Does he think you won't want him around all the time when he gets home?

[alleykitten]

My man made a statement today he was joking but it did make me think in a way. Kinda silly but he said when i get home you wont want me there cause you been by yourself so long lol.I had not really thought about it to much but i been just focusing when he gets home doing this and that with him and things. I never stopped to think will i b able to deal with him around again. I know crazy i know i can but when he said it made me kinda hmm what will it be like to actually have him around. Well yeah i know i will enjoy it better i wont have to do the yard work and everything on my own my partner will be there again but i guess it will take getting used to agian to not be alone u know. He was also going over new years resolutions he didnt like mine i want to lose the 30 lbs i put on while he has been away plus a lil more and he tells me baby dont change a thing you are my beauty lol. But still thinking about what its going to be like to have him home is what gets me through all this knowing the rainbow to this storm is approaching.

[Tina Bee]

Yea I feel the same way. The first time my man was locked up I didn't think I'd like him around when he got home, but from the moment he walked back through the front door it just felt right. He was where he belonged.

This time around he's been gone longer and I hope when he comes home it'll feel right again. Right now I'm keeping myself occupied by thinking about his homecoming dinner I'll be making and cleaning up the house just right.

Try not to focus on the negative too much. It will take away from that wonderous moment of your man's return.

[Danielle88]

I think about this too. I dont 'not' want him home, lets be honest I miss him to death and cant wait to have him safe in my arms. I'm just worried about how he will fold in with me and our son? If that makes sense. I have been raising him this whole time, he will be a year and a half when he comes home. I have made all the decisions regaurding how he's raised and I know that my husband, having 3 kids already, has his own ways of raising a child which sometimes might conflict with mine. We had a couple tiffs over that before while I was pregnant. I'm hard headed so I think of it as, "He's my baby, I'll raise him how I want, you raised you own, let me decided with him." I know it's wrong but my dad never interfeared wit my moms when we were babies.

There might be little issues because your used to having things done your way and being independent. After a while things should get easier once you guys find you own roles, ya kno?

[alleykitten]

I know i will be able to adjust to it but i just had not thought about it really till he mentioned it u know. Then i got to thinking well yeah its going to be different we had not been together long before he got locked up we had moved in together and were adjusting that and then he was gone and i had to move in with family again and i had to adjust so im sure i can adjust to that. So now all day i been thinking wow it is going to be a change like he joked are you going to get used to not having to wait on a call or letter and be able to talk and not write. Yeah he is silly at times but i was just laughing at thinking umm will i still out of habit sit and write when i get up and before i go to bed and in between things lol. I know i wont but it was just a lil humor and then having him with me to decide things when i been making all the choices and everything on my own cause he cant with me. I guess it will be odd in a way but a good odd u know.

[HisOutmate]

Well babe and I got together after he was locked up so I really have no idea how it will be. We've been trying to decide if we want to move in together as soon as he gets out. I'm really meaning towards no. We are both set in our ways and I think it will be good for us to adjust awhile before shackin up. lol. The other day we were talkin and he said it's going to be hard because he's so used to bein on guard all the time. He said... I don't like people to touch my stuff and when I get home it will be a hard adjustment. I said... you don't want me to touch your stuff? He said... That's not what I meant. You can touch all of my stuff. lol. Just made me giggle.

[shawna2007]

I have been wondering about this a lot lately myself as we are only 59 days away right now. And btw congrats to Tina Bee...only 12 more days that must be so exciting!!! But anyways, I have been raising our kids on my own since he's been gone (2 1/2 years) and our youngest son is 4 and doesn't even know him. He knows who he is, but doesn't remember his own Dad. The other two remember everything and my oldest says he hates him for leaving us. My kids know where their Dad is, but it doesn't make it any easier for them. So basically I'd say my biggest thing is worrying about his relationships with the kids and how they will all handle it and I have become completely independent since he's been gone and he's not the type to like that so much so I wonder how life will change, but I made sure I told him recently that I have become very independent and I'm not going to give that up. We have been talking a lot this past month about how things are going to be and he has many fears too, so just know that he will be wondering a whole lot of things himself. Just enjoy him!

[mija0107]

I met Jay after he was locked up but we have talked about moving in together after he is released. I think my biggest fear is he doesn't like to just sit there and be waited on and I don't like a man to cook and clean. We have had this discussion over and over again about he can go into any room of the house but to leave my kitchen alone lol. I am excited about him being released though and to know we will be able to move forward and continue to make our relationship stronger.

[NewHorizon]

I think about this myself. I have basically lived a "single" life for a while and raising our kids on my own. It will be an adjustment to having to talk to someone before doing anything or going anywhere. I have spent and gone where I wanted, when I wanted. I have also played mommy and daddy for a while now. This is one adjustment though I am willing to make. We are going to be compromising in alot of areas, but we will get through it. Also, I do worry about our kids adjusting to daddy being home, but they are both very young. I don't think it will be a hard adjustment.

Congrats to Shawna and Tina Bee for your loved ones coming home really soon. Your horrible journey is almost over!!! 2011 is your year.

[LoveBuggy]

I've thought about it. R was the first man I ever lived 24/7 with and I was 31 when we met. I loved alone time before I met him. Then we met and I never wanted to sleep alone again.

I worry more because I'm raising our daughters. Our oldest was 7 months and I was barely pregnant with our second when he went in. They will be 3 and 4 when he comes home. I know we may clash on some parenting issues. Hell we do now. Wait a minute we would be if he never got locked up. I think I will enjoy someone sharing the responsibity of the girls instead of it all my. I'm ready to exhale!

[Mikeys1andonly]

Originally Posted by alleykitten

My man made a statement today he was joking but it did make me think in a way. Kinda silly but he said when i get home you wont want me there cause you been by yourself so long lol.I had not really thought about it to much but i been just focusing when he gets home doing this and that with him and things. I never stopped to think will i b able to deal with him around again. I know crazy i know i can but when he said it made me kinda hmm what will it be like to actually have him around. Well yeah i know i will enjoy it better i wont have to do the yard work and everything on my own my partner will be there again but i guess it will take getting used to agian to not be alone u know. He was also going over new years resolutions he didnt like mine i want to lose the 30 lbs i put on while he has been away plus a lil more and he tells me baby dont change a thing you are my beauty lol. But still thinking about what its going to be like to have him home is what gets me through all this knowing the rainbow to this storm is approaching.

I was thinking alot about this today myself.. my man's been gone for 17 months.. he'll be home this week, and I was thinking about how I will have to get used to having him in the house and around all the time. I'm looking forward to him coming home, It will just be an adjustment after being alone for so long.

[lharrison619]

Look im on love. I cant wait for my baby to come home. We are one. I love his company in visitation. You can always ake adjustments when he gets home if you love him. I love my baby sooooo much. I cant wait for him to get home so i can lay under him everyday. I am my own woman. He understands that i dont take no crap and i demand respect. And i will love cherish and respect him also. As long as you each respect each other , you will be fine. Just love him when he comes home and if he loves you he will always want to be around you. Just respect him and he just respect ou if yall need time apart from each other. You will be fine.

[Chyna5La]

Originally Posted by alleykitten

My man made a statement today he was joking but it did make me think in a way. Kinda silly but he said when i get home you wont want me there cause you been by yourself so long lol.I had not really thought about it to much but i been just focusing when he gets home doing this and that with him and things. I never stopped to think will i b able to deal with him around again. I know crazy i know i can but when he said it made me kinda hmm what will it be like to actually have him around. Well yeah i know i will enjoy it better i wont have to do the yard work and everything on my own my partner will be there again but i guess it will take getting used to agian to not be alone u know. He was also going over new years resolutions he didnt like mine i want to lose the 30 lbs i put on while he has been away plus a lil more and he tells me baby dont change a thing you are my beauty lol. But still thinking about what its going to be like to have him home is what gets me through all this knowing the rainbow to this storm is approaching.

My King said this too all the time, like you is not going to want me up under you all the time, you have gotten used to sleeping myself, you have gotten used to doing thing around the house on your on and with the kids on your on own..

My relpy to him is is this.. I have never gotten used to sleeping myself, I gave our King size bed away and switch to a full cause and I still can't stand sleeping in that bed alone.. doing things around the house without you.. never I love the fact that he went to the grocery store with me..and watch me clean up.. and as far as doing thing with the kids without you.. this is why we don't take many pictures.. cause you is not there and I don't want so many memories of us doing thing and you weren't there to share in the fun..

I NEED him up under me when he comes home.. (lol)..