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LeStrange · #1 04-11-2011, 01:40 PM

Ok so I've noticed ALOT that the TN section is sooo QUIET. Where are ALL the TN wives, girlfriends and other family members of inmates? What's going on in your world?

mrswork314 · #2 04-20-2011, 07:13 PM

I agree...I am new here, and there doesn't seem to be much support for gals like us!

My husband is having a parole hearing in a few (loooong) days and I am not getting my hopes up...just in case.

So, what's your story? If you need support from someone who knows what you're going through, just let me know!

LeStrange · #3 04-20-2011, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by mrswork314

I agree...I am new here, and there doesn't seem to be much support for gals like us!

My husband is having a parole hearing in a few (loooong) days and I am not getting my hopes up...just in case.

So, what's your story? If you need support from someone who knows what you're going through, just let me know!

Welcome! We'll I don't live in TN but my guy is at STSRCF in Pikeville. I live in Austin, TX. Mine comes up for parole in July I think and he has told me not to get my hopes up and I haven't. If he doesn't make it he will get out in 3 years. I just hope he makes it. I just wish the TN forum was MORE active like the other forums. It would be nice to meet more TN wives and girlfriends.

NotherWife2 · #4 04-20-2011, 08:47 PM

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Originally Posted by mrswork314

I agree...I am new here, and there doesn't seem to be much support for gals like us!

My husband is having a parole hearing in a few (loooong) days and I am not getting my hopes up...just in case.

So, what's your story? If you need support from someone who knows what you're going through, just let me know!

TN goes through cycles. Some are blessed with positive home returns/some are not so blessed. There are a few of us long-timers who have become "lurkers" and have been here long enough to know the ins-n-outs (rights/wrongs). After the shock of it all in this very dirty and unusual life as a Prison Wife/Girlfriend our lives do continue on in one form or another....
I am a former long term tenured TDOC staff member AND a wife of a lifer W/Parole. My whole life has been law (birth *right* I guess one could say as my birth family are all involved in just about every level of law --- IN a different [well educated] state). I will not sugar-coat anything.
If you have questions - post them. They WILL be answered. For general chit-chat.... some will reply, depending on the Level of said.
This is a very difficult ride and it does involve that nasty of nasitest of words --- Politics.
Bless you and all new-comers to PTO!!!!

NotherWife2 · #5 04-20-2011, 09:02 PM

If you have questions relating to P&P (Polices and Procedures) I can easily show you where they are. If you have questions regarding TDOC vs CCA, I can answer them as well. Questions regarding behind the fence... I will give you either a direct answer or a pretty darned good - educated one. Questions re: Love --- they are all as unique as a snowflake, so I would be asking YOU questions to answer your own self.

JenNJason · #6 04-20-2011, 11:09 PM

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Originally Posted by NotherWife2

If you have questions relating to P&P (Polices and Procedures) I can easily show you where they are. If you have questions regarding TDOC vs CCA, I can answer them as well. Questions regarding behind the fence... I will give you either a direct answer or a pretty darned good - educated one. Questions re: Love --- they are all as unique as a snowflake, so I would be asking YOU questions to answer your own self.

Hi Notherwife2,
I am full of questions but not sure which ones to ask first. My fiance Jason just finished seeing everyone he had to see ,for classification today. He is currently at WTSP. He classed minimum and should have gone to an annex but the consular said they are all to full, ofcourse. I guess he is headed to Hardeman County sometime in the next month or so. I hate that because it's almost 7 hours from me. Was hoping he would go to NECX. Oh well, guess its time to stop hoping. I will keep praying though. He didn't want to go to a CCA but it is what it is. If you have time maybe you can throw out some details I may not have read somewhere else?? I have read a bit here and some on the TDOC site about Hardeman County but haven't read a lot. I am concerned about his safety there. Thanks for you time.

NotherWife2 · #7 04-21-2011, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by JenNJason

Hi Notherwife2,
I am full of questions but not sure which ones to ask first. My fiance Jason just finished seeing everyone he had to see ,for classification today. He is currently at WTSP. He classed minimum and should have gone to an annex but the consular said they are all to full, ofcourse. I guess he is headed to Hardeman County sometime in the next month or so. I hate that because it's almost 7 hours from me. Was hoping he would go to NECX. Oh well, guess its time to stop hoping. I will keep praying though. He didn't want to go to a CCA but it is what it is. If you have time maybe you can throw out some details I may not have read somewhere else?? I have read a bit here and some on the TDOC site about Hardeman County but haven't read a lot. I am concerned about his safety there. Thanks for you time.

He will be alright at HCCF, here is the link for it from the TDOC page
http://www.tn.gov/correction/institutions/hccf.html
Here is the link to CCA's HCCF link: http://www.cca.com/facility/hardeman...tional-center/
Best wishes on your journey through Hel1

Heluvedme1st · #8 04-21-2011, 12:43 PM

Hello and Welcome to PTO

JTJwife · #9 04-24-2011, 07:48 AM

My lap top was critical for a while, it has been revived and working well.

My hubby is at a CCA facility. The food is not fit for hogs. The food they sell at the commissary is past the expiration date. The guards are low paid, locals who cannot get a job anywhere else. The company makes money every day on the backs of our loved ones. The health care is not any better than in a third world county. Does it show I do not like CCA. When he was in a state facility everything was better.

We are currently looking at a parole hearing in August. I think they should let him come home, he is in on a parole violation....a paper violation...he did not commit another crime, just failed to show up.

My family and the people I work with know hubby is in prison. I have worked my schedule around being able to see him every Saturday. No one has yet said anything bad about me staying with him (16 more months to flatten). I also have the support of his family. Right now I am missing out on things...holidays...being home together...meals together....hanging out together.....vacations...everything. But at the end, when he gets home, it will all be worth the wait.

The thing hubby and I have going for us...we are a bit older. We have both settled down into the place in life where we did not feel the need to be out and about making our place in the world, we already had it. Also there are not any children issues here....no pregnancy, wanting kids, already raising kids.....do pets count?

If you want it bad enough and work hard enough, it will happen.

Tims wife

JenNJason · #10 04-24-2011, 09:24 PM

Thanks JTJWife, I think today has been one of those days where I needed a reminder that it is do-able. I've had one of those dreaded days where I miss him so much I can hardly function. Sometimes being alone on special occasions is just not an easy thing to do. I guess I am just get tired and weak... I cannot imagine my life without my fiance/best friend. I miss him so much right now but missing him for this short time has to be much better than missing him forever. My family members are pretty good about things also. Sometimes I get these sorta "what are you doing or talking about" kinda looks. I look over it because they have no clue what this is about. I sure hope your man gets parole. I will be praying for you guys. I am figuring I will not care much for CCA either, when the time comes. I wish they would get hin settled somewhere either way though,..

RaysAngel0228 · #11 05-05-2011, 03:39 AM

Hey Ladies! I am new to this site. My hunny is in a Tennessee prison. I live in Tennessee, too. I am a MWI and I can't wait until my hunny comes home!

JenNJason · #12 05-06-2011, 07:22 AM

Hi and welcome to PTO

heat0727 · #13 06-02-2011, 01:19 PM

Yea, the TN boards don't appear to be very active which suprises me because Knox county is sending people left and right. I am new to this site. My husband was actually just transported from Knox Co to MCCX this morning. I haven't had a call yet but I have been checking the FOIL site every morning. He is going to serve a 4 yr sentence that he had already done some of and violated his state probation. The website shows he is eligible for parole 10/22/11...but I know better to expect it the first go around. He is not new to the DOC, but I am. I have done the jail thing, but I know this is another monster. Any hints tips or other advice is appreciated. I am hoping to find some people to help eachother through this experience. I'm not very close with my inlaws who has done this with him before, and my family doesn't get it, they have never dealt with legal stuff and for the most part they don't support my marriage. I love my husband and I made a vow to him and God, for better or worse...and I'm not going anywhere. I am missing my lover and my best friend, my other half. Look forward to getting to know you all.

Christina

JTJwife · #14 06-03-2011, 01:08 PM

Patience, patience and more patience. One of the hardest things for me is to see hubby treated as some sort of animal. He is a human being. A vast majority of the guards are not any better and truth be known they are just as much a criminal as hubby. They have not been caught.

My family is staying quiet on the subject of my hubby. They say nothing good or bad. I am the one living with my decision, not them.

Hang on tight. It can be a bumpy ride.

Tims Wife

Blossy12 · #15 06-03-2011, 10:41 PM

Hello! I have seen some very good posts here that have encouraged me. My fiance is in MCCC and has been gone since May 16th for a parole violation. He was on parole for 6.5 years and his expiration date is Oct 2011, how does the realease process work? I havent really seen anything about that.
thanks bunches!
Angie

JenNJason · #16 06-09-2011, 02:07 AM

Hi all. I've not been able to post for a while but I still read all the time. Nice to meet ya'll! This is indeed a bumpy ride. Jason has been gone since December 28, 2009. He was in county lock ups until 4-6-11. He is on the other side of the state and I haven't seen him since he was transported. It's killing me. I haven't touched him in 17mths. But my time is coming. He has picked up a marriage packet

Maybe I wont even go until we have that arranged??? Sure would be nice if our first kiss in all this time was as man and wife. I wish all of you the very best and in my expirence the only thing I know for sure is that I dont know anything for sure when it comes to the system. I feel blind folded in a maze most of the time. No rhyme or reason to anything the so called justice system spits out!! Prayers for you and yours!

JTJwife · #17 06-09-2011, 09:27 PM

Ya got it! Blindfolded in a maze. That is an ideal way to tell it like it is.

There is no justice in the justice system.

Tims Wife

FoxIzLady · #18 06-20-2011, 09:52 AM

I'm new to this,but am so gratefull for the support.. NECX is my boyfriend's current home... He calls it summercamp,lol,he was in Tourney Center from 2005 til the begining of this year... It's amazing to know that there are people who aren't going to give me that look (it's your fault for staying,not again,ect) because of how I feel & what he & I are going through... They say misery loves company, but mine just needs support...THANX

luvnmysons · #19 07-04-2011, 07:58 PM

I am a mother new to this site. My only living son has just been sent to prison a month ago, to serve 40 years. He is currently at WTSP, but is awaiting transfer to Northwest ( I think that's it) in Tiptionville,Tennessee. I would really love to get in touch with any of the others here from Tennessee..thru this website and find out all i can about how life will be for him now and what I can do for him.

POD&POJ2010 · #20 08-14-2011, 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by NotherWife2

If you have questions relating to P&P (Polices and Procedures) I can easily show you where they are. If you have questions regarding TDOC vs CCA, I can answer them as well. Questions regarding behind the fence... I will give you either a direct answer or a pretty darned good - educated one. Questions re: Love --- they are all as unique as a snowflake, so I would be asking YOU questions to answer your own self.

Hi, I am new here, but new to being an inmates girlfriend. My boyfriend was released from HCCF in September last year, and is now back in at MCCX. He was just sent this week. They sent him to charles Bass for one or two days. Does that mean he has been classified and MCCX is where he will be housed? Also he said several times when he was out that if anything ever happened he didn't not want to go back to anything CCA, so can you tell me if where he is at is different, and if so, how? Thank You for anything you can tell me.

Fancy · #21 08-14-2011, 01:55 PM

MCCX is not CCA...

That could be his permanent prison or more likely....MCCX is a classification center and he is going thru a classification process.

Classification takes about 6 weeks and then they will decide where they wanna send him.

Welcome to PTO.

KLK77 · #22 12-14-2011, 12:21 PM

Hey! I am a newbie on here, and my boyfriend of 5 years has been locked up for the past 2.5 in Sumner County, and we just found out he now is facing a 15 year at 30%..so I am waiting to see when they will move him from County to a state facility. Breaks my heart this is all happening, and he does not deserve to be sent away longer based on his case, and the evidence. 26 people in a huge marijiuana drug ring, and all the key players who were caught with weed, money, video surv, and phones tapped are out because they took deals. My man was released because they had nothing on him, and after the others rolled they went & picked him up...he is the one the DA is using to hold over his brothers head which is who they want. Sad because my man wasnt even being watched or part of this. So....I am having to deal with him being gone again for 2.5 more years, but what are the odds of someone who has no prior record, and not a violent offender getting in TDOC, taking programs & getting released early?

lissalee · #23 01-31-2013, 07:03 AM

***sorry, i should have started a new thread for this intro, thought there was just one big intro thread, my bad.....

hi all, and thank you to site admin(s) and mods for maintaining what seems to be the only site around here for those of us dealing with DOC and our families, i don't feel so alone and stigmatized after reading through these boards.

i am halfway through a 3 year sentence on probation for robbery (of a pharmacy). it was my first offense, and i was fortunate to have a good public defender who got me the minimum sentence, time served (only 47 days, which i needed to detox anyway), and diversion. i'm told, and am now seeing firsthand, that many PO's here in knox will start to "push" or "mess with" you once you hit the halfway mark.....whether this is to rattle my cage as a test of my coping skills and/or determination, or a means of tripping me up to get a violation in order to start the 3 years over and the fees rolling in, i have no idea. i am definitely being pushed, however, and i'm very frustrated. reason would dictate that after 4 failed screens and successful completion of intensive outpatient, holding steady full-time work all the while, that my PO might ease up a bit.

def not the case, so reason and logic are out i suppose. if anything the IOP counselor took 2 full months to release my graduation papers (lying about with holding them intentionally until we discussed aftercare.....a total cover-your-ass move on her part because she's forever behind on her paperwork), so my PO thought i just lied. when i finally handed her the papers, she drug tests me and i pop positive for morphine, and pass for the benzo im prescribed.....wtf??

i KNOW my sample was clean (i subbed clean pee i had used a couple times in IOP to be safe, as i had smoked, like an idiot, on new years) so i refused to "admit" to anything and PO sends it to the lab. i called last tuesday (exactly one week from the day she sent it off), and she said the results wouldn't be in til thursday. she also says the IOP counselor can't send her a copy of my aftercare plan sans a release--a release i KNOW i signed upon entering IOP--so i need to bring it in to her when i get it in the mail. i just say ok, give her my current number (it had changed), and let my lawyer know what's up.

i have been working every day, so i still haven't called to be sure the lab was clean, but i won't jeopardize my livelihood by falling apart at work when she bullies me, or God forbid, tell me the lab was dirty. i haven't heard anything, or received the aftercare papers. i plan on calling friday (finally off, lol) about the lab results, and i have learned to plan to get bitched at when i call regardless, but this time it'll be about why i haven't brought the aftercare papers.

so i have a few questions:

would i have heard from her already had the lab been dirty? or.....

is the aftercare paperwork a means of getting me in there to arrest me for a dirty lab?

could she have spiked my sample?
i know it sounds paranoid, but i know she thinks i got off too lightly. a VOP would screw diversion, re-start the 3 years, and cost me my job when i get tossed in jail, satisfying her sense of justice while also keeping the revolving door, well, revolving.

ive found a few scientific papers on false positives, even one where a strip for cocaine was simply allowed to oxidize in open air and it popped positive. if i do have to go back in front of the judge, i want proof that it does happen.

lastly, my aftercare mandates 3 meetings (2 at my temple and 1 NA/AA) a week, but said nothing, last i checked, about going back on my psych meds, a couple of which are narcotics (needless to say, i attend an AA meeting) for complex PTSD and severe ADHD. can my PO, being that she isn't a doctor, mandate that i not take them? i know she will try; she relies heavily on my ignorance of my rights and limited knowledge of her requirement to try to work with me on certain things, like accomodating a FT work schedule for a probationer with no car or means of getting across town to the BOPP on some days.

the fact that the IOP counselor lied to begin with sucks, but she knows no one would take my word against hers, and she abused her position on MANY levels. who knows maybe she suspected i subbed a few times but couldnt prove it, so she's passing the torch to my PO. i hold degrees in microbiology and molecular biology and was a half a dissertation away from my doctorate in pharmacology, so she may think i was getting over on her in some super-technical way the whole time (impossible btw, or i'd probably have tried it, despite how stupid that is....i'm working on impulse control with my psych, lol).

thoughts? insights? i really think these two are working together to screw people,me included. help!

sorry for the long post, thanks for reading.

L.A.W.ily · #24 01-31-2013, 08:42 AM

Hi all...Good too see some movement here! lol My man, well, ex now, is at Hardeman. I just sent a letter this morning calling things off. It's a long story, but this is best for me for now. I'm not turning my back on him, I just can't be in a relationship with him. He has some growing up to do....Anyways, maybe someone can give some info? He was in a fight the other day between the crips & bloods during chow...he was sent to the hole and I have heard from his old celly that they are puttin him in max or moving him. My question is, if and how I can find out whats going on & how long does it take normally for them to move an inmate. I know it depends, but generally speaking.