If your Lifer were to get ill, does the prison notify you?

[carlosgirl]

Hi, Just a drop in to say. I am stilling hanging in there. A person doesn't know what they can take, until they face it. I continue to pray, but I was wondering what if. Your love gets sick do they even let you spent the last hours with them in a hospital? This tends to bother me alot, since I have a lifer with no parole. Its going to be so hard when one goes if the other can not be with them as they exit this world.

[Peach&Cream]

great question. i just spoke to my husband about this at our visit last week.... in my line of work i "hear" of the inmates who are seen at the hospital we are contracted with (inmates cannot be seen in a private infusion / cancer center like ours, but they are seen at the hospital by our specialists). There in the hospital inmates are still inmates - visitors are not allowed.

my husband stated that most chronically ill inmates are treated in medical facilities on the prison grounds (although sadly the set up isn't highly tech equip, it's being done and no families are not there beside their loved ones)

i wish i had a better response and i sure do hope someone else has one.

although my man is a term lifer, i often wonder "what if he gets chronically ill now, the crap he eats isn't helping to reduce the risk of pancreatic cancer or any other cancer for that matter)". I'm in constant thought about my man and or myself spending our last moments on this earth without one another... it's a painful thought, but like you said, you never know how much you can deal with until you're faced with it.

hang in there, (hugs) ~ enjoy his and your health while we have it!

[Kimi06]

Originally Posted by carlosgirl

Hi, Just a drop in to say. I am stilling hanging in there. A person doesn't know what they can take, until they face it. I continue to pray, but I was wondering what if. Your love gets sick do they even let you spent the last hours with them in a hospital? This tends to bother me alot, since I have a lifer with no parole. Its going to be so hard when one goes if the other can not be with them as they exit this world.

I know when my brother was ill my mother was contacted as he had to
stay in the hospital 3days for a kidney infection.

Kimi

[SexyChef1]

Interesting question I'm going to have to ask ole man I know if they did they would contact his dad and they would contact me.

[dragon_92503]

yea the prison my hubby almost died from pneumonia was in the hospital for almost 5 weeks and i did not get a call.... i am on his C file an his only next of kin so why i was not contacted i have no idea and was extremely pissed. he is no longer at that prison and i hope he does not go back

[kendra425]

I was my lifer's emergency contact and neither his father nor I were contacted when my lifer was attacked even though in and out of consciousness he kept repeating for them to please have me contacted. (It was so sweet that even though someone had tried to kill him, all he really thought about was asking them to contact me.) My friend at another Iowa prison had an experience where her husband was stabbed and she wasn't called either. I spoke to a lady in the visit room waiting area who told me that when her husband had a heart attack, she was not called. I'm guessing in Iowa, they don't call the "emergency" contact unless they are either near death or passed. It REALLY pisses me off.

Because of this, my lifer has spoken to some of his comrades and asked that if he is ever hurt or ill to please get word to me immediately! If they have phone time they will call but if not I might have to wait for a letter but one will be sent out ASAP. I would suggest you have your man speak to his people and set up an emergency network of his own. Recently there were 4 people stabbed at my lifer's prison. Thankfully my lifer wasn't one of them (his former attacker was though and Karma is a bitch.) But I learned the new phone tree does work!! We were all contacting each other with all of the latest news and fortunately none of our guys were victims.

[cjSweetwater]

They don't tend to contact you ib Texas either. Steve has it set up with some of the guys to notify me. I do know that if your loved one is going to be in Galveston (hospital) for a certain amount of time you are supposed to be able to visit and he is supposed to be able to make phone calls. I say "supposed to" because we are afterall talking about TDCJ here. I worry about this stuff too. He is supposed to go down there after the first of the year to have hernia repairs done. He has 4 of them now.

[carlosgirl]

Thanks for all your input. I pray all our love ones stay healthy. I imagine when the time comes, the prison will not notify any of us. They are treated worst then the pound treats animals. I pray for release, if not I pray for a peaceful end.

[colemanswifey5]

Hello everybody! This is one of my daily worries and reading all these post just adds to it. Something has to be done about this matter. Inmates(no matter if they're lifers or not) are human beings. The state and the prison officials tend to forget about that. My lifer was very ill. He was spitting up blood and was very weak. The medical staff kept sending him back saying it was nothing to worry about. Next few days he went again to be checked out because the bleeding still continued. Once again sent back. I started calling, leaving messages, and having his family call also. Finally he got the medical attention he needed. Sometimes prison officals think nobody cares about them because of them being lifers. Stick up for your man or family member. Make your voice be heard no matter what it takes! Show them they do have people who love them and cares what goes on with their life and health. Thanks for reading....take care and god bless!