Intro--AngelPrincess12 from Pennsylvania

[AngelPrincess12]

Hello Everyone!!
First I must say I lurked for a day or two before i even registered here but that was just to make sure that this is the place I wanted to be. I must say that it is and I am very greatful that there is a place i can go that others know what it is I am going through.
My story is that I met my fiance while he was still on probation/parole. He told me everything and I told him that his past is his past and i cant judge him for that. He is doing and did some time for what he did. He ended up getting very intoxicated in 2007 and robbing someone. I am not going to get fully into it all but he was sentenced to time in jail, probation and being a registered sex offender. I met him last summer and we started dating Dec. 14th. He was doing great. He was going to his anger management classes every Monday and Thursday along with his weekly PO visits. His parole was over in April about 2 weeks after our birthdays. He is still on probation till 2014 and will still be a registered sex offender till 2017. Also in January we found out we were pregnant. Lets just say it really only takes one time to get pregnant.
Well my life got turned upside down July 18th. He went into Lancaster to see his original PO. We live in York so he had gotten transferred. Well his appointment was for 1pm and it started getting really late. He had not come home or called or anything. Which was not like him. Around 8pm I got that phone call. Hunny it's your husband pick up the phone. So I answered the phone getting ready to yell at him and I am being told it is a collect call do I wish to accept the charges. I was not fully sure what that was about cause I am still mad. Then he tells me that he doesn't have much time and i need to go pick up the truck before it gets towed. Towed?? What the hell!!! I ask him what is going on and here to find out when he got there his PO and some officers were already there waiting for him to take him to jail. What!!! Needless to say they were probation violations but still. I am not fimiliar with the law I have never been in trouble. He always says I am from the opposite side of the tracks and that is what keeps him in line. I have been stressed out since that night. We were already having financial issues and problems of all kinds. Things were bad for us for awhile. Not our relationship just cause of the economy. Our relationship has always been strong. However on the 6th of August my body just couldn't deal with the stress any longer and I had lost our son. I didn't know if telling him this in a letter was the best thing to do but that is the only way I have to communicate with him. I still have not heard anything from him but I still write him faithfully everyday. His hearing is set for the 24th of this month and my best friend and I are planning to go to it. That will be the first time I get to see him again. He is in LCP (Lancaster County Prison). I know one violation is to do with not registering within the certain amount of time with the sheriff for his address and another is for denying a drug and alcohol class. He turned it down because he feels he doesn't have an alcohol problem. Which i must agree with. Maybe he did before I met him but we been living together since January and he may drink once or twice a month depending if we have the money for it. I am worried he will be sentenced because he was violated before because he was as they say "giving them the run around with where he was living". It was when he first got out of jail and staying with family till he could get his own place. So they violated him on a compliance check.

Thanks for listening.

[SimplyMe123]

Hi Angel... Welcome to PTO. I'm so sorry you and your husband have been going through all of this! You have my condolences on the loss of your child. No one should have to go through that. I'm glad you found us. You are definitely not alone. You will find so much support and information here... it helps so much just to know you're not alone. Please check out LASO, the forum for people Loving A Sex Offender. You will find the most awesome, supportive folks there who can relate to your situation. When you go to that page, you will see a big white space... scroll all the way down to see all of the subforums and topics there. Take care.

[#1AndOnly]

I'm sorry I am just now seeing this post ! I am truly sad to hear what has happened and that you lost your child. Please know you are in my thoughts ! The above poster gave you a great place to gain support and knowledge of the laws and possible outcomes of what happened with your husband.
Please keep us posted on how the hearing goes on the 24th !
If you ever need any help with the site please feel free to contact myself or any of the staff members whose names are highlighted in different colors.

[AngelPrincess12]

Well today I woke up to an e-mail that told me that is court date was rescheduled. We were just 9 days away UGH!! So the e-mail had said the 31st of this month. Ok that isn't to bad just add a week so 16 days. It could have been worse. Then at 4pm est I get another e-mail stating that it is getting rescheduled again and this time they are not sure to when and they will e-mail me as soon as they find out the date but have a nice day! Have a nice day?? Are you serious?? You just told me not once but twice now that you are prolonging this ordeal. Have a nice day.. LoL.. that really got me laughing when i read that. That just ruined my whole day. However at 4pm like clock work my mail man came and there it was. The only thing that could have put a smile on my face at the time. The first letter since I told him that we have lost our son and I must say that was a letter that I had needed.

[#1AndOnly]

Awe hun, how frustrating I am sorry but unfortunately this is how the system works. At least you got the mail love you needed from your guy ! I hope you are feeling better today !! Remember to take time out for you and do stuff that is normal or makes you happy / relaxed.

Have a nice day ... kidding ! Kinda, lol

Really though .. I hope today is better for you !

[closer2mydreamz]

Welcome to PTO, glad to have you join us. Sorry to hear about you losing the little one. Sending up a prayer for you and your sweetie. I am so glad that you did get a letter today.