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Soon2BmrsP · #1 07-28-2011, 09:16 AM

So my hubby dumped me today--his dad will be estatic--

i cant believe it--he is so close to getting out

guess i was just a game after all and that would explain why he cheated and lied to me like he did.....(yet he has me n the kids names all over his body)

i still love him
i always will

so ladies never make some one a priority when u are only an option!!!

if u see red flags or ur gut goes off

listen to your inner self

instead of some smooth talking con

LeStrange · #2 07-28-2011, 12:04 PM

i still love him
i always will

No, you won't. You only say that right now as do ALL women but let 5 or 6 years go by that y'all hevn't been together or heard from each other and you won't.

closer2mydreamz · #3 07-28-2011, 12:23 PM

Sorry to hear this happened to you. I know sometimes when it still hurts, you don't see what a blessing it may be. Could be to say your more heart ache on the long run??? Just see what lesson you learned from this and pass it on to the next person who may be in your shoes. I've bumped my head a million times (with more bumps to come) But I am always surprised when I share something that hurt me how it inspires another person.

Take care.

skellerton · #4 07-28-2011, 06:22 PM

You might always have some love, but it will be tempered by the understanding that he is not a good partner and you had to move on. I think alot of guys love their woman but don't have the discipline to keep it going. On the other hand, one person can't do the part of both. It is what it is and you will learn to be okay with it. Sorry for your sadness rite now.,

acaustin · #5 07-28-2011, 06:34 PM

You say his dad will be estatic, i wonder why? would his dad have influenced him? even so it means he listens to other ppl rather than his own heart, I have suffered this first hand myself when other ppl influence other ppl but i hope he will realise soon what a wonderful lady he has let go, however i do not know the whole story and if he has cheated then he is not worth your time only you know if he is worth fighting for

CoNpal · #6 07-28-2011, 06:48 PM

I know exactly what you mean! Always listen to your gut no matter how bad it hurts or how much you don't want to. I learned a lesson in that department this week also.

I know it hurts right now. You will make it through this and be a better person. Hang in there and keep your chin up!

Let it burn, babe...It will get easier.

Claire2002 · #7 07-28-2011, 09:26 PM

What will you do? That's easy, find someone better!!!!

RaspberryCherry · #8 07-28-2011, 09:53 PM

In Time Your Heart Will Heal, The Pain Will Be A Feeling Of The Past. And In A Couple Of Years From Now
You'll Be Asking Yourself
"What The Hell Was Wrong With Me To Be With This Man".
I Have Been There.
And Yes Tattoo's Do Not Guarantee That A Couple Will Stay
Together.
You Will Get Over This And Move On Or Maybe Time Will
Bring You Two Back Together.
Never Know What The Future Holds.

bumblebee37 · #9 07-28-2011, 10:07 PM

You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and continue with your life. There is a big beautiful world out there waiting on you.

bb

Peach&Cream · #10 07-28-2011, 10:09 PM

i deliberately do not listen to my gut feeling sometimes - I want to prove myself wrong for some damn reason... only to end up hurting myself and possibly someone else involved with me. i think mastering that voice in our guts takes sometime, im still battling with it!

when my daughters dad & i split up while he was in prison, he gave me the best advice ever, "never build your life on a man, be the architect of yourself, depend on no one to make you happy either - do what makes you happy".

you may love him forever, but love isn't enough - hard truth to swallow, believe me I know.

go out with your friends this weekend, doll yourself up - look good feel good, go have some fun!

bnichole69 · #11 07-28-2011, 10:30 PM

I am so, so sorry! I'm not married to my man but I would be devastated if he done that to me after all I have done for him and stood by him while he was locked down. You deserve better sweetheart...movin on.

esteli · #12 07-28-2011, 11:16 PM

Absolutely agree! and Especially with "LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH" There has to be more than just love and always listen to your gut. I did. It was scary at first but I knew I had to listen to my gut and I left and everyday I am happier about my decision.

I know for you OP it was HIS not yours so it is a bit more difficult to accept. But with time you will and you will see that he did you a huge favor.

Keep on moving on and when he comes back crawling be so far up that you couldn't possibly get that low again.

CoNpal · #13 07-29-2011, 06:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peach&Cream

i deliberately do not listen to my gut feeling sometimes - I want to prove myself wrong for some damn reason... only to end up hurting myself and possibly someone else involved with me. i think mastering that voice in our guts takes sometime, im still battling with it!

I know exactly what you mean! Sometimes our guts tell us to do stuff that we don't want to do and, if there isn't hard evidence or proof, we ignore what our gut is saying. That's called hard headed and I am definitely that but I always come around eventually. Apparently, it takes me about 2 months to accept what my gut says. LOL

*#1AndOnly* · #14 07-29-2011, 07:04 AM

I'm sorry to hear this and see you hurting.
Time will prove that this was a blessing.
Happiness is the best revenge !

Peach&Cream · #15 07-29-2011, 12:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CoNpal

I know exactly what you mean! Sometimes our guts tell us to do stuff that we don't want to do and, if there isn't hard evidence or proof, we ignore what our gut is saying. That's called hard headed and I am definitely that but I always come around eventually. Apparently, it takes me about 2 months to accept what my gut says. LOL

2 months - shoot, good girl, thats quick! im going on 15 years... haha.

CoNpal · #16 07-29-2011, 08:50 PM

So wtf do i do now, I was dumped today?

Party like it's 1999!

Chin up, tits out. Shake that a$$.

That is what you do!

CoNpal · #17 07-29-2011, 08:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peach&Cream

2 months - shoot, good girl, thats quick! im going on 15 years... haha.

Better late than never!

Soon2BmrsP · #18 07-30-2011, 08:47 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by acaustin

You say his dad will be estatic, i wonder why? would his dad have influenced him? even so it means he listens to other ppl rather than his own heart, I have suffered this first hand myself when other ppl influence other ppl but i hope he will realise soon what a wonderful lady he has let go, however i do not know the whole story and if he has cheated then he is not worth your time only you know if he is worth fighting for

his dad has been tryin to split us up-since he stayed with me last year instead of going back to his sons mama(the one that put him in prison).

I'm been fighting for him years....
thought the battle was won....

but its time for him to come home
and he needs a parole address--(i live in govt housing)

so he gonna play some unsuspecting woman to get out

Soon2BmrsP · #19 07-30-2011, 08:54 AM

I feel sorry for the chick he got/is gettin involved with......

he wanted to stay with me when he got God---but giving him love,money,the risks i used to take for him...my kids call him dad...my grandson loves him....

he gonna tell me i dont do nothin 4 him so i must be cheating...haha

that old flip flop

heads up to the gals that meet my big daddy

he will never love anyone more than his dad or himself

I really though we had it licked this time

Soon2BmrsP · #20 07-30-2011, 08:55 AM

thanks ladies for your support through the last 3 years

**sidewalker** · #21 07-30-2011, 10:06 AM

I think your better off without that baggage.
Light a candle for the next girl he *uses*
And be glad its not you.

Im real sorry it worked out this way and not the way you expected.

DP's Girl · #22 07-30-2011, 11:25 AM

What do you do now? You cry and scream and feel sorry for yourself, then you get up and get over it. It may take some time but you will. Take your kids to the park and enjoy them and the beauty around you. Take your kids in the kitchen and bake a cake, you'd be surprised how much fun and distracting baking with kids can be. Listen to some good music and no so sad he left me crap. Find this online "She Let Herself Go" by George Strait yes it's country but I promise it's a kick ass song. Also Chrisette Michele has some great songs like "Be Ok". Be beautiful, nothing worse than being sad AND looking pitiful. Take a bubble bath, put on some perfume, comb your hair, and put on some clothes and a fierce pair of shoes. Just basically love yourself and spend time with those you know love you, your kids. Please stay away from any "friends" or family who will tell you I told you so because you certainly don't need that. Come to PTO often and we will support you, entertain you, and listen to you cry, vent, or complain. But in the end you will be ok.

ButtaPecnKiss4U · #23 07-30-2011, 02:54 PM

good 4 u for doing the rightthing and moving on!!!!

hismess · #24 07-30-2011, 03:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CoNpal

So wtf do i do now, I was dumped today?

Party like it's 1999!

Chin up, tits out. Shake that a$$.

That is what you do!

conpal....you said it all there! i totally agree!!!

Soon2BmrsP · #25 08-05-2011, 10:33 AM

well my mail was loaded down with i'm sorry forgive me what was i thinking mail--soooo since he is my husband and now i know the stress is from gang beefin i'll not be so unnerved...his jealous streak got to change and he isnt tryin to go no place else but with his family....he was having trust issues...i dunno why tho....