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Reina1978 · #1 05-29-2011, 09:05 AM

Hello beautiful PTO ladies! Today marks the 1 month mark from the time my love was taken into custody. It has been one of the hardest and longest months of my entire life! I still don't know exactly how many more months we have to go.
I sent him a 'one month' card yesterday and I focused on the positive. It is not only one month of incarceration, it is one month closer to his freedom, one month closer to the new beginning of the rest of our lives together, one month that we can put behind us permanently and never look back. I plan on sending him one card each month focusing on how much has been acomplished, rather than how much we've 'lost' or 'suffered', to keep both of our spirits up and our energy focusing on the positive.
I want to thank you all for posting and sharing here on PTO. I know I haven't posted much. I spent most of the month reading obsesively though so all of you have definitely helped me get through this difficult time!! Peace, love and light to all of you! Month TWO, here we come! ((hugs))

Mrs.ASwift223 · #2 05-29-2011, 09:10 AM

gosh I remember that first month, now its been six months and i feel like he just went back in. When you focus on the positive it goes by like a lighting bolt.

ejandcgirl · #3 05-29-2011, 09:11 AM

That's such a nice thing to do, sending a card. Your guy is really lucky to have you. And you have a great attitude, each day he's in there is a day he is closer to coming home. I admire that.

LuvnDee · #4 05-29-2011, 10:42 AM

Nice idea. And I always say.. remember that each day go by is a day closer to yall being back together again, dont look at how long yall been apart. It's not easy, but you have a great spirit and I know that each month he will love your cards. :-)

ShanJ123 · #5 05-29-2011, 06:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Reina1978

Hello beautiful PTO ladies! Today marks the 1 month mark from the time my love was taken into custody. It has been one of the hardest and longest months of my entire life! I still don't know exactly how many more months we have to go.
I sent him a 'one month' card yesterday and I focused on the positive. It is not only one month of incarceration, it is one month closer to his freedom, one month closer to the new beginning of the rest of our lives together, one month that we can put behind us permanently and never look back. I plan on sending him one card each month focusing on how much has been acomplished, rather than how much we've 'lost' or 'suffered', to keep both of our spirits up and our energy focusing on the positive.
I want to thank you all for posting and sharing here on PTO. I know I haven't posted much. I spent most of the month reading obsesively though so all of you have definitely helped me get through this difficult time!! Peace, love and light to all of you! Month TWO, here we come! ((hugs))

Reina1978....

Girl I know just where you are coming from!! Although for us it is our 3 month mark, we still don't know how much time he has either. He was sentenced to 30 months, but he's a first time offender which gives him half his time and he also got credit for time served, but we don't know exactly how they calculate it. How long was your man sentenced to? I read much more than I post too. It really is amazing how everyone on PTO helps. I don't feel so alone and lost when everyone else has almost the exact same feelings.

light at end · #6 05-29-2011, 07:17 PM

Congratulations. You made it to your first milestone!!!! That is a great accomplishment and you have a great outlook on this. You got it right, month 2 here you come!!!!!

Reina1978 · #7 05-30-2011, 06:10 PM

I appreciate you all for sending me such positive energy :-) To top it all off... I received my first letter from my love today!!! It took FOREVER to get here! I guess international mail takes waaaayyy longer to deliver (I'm in Ontario, Canada he's in NC, USA) so I'm on a beautiful cloud of happiness and love right now. I love him so much and this letter is such a beautiful way to begin month 2!! Thank you all for being here for me. Just because I haven't posted often doesn't mean I don't cherish each of you and understand what we are all going through. Have an amazing day ladies. Peace!!

wonderz · #8 05-31-2011, 12:38 AM

Nice! It was one month on the 29th also that my boyfriend was locked up, lucky he only has seven more to go! I can't wait to kiss him again! You gave me a great idea about sending him a card for each month he has left! I might just snach that idea for ya! haha

MissingChris~ · #9 05-31-2011, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Reina1978

Hello beautiful PTO ladies! Today marks the 1 month mark from the time my love was taken into custody. It has been one of the hardest and longest months of my entire life! I still don't know exactly how many more months we have to go.
I sent him a 'one month' card yesterday and I focused on the positive. It is not only one month of incarceration, it is one month closer to his freedom, one month closer to the new beginning of the rest of our lives together, one month that we can put behind us permanently and never look back. I plan on sending him one card each month focusing on how much has been acomplished, rather than how much we've 'lost' or 'suffered', to keep both of our spirits up and our energy focusing on the positive.
I want to thank you all for posting and sharing here on PTO. I know I haven't posted much. I spent most of the month reading obsesively though so all of you have definitely helped me get through this difficult time!! Peace, love and light to all of you! Month TWO, here we come! ((hugs))

I think this is great! my man loves getting encouraging letters and always calls to thank me specifically when one has especailly built him up. I never thought to send him cards. I try not to stress time to him because he told me i will drive myself crazy doing countdowns. But i countdown at home. I DO however, send him inspirational and happy letters. he says they are beautiful and he reads them over and over. He even shared one of them with his celly to help him through a rough time. I didnt mind but, asked to please keep our private life private. I send him alot of scripture as he does me, poems, quotes and exciting news to help him not focus on the depressing things.

Reina1978 · #10 05-31-2011, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by ShanJ123

Reina1978....

Girl I know just where you are coming from!! Although for us it is our 3 month mark, we still don't know how much time he has either. He was sentenced to 30 months, but he's a first time offender which gives him half his time and he also got credit for time served, but we don't know exactly how they calculate it. How long was your man sentenced to? I read much more than I post too. It really is amazing how everyone on PTO helps. I don't feel so alone and lost when everyone else has almost the exact same feelings.

Well, he is in on a technical post-release-supervision revocation so from what I understand it can be no longer than 9 months since he's already served his time (over 7 years in prison)... although I don't know for sure, and neither does he at this point so we'll just hope for the best!!

Beachhouse · #11 05-31-2011, 01:11 PM

Congratulations!!! We are nearing his 4th month gone June 10th and 2 months since I've seen him June 2nd. He went into the prison April 5th so its almost 2 months there. Still waiting to visit. The time seems to go fast, but while I want it to fly by, I don't either because I will be 15 yrs older. Ugh! Not in a hurry for that.

Glad you made it through the first month and glad you don't have too much time to wait.

mrsw2010 · #12 05-31-2011, 03:45 PM

This post is so encouraging to me. My husband has been gone for 2 weeks and I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't wait to hear from him

tearfallzbreak · #13 05-31-2011, 03:53 PM

I always thought the first month was the hardest I just didnt know what to do with myself. Congrats on getting thru your first month the rest will get easier as the time goes but always remember what you accomplished... Look foward not back

Reina1978 · #14 06-01-2011, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsw2010

This post is so encouraging to me. My husband has been gone for 2 weeks and I feel like I'm going crazy. I can't wait to hear from him

TRUST ME, I understand what you are going through!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If it wasn't for this website and the obsessing I did with reasearch on the internet, and the many, many, many emotional conversations I put his mother through (lol, glad she likes me!!!) I would have gone insane! Keep your head high and know that he is feeling the same way not being able to communicate with you. I encourage you to keep writing to him during this time. It really helped me get through the first month. Before I heard from him at all I had already mailed him 12 letters!! He tells me that those letters were the most precious aspect of being in there and they kept him going the entire time. I was going crazy not hearing back from him but I kept writing anyway and I'm so glad I did. If you want to talk, I'm here!! Hang in there, you're in a perfect forum for what you're experiencing, we ALL understand!!! (((((hugs)))))

DaMeS_GiRl88 · #15 06-01-2011, 09:31 PM

try not to think about it month by month it will make your time go by slow im already at a year with my babe and it went by fast cuz i wasn't thinking about it

Reina1978 · #16 06-01-2011, 10:16 PM

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Originally Posted by DaMeS_GiRl88

try not to think about it month by month it will make your time go by slow im already at a year with my babe and it went by fast cuz i wasn't thinking about it

Peace Dames

, my baby is back on parole revocation and he has a maximum of 9 months to do so it helps to count down the months for me. If he was in for years then I completely understand how counting down monthly would seem overwhelming so I sincerely appreciate the advice given by you to all our sisters who have to deal with years+ sentences.