Intro--Drbrowne from North Carolina

[Drbrowne]

Hi everyone. I have NO IDEA where to start? I am new to this, and to be honest I guess like hundreds of others, still crying my eyes out? Trying to be strong for my sweetheart, but he is actually taking it a million times better than I am. He will be somewhere outside of Fayetteville, NC? And really I am just down RIGHT SCARED. So please forgive me if I say something crazy? I just simply dont know where to start, how to cope or anything. Normally I am very positive and upbeat, and happy go lucky, but...I guess it still hasnt settled with me. I dont know. Let me leave well enough alone for now. All I can imagine is like the show OZ on HBO, and that scares the living DAY lights out of me. *SIGH* Help? Thank you in advance.

[patchouli]

First things first, Breathe! Welcome to the Roller oaster of Emotions...and welcome to PTO. Try to stay busy and write him often, and remember that its ok to cry if/when ya need to; be mad if/when ya need to. Forget all that stuff you see on TV, they tend to only show the violent stuff and none of the boring day-to-day stuff that is the norm. For state/facility specific information, you may want to check out the forum for North Carolina.

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[2021]

1st - There are many here in your situation and those that have already been through exactly what you are going through now. Me - I'm a NC state employee working at Wayne Correctional Center in Goldsboro NC (about an hour South of Raleigh)

2nd - Look through the Family and Friends Handbook: http://www.doc.state.nc.us/Publicati...10Handbook.pdf

3rd - You can keep track of where he is at with the Offender Search: http://webapps6.doc.state.nc.us/opi/...do?method=view
Put in his name or just his prison number.

4th - Welcome to PTO! I stay within the NC Forum answering questions about NC prisons.

[Drbrowne]

Thank you Patchouli, Golly Gez Wiz, I know where Goldsboro is, but he will be outside of Fayetteville. WOW, he said I would be ok, here on this website, because its alot of support here to help me understand (he knows I ALWAYS HAVE A MILLION QUESTIONS) so, he knows me well. I had to turn off this website last night and go to bed. I am happy b/c last night I was overwhelmed, but didnt go to bed crying. Thats huge for me because of whats going go on this week. I appreciate you both SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Golly Gee Wiz, do you know the place I am talking about? He said he will be able to work, go to school/college, etc etc etc?

[stacy101]

Hey,I think that you are talking about Hoke CI. My husband just left there. He said that its pretty good there. Its laid back because its minimum(spell check) and no one wants lose that status. I hope that this helps.

[Cactus]

Welcome to our community. PTO will be a great place for you right now. Try and take really good care of yourself, it's important not just for you, but for all of those who love you and depend on you too. You've made the right decision by reaching out. You'll find the support you need right here within the PTO community. I'm glad you found us.

[LeaAnn]

Welcome to PTO!

[qylaila]

Welcome to PTO!! It's nice to meet you. We are always willing to help around here.

[godislove52]

Welcome to pto........good to meet u and we r all going through some trials and tribulations. That is why we come here for support.
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