elena ramirez from California

[elena ramirez]

Hi my name is elena my son is 20 years old were from california but my son ended in oklahoma and now i recived a letter from him and now he is in eloy arizona and he has me worried saying if i can call the prison and ask them how he is and that they are not treated right what do i do am afraid if i call they will do something to him.

[hockeystick2010]

I'm so sorry that you're worried; sounds like this is his first time....I know it's hard to believe right now but everythings going to be all right. You can call the prison but they probably wont talk to you very much. Take a deep breath; close your eyes and believe with all your heart that it's going to be o.k. and I promise sooner or later somehow some way it will be o.k. Write him a letter with lots of encouraging thoughts; send him some quotations of strength and peace; send him some jokes to make him smile; you'll feel better cause you're sending him your love and taking care of him and he'll feel better knowing you're soothing him. It's just a process and you are going to be o.k. and so is he for the most part. I hope he gets to call you soon.

[deeintx]

I have always found when I call the prison and check on my son I feel better. I don't do it often but when I am "worried sick" I do. Just tell them your a worried mom and so far away and would appreciate any information they can give you. As for you son just keep writting him 'often' everyday if you can I think getting letters from home help ease their anxiety.

[bluebella]

I did not do anything until I checked with my son. It actually helps him and you to call. I have been treated well, when I have called, often given extention numbers to make it easier next time. As in all walks of life there are some that go above and beyond their call. I have also learned here to get him to sign (notarized) a medical power of attorney and a release of information, it has made us both feel covered in case of an emergency.

[mrsrimoldi]

I'm so sorry you are worried. I remember being scared out of my mind for my son when he was first moved from the county jail to "big boy" prison. I called the reception prison and they helped me feel better. Told me when to expect a phone call, when I could come visit and basically put my mind at ease. He's been in prison over 6 years now, he's learned how to handle himself and not had any major problems. I've had to call the prison a few times to tell my son of a family member passing~ the staff have always been kind and prompt in getting my son to the phone and then counceling him afterwards.
Take a deep breath and ask God to protect you son. If your son is still very anxious write him as often as you can~it will give him something to look forward to.
Big Hug to you from me

[jancy]

no one will harm your son. he will be fine, think positive thoughts and don't let the negative ones in there. have you heard from him yet?