Would you snitch on your Man?

[QiyeT_LyriQue]

Originally Posted by GIGI831

Hmm everyone has there own opinion on her situation but I think the way her man went down was pretty honorable I mean he was providing for his family and like danielle said he went legit but it was too little too late .. I mean if ur a mbi I'm sure u knew ur man was up too no good too right? And you still stuck around? If So ..u can't really point fingers because your hands aren't clean .. Just saying

that's quite an assumption you have on my personal situation, but let me enlighten you

My loved one that's incarcerated is my BEST FRIEND, foremost. Prior to him being incarcerated, yes, he did do that street life... which is why he's in there now. Had he of been my man way bacc when HE WOULDN'T HAVE WENT TO JAIL... but he wasn't my man. He was my hustlin' partner, one of my closest friends. We fell out behind money... I left Cali... I came bacc to Cali... I literally found him the very week he got caught and went to jail by sheer lucc (or the Grace of God, for his sake). He thought I was the last person who would ever write him, and I have been doing so since 2004... as his friend.
And as his best friend I keep 100 with him... he knows what he was doing was SELFISH and I was the first one to say it out loud, but he needed this "break"; otherwise he would've ended up dead. If he was a real man he would've took into consideration what he was doing to his family (kids) by only providing limited financial support, rather than parental/emotional support as well. But he wanted that quicc money, disregarding the consequences of that quicc money. HE WAS ONLY THINKING OF HIMSELF, no matter how you wanna try and paint that picture, it was SELFISH, NOT HONORABLE. Especially since his 12 year bid doesn't do much HONOR to his family now, does it?? They're struggling, his son is acting out b/c he misses his dad... yeah, THAT sounds like HONOR doesn't it?

FYI... if you read the other girl's story closely you would've seen that her dude did time, got out, created his own business, met her, they had a baby, he needed a job, went BACC to hustlin, got caught, and is now serving time AGAIN. So now she's a single mother, struggling I presume, since HE felt the need to start bacc hustlin' (right?)... and where is he now? Removed from his family unit entirely for the time being... you call that HONOR??

Enlighten me, please.

P.S.
my hands were dirty a long time ago, yes, I freely admit that... but I have since cleaned them and have kept them clean. What makes me different, is the fact that I've learned from my mistakes... while you have others than continue to support a broken cycle because they're too weak-minded to know any better

[Hisoneandonly]

Originally Posted by GIGI831

Hmm everyone has there own opinion on her situation but I think the way her man went down was pretty honorable I mean he was providing for his family and like danielle said he went legit but it was too little too late .. I mean if ur a mbi I'm sure u knew ur man was up too no good too right? And you still stuck around? If So ..u can't really point fingers because your hands aren't clean .. Just saying

Not always I was married and with my husband, when he went in, but I had not idea at the time when he called me from the gas station, telling me the car broke down...that he was going to turn around and rob the stupid place...So no not everyone knows when their man is up to something..especially if it is out of character...just sayin

[codysgirl11]

No matter what, I always have my husband's back and he has mine.

[sisnik]

So how many men are actually doing time for their women, thats what I want to know?



sisnik

[mrszrod]

For child molestation, yes!!! B/C I have grandkids!!! Any other crime, I can say I wouldn't. Why can I say that, b/c he better not ever put me in that position.

[ohsweetmaryjane]

Originally Posted by sisnik

So how many men are actually doing time for their women, thats what I want to know?



sisnik

What does this question mean? I can say that I have NOTHING to do with him getting locked up.....he was doing drugs and committing crimes to get money. I told him for months that he'd better stop, and he kept on doing what he was doing. I don't do drugs and I don't commit crimes so 100% of this is on him.

[kemplady906]

i would never snitch on my man i love and miss him so much and he was all i had

[Hisoneandonly]

Originally Posted by sisnik

So how many men are actually doing time for their women, thats what I want to know?
sisnik

Becasue I am choosing to view the question this way...instead of taking it the other way The crime my husband committed, was to help us out of a financial hole, he was backed in to the corner and thought he could help us out by doing what he did...I am in no way proud of this nor do I think it was honorable..I would have much rather been living in my car, than to have him locked up..but it is what it is.

[QiyeT_LyriQue]

Originally Posted by sisnik

So how many men are actually doing time for their women, thats what I want to know?



sisnik

I dunno about any other woman on here but MY loved one is doing time because he was too impatient and hard-headed to want to get his money the legit way. He saw a way to make money fast, he happened to be "good at it" , and went for it. Now he makes CHUMP C-H-A-N-G-E. Bet he would take Burger King over a prison kitchen anyday, now

Oh, that and he shot at law enforcement, which had NOTHING to do w/ his family but everything to do w/ his stupidity

I know I might sound "bad" but I sincerely love this man w/ all my heart. I will remain by his side till infinity, but my love isn't going to dumb me down to where he can do no wrong in my eyes. I just don't agree with it; I have an issue with general stupidity to begin with . But just like any of my loved ones, be it family, close friends, or whatever... I won't love them any less, but I also don't have to make excuses for their (wrong) behavior either

[wolf409]

yea i could totally snitch. guys get a big head thinking no one will ever catch them and what...go on like normal? yea i don't think so. i love my hubby but i will NOT risk my kids and everything we ever have together just so he can have bragging rights about something he did. definitely..i would. someone already said it best you'll become an accessory. no way i'm a mother first and a wife second. would i leave him..maybe. depends on if he changed or not after doin the time. if we weren't married, i'd also ditch him. i don't need my kids dragged into a mess like that.

[Sunny920]

Does the bag of dog food at the bottom of the basket count?
I have an incredible inability to lie so when asked a specific question if I lie everyone knows if I'm not truefull. It really sucks. In the check out line I have actually said "Oh you forgot to get the dog food" my hubby is always like "what the hell?" but he knows it's how I am.
Now I wouldn't go out of my way to turn him in but he knows I will always tell the truth. He hates it and loves it at the same time because he knows that's who I am. Ingorance can be bliss!

[JackieFlorida]

My man would never do anything I need to report

[bebezoemom]

i went to jail 5 and half months pregnant cuz i wouldnt snitch on my man

[Danielle88]

Originally Posted by QiyeT_LyriQue

But if he had your best interest at heart, wouldn't he have known better than to break the law (again), considering he knows all about jail (prison) and then really not being able to support his family, being incarcerated?

He knew how to stay out of prison, he stayed out for 15 years before now, but he chose to risk it in our best interest. Time ran out and we needed money right then, no later. We regret him missing out on the begining of our sons life but I can hold this down while he's not here, it's not impossible. Regaurdless of what anyone on this earth may think he sacrificed his freedom for his family and theres no way to turn that into something wrong. He weighed the options and he made a decission just like any other in our marriage. It has consequences but so does every other option.

[Danielle88]

Originally Posted by GIGI831

Hmm everyone has there own opinion on her situation but I think the way her man went down was pretty honorable I mean he was providing for his family and like danielle said he went legit but it was too little too late .. I mean if ur a mbi I'm sure u knew ur man was up too no good too right? And you still stuck around? If So ..u can't really point fingers because your hands aren't clean .. Just saying

Thanx giry! <3

[thomasforever]

Hell no!! I could of...if you really love somenone you wouldn't!!

[QiyeT_LyriQue]

Originally Posted by Danielle88

He knew how to stay out of prison, he stayed out for 15 years before now, but he chose to risk it in our best interest. Time ran out and we needed money right then, no later. We regret him missing out on the begining of our sons life but I can hold this down while he's not here, it's not impossible. Regaurdless of what anyone on this earth may think he sacrificed his freedom for his family and theres no way to turn that into something wrong. He weighed the options and he made a decission just like any other in our marriage. It has consequences but so does every other option.

Well, see now, I'm a bit confused... he chose to risk his freedom and family unit for a TEMPORARY fix??
You say you can hold it down "NOW"... but why did you wait until he's incarcerated to start holding it down? Why weren't you holding it down BEFORE, therefore very possibly PREVENTING his incarceration?

I think you've misconstrued the terms consequences of "every other option" because every action doesn't necessarily bring forth a negative reaction. Bad choices absolutely have consequences, yes; however, virtuous decisions will only birth positive outcomes

I won't dive into your situation specifically but IF this money you guys needed wasn't an overnight situation (e.g. paying for a funeral, medical bills); it could've been foreseen but for some reason you two chose to neglect it..

... or maybe I just have it all wrong

[Danielle88]

Originally Posted by QiyeT_LyriQue

Well, see now, I'm a bit confused... he chose to risk his freedom and family unit for a TEMPORARY fix??
You say you can hold it down "NOW"... but why did you wait until he's incarcerated to start holding it down? Why weren't you holding it down BEFORE, therefore very possibly PREVENTING his incarceration?

I think you've misconstrued the terms consequences of "every other option" because every action doesn't necessarily bring forth a negative reaction. Bad choices absolutely have consequences, yes; however, virtuous decisions will only birth positive outcomes

I won't dive into your situation specifically but IF this money you guys needed wasn't an overnight situation (e.g. paying for a funeral, medical bills); it could've been foreseen but for some reason you two chose to neglect it..

... or maybe I just have it all wrong

He became jobless about a month after I got pregnant, I worked up until I was 9 months but the farther along I got the less I could be on my feet so, since he could find a job at about the 8th month I was only bringing in about $50 a week. We were behind on bills and rent, I didnt even have gas money to keep going to work. Thats when he decided to hustle up enough money to get us thru until I could go back to work or until he found a job. Obviously it isnt the ideal situation but only looking at it from the outside no one could judge fairly. We wont be back tho, thats for damn sure, the sacrifice isnt worth it but it is what it is and my son and I are better off for his sacrifice.

[QiyeT_LyriQue]

Originally Posted by Danielle88

He became jobless about a month after I got pregnant, I worked up until I was 9 months but the farther along I got the less I could be on my feet so, since he could find a job at about the 8th month I was only bringing in about $50 a week. We were behind on bills and rent, I didnt even have gas money to keep going to work. Thats when he decided to hustle up enough money to get us thru until I could go back to work or until he found a job. Obviously it isnt the ideal situation but only looking at it from the outside no one could judge fairly. We wont be back tho, thats for damn sure, the sacrifice isnt worth it but it is what it is and my son and I are better off for his sacrifice.

[Hiz Sunshine]

I would NEVER TELL on my man! I believe that we are a partnership and I would never betray my love. We have made a life commitment to each other and with that come the commitment of trust and honesty! I think that if you would tell you should never make a commitment to someone because you are not trustworthy.

[Hugaboom]

Does the bag of dog food at the bottom of the basket count?
I have an incredible inability to lie so when asked a specific question if I lie everyone knows if I'm not truefull. It really sucks. In the check out line I have actually said "Oh you forgot to get the dog food" my hubby is always like "what the hell?" but he knows it's how I am.
Now I wouldn't go out of my way to turn him in but he knows I will always tell the truth. He hates it and loves it at the same time because he knows that's who I am. Ingorance can be bliss!

So funny! I'm the same way! I'm so bad I've been told that I'm not allowed to talk at the car dealership when we are shopping for cars and My Love laughs at me teasing that he'll NEVER commit a crime with me!

[MarnieReeves]

Very tough question to answer. On one hand, I'd like to think that I'd protect my man no matter what he's done. On the other hand, suppose a relative of mine was murdered, and the perp was never caught. But the perp's wife/girlfriend knows that he did it. As a relative of the victim, I'd want the killer to be caught and punished. If was the wife/gf of the perp.....well, there's the dilemma.....what would I do?

[tanksgirl10]

I personaly would never,.. i look at it like this, if i care enough about you to be with you then i would never wanna do anything to put you in a sisuation ( like jail ) to seperate us. I ride for my man,.. he'd never snitch on me and i never would on him.

[Tash81]

Originally Posted by jason82

i was curious to know how many women on here would actually report your man to the authorities for a crime you know he committed.

Why? Because i saw something recently on the news where a bank robber was told on by his gf after she found out it was him who was committing the crime. He would have gotten away with it because of the disguise he used is what the authorities said. Also, i saw on lock down where a guy told this one girl that he loved her and wanted to marry her and she told him the same thing but years into the relationship she ratted on him for something he did.

Im talking about any kind of crimes that range from low to serious, such as theft to murder. Lets just say it didnt involve you at all. Would you snitch on him? Or are you the type that really knows how to hold a man down aka... Loyalty above all.

child molestation + child pornography of personally known victim (distributed online) = "yes"

[kitty0407]

i like how you people call abiding by the law "snitching". or how some of you assume telling the police he committed a crime means you don't love him. In my opinion preventing your man from continuing down a path of self destruction (and possible destruction on your life) is the best form of love. If my man committed ANY crime against someone, and I mean 100% within his own right mind committed this crime I would turn him in (i will not use the term snitch or rat out because that is not what it is).
Drug usage I would probably leave him because that is his OWN path of destruction that possibly may involve no one else but himself. As i said crimes that involve a victim other than himself I'm dialing 911. He has no right whatso ever to cause harm thru his own free will to another human being. Self defense doesn't count.