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Johnston90 · #1 06-27-2011, 02:54 PM

I've not been over here for some time. I've ended it with my death row inmate. I've had it. Its been 4 years. Last summer he told me to start seeing other men etc. I didn't do this right away but did figure out he was writing someone else. So I come clean with him as I'm an honest person. Now he says it has to be all about him and that I need to dedicate myself to him. Well now I've let myself fall for someone else and I can't just turn my back on this person. Who helps me no matter what. Here is the thing...I've helped this guy with his legal work, gone above and beyond to help him and send him money etc. I had still planned on being his friend after all this. We really drifted away the last year in which I am sad about - but right now today - I AM SO ANGRY WITH HIM I WANT TO SCREAM! He told me that I better send him his stuff (this is my stuff that I have gathered through these 4 years trying to help prove his innocence) but h e can have it. I have no issue with that. I've actually sent it to his sister before in which she sent it back to me....unopened. Anyway he tells me today if I don't do what he wants that he will have no choice than to have someone email my mom. WTH? Why would he want to involve her into this? I did contact his sister today and let him know how he is acting. I read the rules and regulations for TDCJ but I don't see where it relates to this. I'm just really venting but I was reading through here at various people being in love with death row inmates. Oh how I loved him in the beginnning and he gave me so much. Be careful. This is a hard type of relationship. I didn't mean to fall in love with him. I'm not really sad but I do feel like I lost a part of me......thoughts??

**pj663** · #2 06-27-2011, 04:31 PM

I'm sorry but have you fallen for another death row inmate?

mammastalkin · #3 06-27-2011, 05:02 PM

I'm sorry to read about your troubles and turmoil. Some people are selfish and manipulative--on both sides of the fence. I hope you can end things in a dignified way.
I don't understand what TDC regs have to do with it though. Or what he would tell your mother. Or why you would care. It seems doubtful to me that anyone would be willing to send an unkind or threatening message to your mother just on his say so.
But I do wish you all the best. If you need some help let us know. We're here to support you. But please don't paint all men in prison or D/R with the same brush.

**lisainengland** · #4 06-28-2011, 01:58 AM

I'm so sorry it all went wrong for you and him. I can understand your frustration with him. I think the best thing you can do now is send whatever it is he wants to his sister and write to him telling him she has it. Again I am sorry, we are always here to listen and support you

Johnston90 · #5 06-28-2011, 08:19 AM

Thanks all. No I have not fallen for another d/r inmate. I will never again do that. I need someone that is there for me in all aspects. I thought the same thing with the email to my mother....but he does have a new g/f so he might be able to manipulate her into doing it. He has really shown his true colors. I realize you can't paint everyone with the same brush...but I have heard his stories about men on D/R manipulating several women at the same time. Amazing that I never thought HE would do this to ME. As far as his stuff goes...its just stuff I gathered off his websites etc. My notes. I have sent it to his sister before when we were fighting and she DID NOT EVEN OPEN THE BOX! When she sent it back it was exactly how I sent it to her to begin with. I am so shocked that this letter he brings up my cancer and that I should know what its like to fight for my life. Its just crazy. Guess I'm just venting. I am going to send him a jpay today telling him never to contact myself or my family ever again. This is so not worth it anymore. Thanks for listening.