! My fiance and I were each other's firsts in many ways . . . that was 23 years ago and we were physically separated, not of our own choice - I was sent to live with my mother 2000 miles away, I was 14 and he was 17.

We found each other again and that love we once had is still alive and even stronger! I can't visit him (he's 1900 miles away), I can't speak to him (he has premature hearing loss and his hearing aid is broken), yet we are both extremely secure in our relationship.

We both know that God had his hand in us finding one another, at a time when we both needed one another.

[eroro1608]

Originally Posted by luvmyLAboo

We have been writing for a year, but we have been "together" for about 5 months. I love him something crazy...he has my heart and I would be completely lost without him. I tell him that ALL the time. It gets easier, he doesn't have his moments as often. But I can always tell when he is feeling like he can't do anything for me from in there, why would I wait, etc and I just send him more and more letters and cards. We are currently having one of those "moments" so, in the last 3 days I have sent 3 letters and 3 cards, plus some pics for him.

You're situation is so frickin' the same as mine I had to read your last 2 posts a couple of times because I said, "I don't remember actually posting or did?!" My 'chango' and I knew ABOUT each other for the last 20 years-(same 'hood and since most of us grew up, went to school, have parents still here and have the same friends and it's all part of the street hustle) we just left it at that. I took a chance and emailed him when I saw he was locked up in August and told him if he needs a friend I'd be here, and when he gets out would he like to be BETTER FRIENDS?? ...I got a reply 2 days later with the words "OH HELL YEAH!" at the top! And that was the beginning. In the last 6 months I found out this man is the sweetest, smartest and loving guy...EVER! All I saw was the homie side-and he was nothin' nice out here-BUT there was still the man underneath he kept away and that's who I would die for! He's coming home to ME in 20 months! But I admit we both were scared of losing each other.
Not anymore. He just got moved from county to go to state, I have no idea where he's at, and we knew it would be a period of no communication but he told me he's alright if I'm alright. I am. He's been in before so that's not new. He got done dirty by his ex-wife when he went in the first time BADLY and that was 8 years ago and there's been no one serious since, and he tells me I'm the last woman he's going to love!

I've waited all my life for a man to feel like that-shoot, 20 months ain't nothing!!

[HoneyB71]

My baby tells me this now especially since, he has just been transferred to an old case and not sure how much longer he will have to serve. A couple of more years at most. I told him that I know where I want to be and nothing is going to let me lose sight of that ever again. I walked away once and hurt him deeply. And, we have come too far together this time around and I will not let anything get in the way of my being there for him. Our relationship is so very important and I told him to watch my actions instead of listening to the words. My actions will speak louder than any word that I can say; I know that the words are comforting too.

[montana4910]

yes he has told me that many times and i always reassure him that im not going anywhere!!!

[foolsjourney]

Maybe he is just insecure

[truluv4life]

No he hasn't. I think it's because he knows I'm here til the end....(smiles)