Lonely and pregnant

[ashron381]

Hi, I'm pretty much new to having a partner in prison. It's not the 1st time that hes gone since we've been together but it was only for about 3 days and he was released. Last week he was picked up on warrants for 2 different counties. He was cleared for one and now is being transferred to the other where he may be facing 6 months to a year. I know thats not long compared to a lot of other people on here but I'm 7 months pregnant and due in March. It's my 1st child and I always pictured the father being next to me in the delivery room. These past few days have been emotionally draining. I cry everyday and it makes me wonder how I'll make it through 6 months let alone a year.

If anyone could please give me advice it would be appreciated.

[GARCIA707]

Calm down gurl, u dont kno how long hes guna get he mite even get out or only do county time. I kno how it is my hub was locked up 4 our daughters birth, we were on the phone the whole time but stil he wasnt there. It does suck but 6 mnths wil go by hella fast and the baby wil keep u busy. Write a letter 2 the judge and tel hm ur situation, tel hm ur man has changed and wants 2 b ther 4 ur baby, tel hm anything, jus try. Keep ur head up gurl and pray 4 a lite sentence

[Heluvedme1st]

Originally Posted by ashron381

Hi, I'm pretty much new to having a partner in prison. It's not the 1st time that hes gone since we've been together but it was only for about 3 days and he was released. Last week he was picked up on warrants for 2 different counties. He was cleared for one and now is being transferred to the other where he may be facing 6 months to a year. I know thats not long compared to a lot of other people on here but I'm 7 months pregnant and due in March. It's my 1st child and I always pictured the father being next to me in the delivery room. These past few days have been emotionally draining. I cry everyday and it makes me wonder how I'll make it through 6 months let alone a year.

If anyone could please give me advice it would be appreciated.

I'm soo sorry that you are going through this situation... But right now you can't change the fact that he is locked up... You have to think about your baby and yourself... Not to sound selfish but these last few months of your pregnancy are important... I'm pretty sure that you have family that support you and friends... I understand that its not like having the father there and the thought of having your first child without the father could be scary... I hope that he is able to be there with you...just hope for the Best and I Pray that everything works out for you

[CoNpal]

One day at a time, sweetie. Try to get out in the sunshine. It will help your mood.

[dsagirl]

Just take it one day at a time. Don't get urself worked up over something that hasn't happened yet. You are going to stress yourself. You have to think about the babys health and your health as well. Pray over it and everything will work out for your family.

[mrszrod]

Ok, this is the GG in me, stop all of that damn crying, that baby is going to come here crying!!! It can also effect your health. it doesn't matter how long ur bf is facing, u r hurting & u r gonna hurt. What i've found to be therapeutic is to pray & keep busy. Days & nights r gonna be long, fill them up with writing letters, poems, decorating the nursery.

[Hisoneandonly]

Have to put you and the baby first right now as hard as is sounds. I was 8 ish months pregnant with our second when my husband went in and had a huge scare at the next dr appointment, b/c I hadn't been eating sleeping crying all the time, they couldn't find her heartbeat...luckily everything was okay, though she was a few weeks early and on the small side...them not being able to find her heartbeat...woke me up fast....You have to eat, try to not stress and sleep..My husband couldn't get out for the birth but was able to call the hospital several times, for free to talk to me.LOL once during the labour, i told him to quit calling bc it was annoying :P..I'm not very nice when I'm in pain...Once the baby comes, things will go by faster to...Take things one day at a time and focus on you

[NewHorizon]

One day at a time and one foot in front of the other. I was 8 weeks pregnant when my husband got sentenced. I was like you 13 months ago; I didn't know how I was going to make it a month much less a year. Well, here I am 13 month down and still going strong. Will it be easy? No, but you need to stay strong for your baby. Stay focused on your baby and that will help. Do all you can to include the father in on decisions. Talk about the baby's name and plans for when he comes home that will give something for you guys to look forward too.

As for him not being there, I had my son's birth taped for when he does come home. I had my mom, best friend, a son's godmother in the room with me. They were alot of support and helped me alot. My husband was able to call the night before and about 30 mins after our son was born. I send alot of pictures, but that keeps him connected to our son and our daughter (we also have an almost 2 yr old). Keep your head up!! I am glad that you found PTO; we will help you through this difficult time. Try to stay stress free that baby needs a calm environment. I know it isn't easy, believe me, but when I focused on our son, it was a little easier.

[Dale<3Courtney]

If you ever need to vent or have questions feel free to message me. My man was locked up shortly before i found out i was pregnant he missed it all she is now 4 months old and he won't be home until shes 2.

[Danielle88]

I'm sorry your're going thru this hun. Its hard enough being pregnant without having to go deal with this too. As hard as everything is you are a mama now, you have to be strong for you and your baby because that is what is most important. It's ok to miss your man but to be crying so much isnt healthy for your baby. Write to him, even if you can send them yet, write letters. Make sure you keep busy, keep preparing for your baby and get everything ready. It's not easy but you gotta stay strong. That year is going to fly by once thing start rollin and you find things to occupy your time. Trust me, I cannot be leave my Husband has been gone almost a year already and it seem like yesterday I was laying in bed crying, with our new born son. You can do this, you're stronger then you think. Welcome to PTO.

[bremariie]

Originally Posted by ashron381

hi, i'm pretty much new to having a partner in prison. It's not the 1st time that hes gone since we've been together but it was only for about 3 days and he was released. Last week he was picked up on warrants for 2 different counties. He was cleared for one and now is being transferred to the other where he may be facing 6 months to a year. I know thats not long compared to a lot of other people on here but i'm 7 months pregnant and due in march. It's my 1st child and i always pictured the father being next to me in the delivery room. These past few days have been emotionally draining. I cry everyday and it makes me wonder how i'll make it through 6 months let alone a year.

if anyone could please give me advice it would be appreciated.

sweetheart keep ur head up and pray my husband has 15 years has to serve 8 in prison 7 on probation im 7 months preg wit twins due march 8,2011 and i mean its going to be hard but if u got god and ur family u good to go

[ashron381]

thanks everyone for the advice. it really does help especially to know that im not the only one. ill deff start keeping myself busy and keep praying. thanks again everybody!

[HisSexyLove]

I have had all of my kids with their dad in prison. IT isn't what you planned but it is reality. Just be thankful he will be home when she is still young and won't remember him being gone.

[worldoflife]

i agree with everyone, take it easy. I was halfway through my pregnancy when my husband got locked up and now my baby os almost two months old and everyone's right, when the baby arrives, you'll be so busy. But when the arrest happened i also didnt eat and i stressed and the next doctors visit I went to I was told i lost five pounds which is not good. Stress isnt good for the baby. We also had complications at birth but shes fine now. Just try not to stress and think of this as you time because it'll all change when your baby arrives. I wisn you luck. Same thing happened to my guy with having two warrants. Remember everything happens for a reason.

[josephswife]

Awwww Im so sorry your going through this girl but like everybody else said try not to stress much I know its hard. But trust me time WILL go by so fast once you have your baby. My husband also got locked up when I was 6 months pregnant and he wont be out until my sons 3yrs old. I would also cry so much and was depress. The first day he was locked up I didnt eat for a whole day! But I quickly checked myself and started putting my baby first. I also picture having my baby with my husband by my side and having the perfect family. I thought my husband was gonna be with me through out everything and I just felt so alone. But once I had my baby everything was different he kept me so busy he's 15 months now and time just flew by. He's my little angel I love him so much. Everything will be okay girl just keep on praying and keep being healthy. Good luck and if you ever need to vent dont hesitate to Pm me.

[truluv4life]

Sorry to hear about what youre going through. I'm praying that God will keep you and the baby in perfect peace until this whole ordeal is over with. Also your guy, i'm pretty sure he may be stressing cause he's not with you at the moment. Know it will all workout for you.

[ashron381]

thank you! i just went to the doctor and i lost 2Lbs in a day. my nerves have calmed enough to have an appetite again. im slowly getting better and stressing less. i just worry about him and if he needs anything.