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littlecat723 · #1 04-30-2011, 11:28 PM

Out of nowhere. I promised I'd stay with him, through everything, and right before his sentencing (which we know he's doing a minimum of 2 1/2 years due to the FL min/man), he just said we live two different lives. He said I did nothing wrong but won't talk to me. And just a couple days ago he told me about a future of us together...married, children, etc....I'm so hurt.

closer2mydreamz · #2 04-30-2011, 11:51 PM

sorry that you are goung through this. I know that it is always difficult when it comes out of nowhere. Could it be maybe that he is going through his own personal struggle with being in jail etc???? Sometimes when we are put in situations we tend to pull away from the people that love us the most.

littlecat723 · #3 05-01-2011, 12:23 AM

that's exactly what's happening but i don't know what to do, ive tried to talk to him, begged and pleaded...if i make a commitment/promise im going to stick to it...why push away your only faithful and real [girl]friend?

closer2mydreamz · #4 05-01-2011, 12:34 AM

I know it doesn't make any sense to you and hard to try to figure out what's going on in his head, but all you can do is give him space and let him deal with whatever he is going through.

Heluvedme1st · #5 05-01-2011, 12:42 AM

Maybe he is just trying to deal with his sentence my Husband Break up with me he said that he would whether end things with me then to be half way through his sentence and I decided to walk away then.. But he came around when he saw I wasn't going anywhere

FastCarGirl · #6 05-01-2011, 12:43 AM

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Originally Posted by littlecat723

that's exactly what's happening but i don't know what to do, ive tried to talk to him, begged and pleaded...if i make a commitment/promise im going to stick to it...why push away your only faithful and real [girl]friend?

He's hurt, he's going through it and in a twisted logic he loves you so doesn't want *you* to be locked up with him, metaphorically speaking, they hear horror stories in there so he's trying to protect you and protect himself in the only way he knows how.

As hard as it is, back off from him romantically for now, and still be there for him and be his friend, write him, visit him if your able and just keep doing you. Most likely he'll come back around when he's at his parent institution and the inital shock wears off. Sorry your going through this, good luck!

littlecat723 · #7 05-01-2011, 01:22 AM

thanks all...im going to do my best, this is all new to me as well as its new to him but ill begin looking for cool stationary and stuff :/

((hugs all))

littlecat723 · #8 05-02-2011, 12:28 AM

you guys were/are right. we talked a little and he said he wanted to be by himself due to his situation. he said i was an awesome person and wants to stay good friends. i have a feeling he'll eventually come around, but i'm not going to push it. i just want him to know i care and i'm going to support him.

tnm8 · #9 05-03-2011, 02:01 AM

some guys push away the people they care about because they think it'll be less painful/easier in the long run...but it isnt. im sorry

VinnysGirl · #10 05-08-2011, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by littlecat723

you guys were/are right. we talked a little and he said he wanted to be by himself due to his situation. he said i was an awesome person and wants to stay good friends. i have a feeling he'll eventually come around, but i'm not going to push it. i just want him to know i care and i'm going to support him.

Good! Also, a foundation of a friendship will make a great relationship someday : ) the fact that you're there for him WILL mean something to him. Good luck! : )

curegirl · #11 05-08-2011, 10:48 AM

Sweetie, sorry to hear that! He thinks he's protecting you. He'll come around. I promise.