I think its over

[Pierreswife]

So P and I were slated to get married in 2 weeks. He signed the marriage license and then got cold feet. When he told me...I was really shocked. I didn't want to say something that I would regret, so I told him that I needed time to think about what was happening. I then sat down and wrote a very long letter that basically said that I loved him and that I would be willing to give it a chance...but that we would have to work to rebuild our relationship because my feelings were very hurt and he betrayed my trust. I overnighted the letter to make sure that he would not have to wait for my response and he still hasn't called. I am very hurt and I think its over between the 2 of us...any opinions?

[Tiny xo]

i guess all you can really do is try to move on with your life and see if you get a response sometime soon. i'm sorry he did that to you, i would be devastated if that happened to me so i can't imagine how you must feel. but then again, i wouldn't wanna marry someone who is unsure.

[Pierreswife]

Yeah...I am pretty pissed. But if I am honest his loss is far greater than mine...

[Heluvedme1st]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this... I don't have any good advice.... Cyber hugsssss for you honey... All I can say is wait and see what he is going to say... But what is it that he can say... Your not good enough to be his wife but you are good enough to be his girl friend that crazy

[Pierreswife]

He said that he wanted to wait. I was very quiet on the phn and a little cold, but not mean. He said that that he would wait for my letter before he contacted me again so that I could have my space and now nothing...
thanks for the hug.

[FutureMrsM]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. The only thing I can say is that those walls and bars do funny things to their thoughts. Hopefully that's all it is, but if it isn't, at least you know you gave him 100%+ percent. If it is over, just be grateful that he told you now vs. AFTER you're married. Again, I'm so sorry.

[only1love]

I am sorry for you that it turned out this way.

[SexyChef1]

How long has it been since you sent the letter? And are u sure he got it?

[mom2qtee]

I'm so sorry that this happened. I know how it feels to give your all and have the trust taken away. Be strong. We are here for you.....

[curegirl]

Okay, this is not my usual stance but just because you haven't received a letter yet doesn't mean you won't? How long has it been since he got yours? There are lots of good reasons that you may not have heard from him. He cannot overnight a letter to you and he may not be able to phone.

[Geauxin'KraZee]

I think curegirl is right, hon. Give it a couple of days.

[MrsDB]

I also agree with curegirl..i think ur letter will come he probly don't know how to word his thoughts..sometimes wen we are anxious to get something time seems to take an eternity to pass by. Lots of things can stall his response like him not recieving it yet..it use to take 3 days to get letters from my babe now I have to wait a whole week!

[rockys lil girl]

I also say you need to give it time mamaz. He probably hasnt gotten the letter yet.

[LadyBlackz]

Yup I totally agree with the ladies. I understand your hurt (I was the one on the other end of that situation with my ex...) So I would say wait a few days to get your response. Even though you sent it overnight, that doesn't mean the mailroom is gonna hop up and be like OMG AN OVERNIGHT! WE GOTTA GET IT TO HIM! Ya know? So wait and give it time for you both to take in what has happened. Let him give you an explanation (sp?) when you two aren't so shocked and in the moment.
Good luck to ya girly, I hope it works out for the best. It could be just his mind getting to him or theres alway the guys that get in eachothers heads. Ya never know.

[Pierreswife]

Ok...I have a buddy in the mailroom who called me after she delivered it so I am 100% sure that he got it. Does he neee time to think...maybe. but I will say this, I can only give him but so much time. I have waited a long time and have been through a lot with this man. He acts like he is the one who got his feelings hurt. Wtf does he have to think about? He screwed up! So wher I can see ur point about waiting, he broke my heart not vice versa.

[Indylissa]

I'm going against the grain here but what is the harm in waiting? I mean that doesn't mean he loves you any less, does it? Lot's of people in the outside world get cold feet too because marriage is a huge commitment. Do they offer marriage counseling there? I know here in Indy, we have to go through counseling within the prison system before we get a wedding date. I don't know sweetie, I wouldn't rule him out just yet. Depending on what you said in your letter, maybe he is having a hard time responding? I don't know you or your guy and therefore can't gauge your relationship, but if it is strong and solid, it will happen, just not as quickly as you had hoped.

[secondtimer]

Just because he called off the marriage doesn't mean he called off your relationship. There is nothing wrong with waiting to get married. I don't know how long he will be inside but maybe he wants to get married when he gets out and can spend good quality time with you and not have to be overlooked by guards. Give him some time.

[Pierreswife]

Indy...its not the wedding...its the lie! I went out planned this bought a dress and rings. He even signed the license and then says...I am not sure. Then when I say...its ok baby let's work through this...he says NOTHING!?! Really dude?

[Pierreswife]

Second...that is a cool premise, however, why couldn't he say that from the beginning...? Men r so freakin backward

[kandikisses]

Please tell me that pierre is not his middle name...

[Pierreswife]

Why Kandi?

[secondtimer]

Because they really are backwards. They really are from mars.twenty five years ago my husband couldn't wait to get married life happened we went our seperate ways got back together 17 years ago before our son was born you want to know what the nut said him and his brother was talking one day "I don't want to get married over 50% of marriages end in divorce." I was pissed then i was like ok then I still have my life. 3 years ago My nutty husband (Boyfriend at the time) calls me up he was getting ready to go into a program that did not allow boyfriend and girlfriends to visit only spouses. "We have to get married they won't let you visit unless we are married,I can't go without seeing you." I said ooh really I sat back and made him do everything ring,liscense, minister the only thing he didn't do was pick out what I wore we were married two weeks later. So yes they are crazy. He has showed he wants it he just wants it a certain way. Maybe he doesn't want you alone after. No one talks about you having to be alone in a hotel room after you marry them when they are incarcerated.

[Franksgirl4ever]

Maybe he needs time to process his feelings towards your letter and doesn't want to write anything in haste. Give it some time, you will probably hear from him.

[lil peep]

If there's been a lot of emotions flying back and forth on the phone and in the letter you sent him, maybe he just needs time to process what you said and write a response/think about your relationship. You've waited this long and were going to marry the guy...waiting a week for a letter at this point isn't really a big deal IMO. Like some of the other ladies said, just cause he wants to wait to get married doesn't mean he wants to end the relationship. No doubt if it was me, I'd be hurt and angry to call it off at the last minute like that, but so long as he still wants to get married, I think I'd be willing to set another date.

[Pierreswife]

makes sense Peep...