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MrsEiermann2010 · #**176** 06-24-2011, 03:54 PM

Why yes he does, but not all the time! Only when he's having his man period lol! He knows I'm going anywhere!

Chelsky and Kevlar

MrsEiermann2010 · #**177** 06-24-2011, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsEiermann2010

Why yes he does, but not all the time! Only when he's having his man period lol! He knows I'm going anywhere!

Chelsky and Kevlar

Sorry! NOT going anywhere!!!!!

Chelsky and Kevlar

2008shasha · #**178** 06-25-2011, 01:09 PM

Yea he tells me he's afraid of losing me, because he got 2 more years To see parole, so he wants us to marry by proxy

sweety83 · #**179** 06-25-2011, 09:23 PM

Yes my bf must say in every single letter his greatest fear is loosing me that i keep him going strong. HE always says how im his soulmate and no matter what i tell him over and over im not planning on leaving you i love you with all my heart and hes gotten to the point where he seems to see it but yet he still says i dont no how i caught such a great girl who sees past my past and how ive changed for the better and sticking by her man.

MsPrettiJackson · #**180** 06-25-2011, 09:31 PM

I feel the same way. He was sentence to 15 years and come up for parole in 7 1/2 years...but since he's in a wheelchair and going to the med unit he seems to think since this is his first offense and no proofs he's go be home in about 3years...we just got married and often I ask myself or tell myself rather if the shoe was on the other foot would the man do it got us and the answer would be hell no cause their always thinking with the wrong head so why should I wait? But im taking it day by day

MissBarnes · #**181** 06-25-2011, 09:35 PM

My man tells me that everytime he writes me no matter how many times i tell him that i am in this til the end.

lovinmyhusband · #**182** 06-25-2011, 09:36 PM

Yeah but we're working on it, and my actions speaks louder than words so I believe he's truly beginning to see im here forever.

gabbsplus2 · #**183** 11-22-2011, 02:39 PM

Too many times

He is so insecure, well even more now that he is in there. Even if we were to separate its not like we would just say good bye because we have 2 beautiful reasons to be attatched forever and thats our 2 babies...I try to reassure him every time we talk that i will be waiting patiently and respect him always, but I dont know how much of his insecurities i can take:/ Only time will tell I guess...

LacyDusty'sWife · #**184** 11-22-2011, 03:27 PM

My husband isn't one for sharing his feelings out loud at least!! When he got caught up he called me and started crying because he thought I was gunna leave him!! I think he knows that I'm not going anywhere!! However he once told me that he doesent care if our marriage makes 1,000,000,000 people painfully miserable as long as we make eachother happy that's all that matters!!!"

mrsharper17 · #**185** 11-22-2011, 04:09 PM

he knows im not but given the charges of this prison term every single letter damn near says please dont give up on me

missingLance01 · #**186** 11-23-2011, 03:28 AM

Yea he has.. But I feel the same way. I swear if anything happens to him someone better lock me up cuz I'm goin to lose it on the real.

Lovin my king/daddy/heart/everything to the fullest! <3 F the public!

Sheryl P. · #**187** 11-23-2011, 05:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Dric's BabyGirl

Dric used to be scared to death that I was gonna leave him for someone on the outside. For the most part he knows I'm not going anywhere but he still has his moments. I just keep reassuring him; usually more by action (more letters, longer letters, romantic cards). But I also make it a point to tell him every time we talk that he's stuck with me

At one point, pretty early on, he didn't get any mail from me for like 4 days (I was writing, he just wasn't getting them) so he writes me this long a$$ letter saying, "I guess you don't f*ck wit me no more. What you do find yourself a man? Its okay, you'll always be MY baby girl but I knew it would come to this. I'm no good to you behind bars. You deserve to be with someone on the outside anyway." I was flipping out cuz I'd be writing every day so I didn't understand where it was coming from. And we didn't have phone calls back then. Took me about 2 weeks of letters and cards to convince him that I hadn't gone anywhere, that I hadn't found anyone on the outside, and I wasn't going anywhere. We've had a couple of similar incidents since then.

Just remember that he doesn't know what's going on on the outside, that he will sometimes feel useless to you, and that there are probably people inside telling him you won't be waiting, you're cheating on him, etc. Keep reassuring him, keep writing, keep talking, and visit every chance you can. Eventually he'll see that you AREN'T going anywhere. But even then he'll still have his moments

I date everything since they tend to hold mail for weeks and then just dump it on the guys in shu.He can then sort it out as to which one is first and so on.I think they remove the stamps and the mailing dates get lost that way,so he can figure out which letter to read first.Sometimes I get on a topic and then elaborate as I sort out my thoughts,it can get confusing without dates.It is a good way to let them know you have been writing,even if they only get the mail once a month.

Klewis · #**188** 12-01-2011, 08:37 AM

My Fiance' had a very hard time getting me and he knows alot about my background since we grew up together. He knows I really don't have time for foolishness and I will leave a person if I don't feel I am getting all I am putting in so after he got denied parole he has been on pins and needles about losing me. I have a lot of expectations for people and my mom says thats what my problem is and that may be the case. I am working on it and that is why I am still hanging on to our relationship. I told my Fiance' though lets not talk about forever because that puts a lot of pressure on me lets just focus on what we have now.

Steph<3TJJones · #**189** 12-01-2011, 10:39 AM

My fiancé has lost alot of ppl he feel since he been locked away so I'm the only one he has right now. I'm also in school and been working a lot of overtime lately. So when it takes me longer to write he worries if I will forget about him to. He tells me all the time that he can't lose me and is afraid of it happening. I just try to reassure him alot that I'm here to say. But since I'm older then him he feels I will just soon be like fuck him and move on lol. I know he just miss me and he scared since he not here ima go run away with Someone else. But I tell him I been to busy to think about other guys or sex for that matter. I think he will still continue to be scared until it is almost time to come home.

Beachhouse · #**190** 12-01-2011, 03:14 PM

Mine has and I dismissed it as his
Item it to others in there. I must recently realized its his insecurity.its his fear and it stresses him. I removed it from our vocabulary. I didn't want it robe something he carried in the back of his mind always.

Calebsgirl0402 · #**191** 12-01-2011, 04:47 PM

yeah he does, usually when we don't see each other for a while or when he gets bad news from parole. But he is always quick to remind me how much he loves me and how thankful he is that I am sticking by him through all of this and how much he needs me and can't imagine his life w/out me.

my response to him is always "seriously, I've stuck by you this long, if I was going to leave I would have left already" and he's like yeah that's true and is over it.

tripsgirl · #**192** 07-03-2012, 07:35 PM

He's terrified.
He thinks I'll find another man or fall out of love with him.
Yeah, right. Not gonna happen.

Loubabygirl · #**193** 07-04-2012, 08:05 AM

He has never told me but in his last letter (we are going through some hard times right but not us personally) he asked me to not give up and continue to stick by his side that it's better we get these hard times out of the way now rather then later. I had/have no plans on leaving this man so he has nothing to worry about

my_friend00 · #**194** 07-04-2012, 10:02 AM

Yes, He says he doesn't want to lose me. Just in his past letter he wrote that, so now I'll have to respond... Well, I'm not going anywhere.

Just cause it's the truth and I love him. haha

BrandonsBabe · #**195** 07-04-2012, 10:06 AM

Yes, he's told me that. We even had that conversation yesterday and the day before. He should know that I would never leave him, but I do like that he is a little on his toes. Being too comfortable in that aspect too fast just isn't good.

krc1abc1 · #**196** 07-04-2012, 10:07 AM

Mine always tells me to stay strong and that we can beat anything that gets in our way. Always says what we have is never ending and always winning

lesliew32 · #**197** 07-04-2012, 02:17 PM

Mine always says he could take being stabbed my other inmates before he could handle loosing me. He says he loves me more than ill ever know and for me to please never stop loving him.

Patientwaiter · #**198** 07-04-2012, 02:31 PM

glad to see i'm not alone lol

mrs.cervantes19 · #**199** 07-04-2012, 02:34 PM

Everyday & it hurts me because I feel like he is doubting me. I guess every guy in their who loves their girl fear of losing their LO out here. I know its hard for them so I don't blame them. All I can do is prove my man wrong(:

BABYDOLL1968 · #**200** 07-04-2012, 09:27 PM

I asked him that question today while we were talking and he said he would be afraid of losing me. I was like why baby? He said because he can't take care of me behind bars. I had to let him no quickly, baby im not going anywhere!!! Im here to stay!!! I love my Henry!!!