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RealRider1x · #1 07-28-2011, 02:29 PM

What does it mean when sometimes you feel like if he had "another" you would just "shrug" your shoulders and move on? or if you found out something bad you would just say "hey life goes on"? i mean i love this man but i sometimes feel like what i just mentioned but then again i sometimes feel like i would ball up and cry over this situation and be hurt? i hope you guys get what im saying..

**Patty** · #2 07-28-2011, 02:42 PM

Back when I was in a different relationship (prison was not involved) I felt as you do well the first part. In my case though, I was pretty sure he was cheating but I hadn't caught him - when I did it was a relief. Why? The truth is I don't think I would have been relieved if I was truly in love with him. He was a good companion and all that but I just wasn't in love with him so finding out he was messing around here and there didn't affect me so I moved on rather easily.

What I would wonder about in your situation since prison is involved is that the feelings you are having could be similar to what I described above but they also could be the fact that his incarceration has placed distance between you that you are having a difficult time coping with. Only you know for sure which. In either case I would suggest you do some soul searching to determine the path you want your life to take and then you can make any decisions necessary. Best of luck.

RealRider1x · #3 07-28-2011, 02:44 PM

How do you find out if hes cheating or if he has "another"?

HisRockerGirl · #4 07-28-2011, 02:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dhatbabyx0o

How do you find out if hes cheating or if he has "another"?

Ask him. Hope for honesty.

GaPeachgirl · #5 07-28-2011, 02:48 PM

I agree with Patty always be true to yourself, if it's not exciting to you anymore and and it's like watever maybe it's time to move on.

**Patty** · #6 07-28-2011, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by dhatbabyx0o

How do you find out if hes cheating or if he has "another"?

In my case I called his cellphone and he had mistakenly left it at her house and she answered and we both found out at the same time. I had my suspicions before that (so did she, she's a lovely person). Why do you care though if you don't care?

RealRider1x · #7 07-28-2011, 02:50 PM

Hisrockergirl: ive asked him.. he told me shes a hoe (she is) she still wants him but he doesnt want her but then again i see posts about all guys have more than 1 female when locked up sooooooo.......

RealRider1x · #8 07-28-2011, 02:50 PM

Patty: how do you find out while hes inside? will they tell you?

**Patty** · #9 07-28-2011, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by dhatbabyx0o

Patty: how do you find out while hes inside? will they tell you?

Well my man isn't cheating so I can't say from my own experience but it depends on the person. A person capable of cheating is certainly capable of lying. If you're not sure if you even care about him, why chase after answers, instead do you!

RealRider1x · #10 07-28-2011, 02:55 PM

Patty: you're right i guess i just want that "relief" feeling if he is..

**Patty** · #11 07-28-2011, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by dhatbabyx0o

Patty: you're right i guess i just want that "relief" feeling if he is..

Well you can ask him but there is a good chance you won't get the closure you seek.

HisRockerGirl · #12 07-28-2011, 03:08 PM

Go with your gut. If you just aren't feeling "it" for him anymore, just take a step back. Decide what you are really looking for and if it isn't him, then keep stepping. You have to be true to yourself. I agree with what Patty said.

Mrs.ASwift223 · #13 07-28-2011, 03:32 PM

I am thinkin g from the way you are speaking do you really need to ask him or even know...sounds to me like you are just wanting to move on but you are stuck and anytime you feel stuck and you are leaning more toward being alone...then well you just need to move on.It seems as if you are looking for a reason to be mad and move on....kind of like a push out the door. But do you really even need that.