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bribaby · #1 12-06-2011, 07:05 PM

Me and my dude been together for a year now, but i known him already for about fours years. I love him a lot. I just feel like we don't belong together because of our differences and needs. Im not as strong as he wants me to be and i feel like he needs a women that can handle his ways and his ways of joking around because im a very sentimental person. He wants me to be independent right now, but i can't. He also says that i slack on everything i do. He just don't understand what i go though and what i do for him at times. Besides that i need love and wanna have normal relationship with someone i don't have to write letters to and stress about if they trust me or not because I'm out here. I can't deal with it, but i love him i think its best if we go our separate ways. I don't know what to do. Im so confussed right now. Im to young to be stressing over all of this. Sometimes i feel like i deserve so much more. Its hard walking of way because of the love i have for him, but i don't meet his needs and im tried of not being loved the right way.

FastCarGirl · #2 12-06-2011, 07:25 PM

Sounds like it's not the right relationship for you. Love helps, but it's not enough for the long haul. You deserve to be happy too, and if you're not being fulfilled in this relationship, there's no harm or shame in breaking up and moving on.

MANDI.LICIOUS · #3 12-06-2011, 07:26 PM

I'm sorry I don't have the right words to comfort u all I can say is only u know what's best for u just follow ur heart n if u need to talk pm me I'm ALWAYS here I will keep u in my prayers God will guide u in the right direction

~MISSING MI AMORCITO~

DCLOVE · #4 12-06-2011, 09:27 PM

I HAVE BEEN THERE WITH MY LAST RELATIONSHIP IM GOING TO BE 100% WITH U MY EX WAS ALWAYS ON ME FOR NOT DOING THINGS RIGHT OR WHEN HE SAID IT HONESTLY I FELT LIKE I DIDNT DO ANYTHING RIGHT AND I LOVED HIM SO MUCH GIVE HIM MY LAST AND IT WAS NEVER GOOD ENOUGH BUT ANYWHO but my advice is have u told him how u feel if yes then u need to ask yourself is this where I want to be am I n love

brooks · #5 12-06-2011, 09:41 PM

If you aren't enjoying the relationship, get out of it. All the other excuses of where he is, what you do & he doesn't see is just background. Simply, you don't want to. Yes, a locked up half adds a lot of stress, but if he always makes you feel not worthy, you need to go where you will be loved for who you really are, not who he wants you to be.

InmateLover67 · #6 12-06-2011, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by bribaby

Me and my dude been together for a year now, but i known him already for about fours years. I love him a lot. I just feel like we don't belong together because of our differences and needs. Im not as strong as he wants me to be and i feel like he needs a women that can handle his ways and his ways of joking around because im a very sentimental person. He wants me to be independent right now, but i can't. He also says that i slack on everything i do. He just don't understand what i go though and what i do for him at times. Besides that i need love and wanna have normal relationship with someone i don't have to write letters to and stress about if they trust me or not because I'm out here. I can't deal with it, but i love him i think its best if we go our separate ways. I don't know what to do. Im so confussed right now. Im to young to be stressing over all of this. Sometimes i feel like i deserve so much more. Its hard walking of way because of the love i have for him, but i don't meet his needs and im tried of not being loved the right way.

It sounds as though you already know what you need do to. You did not state one good thing about him other than, you love him.

Have you shared with him how you are feeling? It is only right that you make him aware of how he makes you feel. If you do and he continues to treat you this way, then by all means, walk and do not look back.

I wish you the best and hope you can figure out what it is you want and what is best for you.

Peace~

shorty02pie · #7 12-06-2011, 09:50 PM

If you feel you cant handle the situation then walk away. Trust me the longer u wait, the worse it will hurt both of you. You cant spend your life trying to satisfy someone who cant be satisfied.

bribaby · #8 12-06-2011, 11:22 PM

Thank you for all of y'alls opinions and no have not told him how i feel, but I am planing to tell him on our visit this weekend. Hopefully he understands how I feel and if not i must do whats best for me. I think me and my man really need to talk about whats best for both of us for our future.

topaussiegirl · #9 12-17-2011, 12:02 AM

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Originally Posted by bribaby

Me and my dude been together for a year now, but i known him already for about fours years. I love him a lot. I just feel like we don't belong together because of our differences and needs. Im not as strong as he wants me to be and i feel like he needs a women that can handle his ways and his ways of joking around because im a very sentimental person. He wants me to be independent right now, but i can't. He also says that i slack on everything i do. He just don't understand what i go though and what i do for him at times. Besides that i need love and wanna have normal relationship with someone i don't have to write letters to and stress about if they trust me or not because I'm out here. I can't deal with it, but i love him i think its best if we go our separate ways. I don't know what to do. Im so confussed right now. Im to young to be stressing over all of this. Sometimes i feel like i deserve so much more. Its hard walking of way because of the love i have for him, but i don't meet his needs and im tried of not being loved the right way.

truely i feel ya girl i am going thru thing right now. i cant do it anymore... i truely cant.. so u ever need support im here

topaussiegirl · #10 12-17-2011, 12:05 AM

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Originally Posted by DCLOVE

I HAVE BEEN THERE WITH MY LAST RELATIONSHIP IM GOING TO BE 100% WITH U MY EX WAS ALWAYS ON ME FOR NOT DOING THINGS RIGHT OR WHEN HE SAID IT HONESTLY I FELT LIKE I DIDNT DO ANYTHING RIGHT AND I LOVED HIM SO MUCH GIVE HIM MY LAST AND IT WAS NEVER GOOD ENOUGH BUT ANYWHO but my advice is have u told him how u feel if yes then u need to ask yourself is this where I want to be am I n love

seriously i am going thru what this young lady is and like you said about giving it 100% and never being good enough well its how things are for me and thanks for the advice cause really i needed to hear it from someone who has been there.

pisces317 · #11 12-17-2011, 01:00 PM

always remember if you have doubts and fears talk,talk,comunicate to ur partner,living this life is very hard not being able to go forward is understandable but you must always be honest with ur partner,cause prison is a cold nasty unattached place where some will let there imagination took ova from whats real,if you cant do it let him know and continue to just befriend him