Devastated by his betrayal

[enanita]

I have not been on here for a while. To make a really long story short. My ex-husband and best friend got out a few months ago. We where working on getting back together so I thought. We talked about having a child together and we decided to just go for it, if it happens then we would move in together and start our lives as a family. I found out I am pregnant and I told him. He told me he can’t handle that right now and I need to get an abortion. I am devastated and now I don’t know what to do. I tried talking to him about it but he won’t answer my phone calls he will only talk to me by tex. I called a family member of his just to talk and she asked me how I was and how I was taking the news of him living with his bothers ex wife. OMG I did not know this till she told me. I have known this man for over 20 years and never did I think he would do this. There are so many feeling going threw me and I don’t want to act on them. I am trying to keep it together but I think I am going to loose it. Please any support please.

[QUEENDRURY]

i am sorry for his behavior....should you decide to keep your baby i think he should be held accountable for his child tho.take time and decide what to do about YOU and leave him to KARMA.much love-queendrury

[Fancy]

Keep the child and lose the man. That is my advice.

[Miss_A]

It always amazes me when protection isn't used or used consistently and then a man turns around and says he can't deal with a baby, get an abortion.

I agree with Fancy. Keep the baby and lose him. You and the baby will be just fine without him.

[LeStrange]

Well it don't sound like you have a prized possesion there. Like other's have stated keep the child and lose the man. When a man tells a woman to get an abortion then that is letting you know right there how he feels and what he thinks and therefore he should no longer matter to you. Have your baby and move on with your life.

[CoNpal]

I'm sorry about the dude but congrats on the baby.

I will not give you advice on whether to keep the child or not. Do what is best for you.

Stay away from that guy. He sounds like a real tool. What a jerk!

[DP's Girl]

I'm sorry you are going through this. He is worthless and I would have nothing else to do with him. Congratulations on your baby. I personally believe every child is a blessing but only you know if you are willing and able to raise a child alone. I hope you make the right decision for you and your unborn child. God bless.

[skellerton]

I am so sorry about having to deal with such a huge disappointment. Not much you can do about him- he is showing his true self now. Try to plan your future with your new baby and stay focused on the things you can control. Time will show you that losing him is the best thing that could happen- he is unworthy of any relationships at all. You are going to be okay. Hugs to you

[enanita]

Thank you so much for your support. Yes I agree with all of you I dont need him at all in my life. He is not the person I thought he was and that I fell in love with. In my eyes he is a coward not at all a man just a peace of S%$# and he broke my heart.

As far as the pregnancy goes I am so confused. I dont want my ex in my life at all and by keeping it there will always be a chance he could pop back in and i want nothing at all to do with him.
I have a big decision to make and it is hard cus I have to make it on my own.

[Peach&Cream]

I think it's selfish to want a child with someone who is not ready, but it's f*ucked up he lead you on the way he did and then to find out he's staying with another woman doing Lord knows what OMG, I'm beside myself!!

Hun, you have to think about the child you'd be bringing into your world... Are you ready to be a single mother, stressed all the time and entwined with that lying con of an ex-husband for the rest of your life? Is that what you want?

I'm sooo sorry your going through this - I've been there with my ex and I do have a kid with him, when times are smooth they are freaking great, but when times are bad i think of hurting him to the point i'll end up in prison... it's a sick relationship, i too have to find my ground to stand on.... it's not easy and I dont know you and the life around you so i cant advice ya on what more to do other than to stand strong to get you through the day and at night THINK about what YOU WANT and how you've got to get it.

((hug))

[angels_girl]

I'm so sorry to hear what you are going thru. I agree keep the baby and lose the ex.

[#1AndOnly]

Wow, I'm so sorry for you and all that you've been put through.
Take time to think things through and try to in a calm state, if you have someone you trust that knows you well and isn't caught in the middle ask them to talk through it with you.
Best wishes either way !

[thunder]

Sorry to hear of what you're going through, but at least you know now; therefore, you do not have to spend any more time trying to build a future w/ him.

You and your child will be fine and in the end, he will be the biggest looser.

[PEN PAL 2 FEW]

Sending you prayers and good wishes for you and your baby, be strong and trust in the Lord/higher power, you and your baby will be just fine!! Babies are blessings, and I wish both the best

[nimuay]

Go back and read what Peach wrote . . . single parenthood is devilishly hard, and if you're going to carry any resentment into it at all, you will have an even harder row to hoe. Abortion is definitely an option if you are so inclined, or, if you cannot face that, then adoption through an agency. Infants are very, very much wanted. Last of all, if you have deep family support, then perhaps you can do it alone, but you want to be sure that you don't condemn yourself and any child to permanent poverty by trying to be a single parent without other support.

[hoppin]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Your baby is the main consideration here. Months from now all the drama going on with you and him will change into different dramas. Please don't base your decision about the baby on what is going on at this point in time.