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Rachel C · #76 06-05-2012, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by asabo843

My man has never asked that of me, and I would never ask him to not be friends with other girls. However, due to my issues with other guys over the past week, I think I am just fine with not being friends with guys right now, except for my gay friends. I do think it's a slippery slope, especially if we're feeling particularly vulnerable, or if we're upset with our LO and feel like getting revenge. I think I'll stick to talking to you ladies!

I kind of have to agree with you Asa. I think it's easier for a girl to be just friends with a guy but it's harder for a guy to not cross those certain boundaries for some reason. ALOT of times If there investing time and energy in you than beware b,c he wants more. Good point! All it takes is one weak moment from you and bam you might put yourself into a situation you regret.

InmateLover67 · #77 06-05-2012, 08:34 AM

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Originally Posted by COMPLETElyhis

You man says that he doesn't want you (or him) to have friends of the opposite sex in order to avoid the bs. Can you do that?

Peace and blessings...

We both have friends of the opposite sex. We trust one another 100% so, there is no BS with the friends that we have, they respect our relationship.

Peace~

GuerosMama · #78 06-05-2012, 08:45 AM

I mean I guess I could. But he never has or will tell me that.
Most of my best friends in life have been men. And his girls. So I don't see why there has to be a choice.

**tee.dot.q** · #79 06-05-2012, 08:48 AM

Yes, I would have a problem with it. I have male friends from a variety of origins - friends from work, friends from back in the day and the significant other (current or past) of my girlfriends. I am very clear about boundaries. If a man whom I was friends with crossed any lines, I wouldn't be his friend any longer.

He has female friends that were in his life long before me and I have no problem with that. If they crossed the line, I'd expect him to end the friendship.

I don't see why there is so much controversy over this... it seems so simple to me.

**LeBeau** · #80 06-05-2012, 09:51 AM

Since there were several threads on this issue, I've merged them into a single discussion.

143forever · #81 06-05-2012, 11:13 AM

I see no problem with being friends with the opposite sex. As long as you have trust the thought of your partner cheating should never cross your mind or be a concern.

I have lots of male friends at work, more so then i do girls. Girls carry a lot of baggage, especially where i work. It is just like being back in high school. So to avoid the drama and getting sucked into the cliques i associate with more males. Hell, i even have a work husband lol. Hes my boss (and is gay so im not his cup of tea) and i spend looots of time with him. I knew him before i worked with him so its just a funny joke we have now.

However if my partners girly friend overstepped the boundaries by making a move on him or being overly flirtatious she needs to go. As long as his friends have respect for me and vice versa no issues should ever arise.

dixiebelle1973 · #82 06-05-2012, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Rachel C

Ok I'm sorry I misunderstood your question. If your man demanded u not to have friends of the opposite sex could you do that ? I personally would have a problem with this... It sounds like that any man that would do that has issues of his own that he needs to work thru. Now if he demanded me to not be friends with the opposite sex b.c I gave him a reason not to trust me than yes I would need to respect his wishes in that hes trying to look out for me and our relationship. Respect is the key issue here. To answer your question it depends on the circumstances of the demand.

If he did I wouldn't stand for it. That proves he doesn't trust me. I have male friends. Always have always will.

canadiangirl098 · #83 06-08-2012, 05:56 PM

i agree but disagree lol..i have a couple of friends that are guys and they have never crossed the boundary but me and my bf was at one time friends but we had the benefits as well sometimes and i have had a couple of guy friends that wanted fun even though im taken and they know it

BrandonsBabe · #84 07-10-2012, 08:49 PM

Even though I'm not the most attractive, I'll go ahead and say this one...lately, I've learned that the vast majority of male "friends," wanna have sex with me. I put quotations because most of them are something between acquaintances and friends, but my legitimate friends too...anyway, they're all smart enough not to say anything, not to make any note of it, and not to show anything. As long as they pretend they have no interest at all, as most do, there's no problem. Now, if anyone specifically said anything to me, I would drop him immediately, but I've been lucky enough not to have that problem. Men and women can just be friends, but that rarely happens.

ilovecoffee · #85 07-11-2012, 02:56 PM

I actually just had this conversation with my babe. I told him that I do not believe in men and women being friends. He said he agrees that "most" women and men cant. I think it would be a lot different if we had are men in are everyday lives. If they were here it would give men less chances to hit on us and want some. I had someone try to sweet talk me their crap, didnt obviously work. I told him and he wasnt impressed. So far thats the only situation I have had.

dixiebelle1973 · #86 07-11-2012, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovecoffee

I actually just had this conversation with my babe. I told him that I do not believe in men and women being friends. He said he agrees that "most" women and men cant. I think it would be a lot different if we had are men in are everyday lives. If they were here it would give men less chances to hit on us and want some. I had someone try to sweet talk me their crap, didnt obviously work. I told him and he wasnt impressed. So far thats the only situation I have had.

I have a couple male friends. They are also friends with my man. Be has a couple of female friends. Neither of us are are so.insecure we can't allow each their friends. We have complete trust. He's a good man.

ilovecoffee · #87 07-12-2012, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by dixiebelle1973

I have a couple male friends. They are also friends with my man. Be has a couple of female friends. Neither of us are are so.insecure we can't allow each their friends. We have complete trust. He's a good man.

Are you seriously tryig to imply that we are "insecure" since we dont agree male and female cant be friends? You sound all high and mighty IMHO. Everyone has their own ideas, likes and dislikes in a relationship.

dixiebelle1973 · #88 07-12-2012, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by ilovecoffee

Are you seriously tryig to imply that we are "insecure" since we dont agree male and female cant be friends? You sound all high and mighty IMHO. Everyone has their own ideas, likes and dislikes in a relationship.

I didn't say you or name anyone. You are over reading. If I'd have thought it I'd have written it. I'm pretty outspoken

ilovecoffee · #89 07-12-2012, 05:23 PM

When you put up a qoute from someone and then write your response then your response is directed at that person. So how else would me or anyone else take it? I know your out spoken believe that!

Fluffy T · #90 07-17-2012, 09:35 AM

Of course men and women can just be friends - how ridiculous to suggest otherwise honestly.... It's about boundaries; you set those whether you realise or not with same sex friends and opposite sex friends, gay friends, parents, siblings....all the same thing.