Planning for a family in the future?

[4EVER4ALWAYS]

My husband has been begging for a baby for the last 4 years. I've been taking care of myself bc I want him to stay out b4 we take that big step. His parents have been wanting grand kids too but I just want him home for everything. This time around he seems ready to stop running the streets so we'll see how things go. We both want babies but I don't want my kids to have to visit daddy in prison. I know he's gona be THE BEST DADDY EVER!

[paradise soul]

Yes, we want to have a baby when he comes home. I have 4 kids already, he has two almost grown kids .................he missed out being around when they grew up......usually I said after the forth one that I am done and don´t want no more kids, but wow....that time I never knew that THIS MAN I always wanted came around in my life, so: Yes, we want one child when he is back.

[blaquethai]

Yes, I have 3 and he has 3

[BobbyPin]

just an observation...looks like most people who posted have blended families and are hoping to add to their family when their s/o get out.
me personally...no more kids for me. I was married for 5 years and finished my degree before we tried and then had our first. I wanted to do everything 'right' (just my opinion of right). I spaced my kids (2) 4 years apart and then got my husband neutered. I'm kinda glad I had the kids before dh's arrest. I wouldn't be comfortable with planning to get pregnant with a 'criminal' if you will.

[tchavon1984]

yep as soon as we step foot in the house clothes are off and we're trying where eva we make it to... hopefully we make it to the bed cuz I'd hate to have to tell me child they were concieved on the kitchen floor lol but no seriously I think he wants to try just as bad as I do... I cant wait

[lil peep]

Originally Posted by BobbyPin

I'm kinda glad I had the kids before dh's arrest. I wouldn't be comfortable with planning to get pregnant with a 'criminal' if you will.

No offense, but how is having kids with a criminal before he got locked up any different than having kids with him after he gets out of prison? He's still got a criminal history either way.

For us, we decided to just do us and put babies on the back burner. We really want time to build our relationship and get settled in together and not worry about anymore kids. Money's going to be tight as it is and we won't have our own place right off, so it's just not a responsible move for us to get pregnant. I've got my little girl and we're both okay with that!

[LoveBuggy]

Originally Posted by BobbyPin

just an observation...looks like most people who posted have blended families and are hoping to add to their family when their s/o get out.
me personally...no more kids for me. I was married for 5 years and finished my degree before we tried and then had our first. I wanted to do everything 'right' (just my opinion of right). I spaced my kids (2) 4 years apart and then got my husband neutered. I'm kinda glad I had the kids before dh's arrest. I wouldn't be comfortable with planning to get pregnant with a 'criminal' if you will.

Wow SMH!
Gonna keep my negative comments to myself.

[june5]

Ideally I wish we could wait awhile after he gets out. I'm in my mid-30's now (how did that happen? lol) with no kids, he doesn't have kids either, so really not much of a choice for me biologically but to try as soon as possible.

[namama]

Originally Posted by BobbyPin

just an observation...looks like most people who posted have blended families and are hoping to add to their family when their s/o get out.
me personally...no more kids for me. I was married for 5 years and finished my degree before we tried and then had our first. I wanted to do everything 'right' (just my opinion of right). I spaced my kids (2) 4 years apart and then got my husband neutered. I'm kinda glad I had the kids before dh's arrest. I wouldn't be comfortable with planning to get pregnant with a 'criminal' if you will.

Callous people shouldn't breed!!! I wouldn't have any more kids if i was you either!!! LMAO

[akaptrosa]

No... but, the way things go in my life... I'll be 50 and prego!

[Ilovemyinmate10]

We are hoping to be able to start on our own little family. He is scared that he won't be able to have kids after all the drugs he done. And I am really hoping he can. I wouldn't leave him if he couldn't.

[BobbyPin]

I can understand the negative comments..but my husband is a sex offender. If you knew my story you would understnd better I'm sure. My husband wasn't a SO when I married him and had kids. But, kids are here now and I can't change who their father is.

[lil peep]

Bobby--I don't know your story, so yeah I can't say one way or the other. To me, it was just an odd comment to make in a place where everyone is here b/c they know someone, are married to or are dating someone in prison. But you're right, we don't know your situation.

[VinnysGirl]

Originally Posted by BobbyPin

I can understand the negative comments..but my husband is a sex offender. If you knew my story you would understnd better I'm sure. My husband wasn't a SO when I married him and had kids. But, kids are here now and I can't change who their father is.

*I feel ya on that one, but it was a harsh way to put it when all of us are here for the same reason. If we knew Vinny was gonna be gone for 6 years, we wouldnt have started planning our lil Family. Its a struggle!

I met him when my oldest was a year old. After 2 years together we decided to have a baby. We had NO CLUE this stuff was going to come up and tear apart our lives! BUT it just put things on hold. Yes, money will be tight. Yes, we will need to get ourselves put together before we have another. Probably after he is off parole and the whole 9 yards. I even told him I expect to be married and financially secure before we try for another. So My oldest might be a 16 by then(she's 8 next month)...built in babysitter? LMAO J/K!

[wife2countryboy]

I would love to have a child with him. We have every intention of trying for a baby when he gets out after we are married. He has no children and my son just turned 18. I recently celebrated my 36th birthday so I would like to do it sooner rather than later.

[ohsweetmaryjane]

He just came home, and, yes, we have already had this discussion. If I knew that he was going to stay clean and get a job, I would get pregnant tomorrow. Or, better yet, today. LOL. However, since nothing is guaranteed, we will be waiting. He gets off parole in January 2013 and I'm thinking that might be a good time. Not that I want to wait that long...

[PsychedelcPanic]

I would love to have his child but, he has life without parole And, I am too old to have a baby.

[krystal_is_me]

yep! definitely! We were just talking about this yesterday, actually he talks about having babies all the time. We just cannot agree on a number, hahaha. He is from a small family, where he was pretty much the only child (he has a half sibling that he rarely saw) and I am from a family of 9 kids (blended family) and I know how much my parents struggled, and how lost kids can feel in a family that large.

[MIKAER]

We are getting a big dog, and a fat cat! Then we can fight over which of the kids we like better....

[jy_ty]

He has two and I have one, so having one together will complete our family and tie in all of our kids!! We are definitely going to have a baby together when he comes home, secures his job (they've been holding it for him), and puts some savings back into the account!! 2mths and counting, OMG it's exciting!!

[gypsyish]

Originally Posted by MIKAER

We are getting a big dog, and a fat cat! Then we can fight over which of the kids we like better....

lol, that's exactly what we are planning on doing. I want a big husky and a couple kitties and that'll be our family