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jess11 · #**176** 01-14-2012, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsharper17

did i miss something major?? I got a letter today saying something happened there and they were on the news. maybe it was just cuz of the riots at the near by prisons but idk

I know thats why i posted those stories so that those who were visiting and jus letting all the ladies know what is going or what could be going on the other side of the wall.

mrsharper17 · #**177** 01-15-2012, 03:13 PM

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Originally Posted by jess11

I know thats why i posted those stories so that those who were visiting and jus letting all the ladies know what is going or what could be going on the other side of the wall.

ya but those were at kvsp and corcoran

jess11 · #**178** 01-15-2012, 04:12 PM

The media is trying to associate the riots to one another and any close by prisons. because both riots involved southern and northern hispanics so any prisons that could be associated to the riot will also be investigated.

LonelyNites · #**179** 01-16-2012, 01:33 AM

Sunday i wen't to visit my Honey

i had not seen him since September, it was awesome, we laughed i cried lol it was great, even though it was behind glass but just being able to listen to his voice and seeing how happy he was for seeing us there was just great. I'm so happy i just had to come and share that w/ people who understand exactly how I'm feeling right now.

MJ.Dubarr · #**180** 01-16-2012, 12:06 PM

So im extremely low on cash right now. Idk how ima do it for gas for this weekend.

I do however have jewelry i can sell, but dont want to pawn becuz they are crooks. Does anyone kno a jeweler that can help me figure out how much i can sell it for?

bambam618 · #**181** 01-16-2012, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MJ.Dubarr

So im extremely low on cash right now. Idk how ima do it for gas for this weekend.

I do however have jewelry i can sell, but dont want to pawn becuz they are crooks. Does anyone kno a jeweler that can help me figure out how much i can sell it for?

If its gold u can go for a cash for gold place : ) it doesnt always have to be a pawn shop.. just make sure u weigh it first they test it out to make sure its gold and they pay u by the gram.. it think its like $29 a gram now.. hope it helps

patswife4-ever · #**182** 01-16-2012, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by LonelyNites

Sunday i wen't to visit my Honey

i had not seen him since September, it was awesome, we laughed i cried lol it was great, even though it was behind glass but just being able to listen to his voice and seeing how happy he was for seeing us there was just great. I'm so happy i just had to come and share that w/ people who understand exactly how I'm feeling right now.

Happy to hear you had such a nice visit

patswife4-ever · #**183** 01-16-2012, 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by MJ.Dubarr

So im extremely low on cash right now. Idk how ima do it for gas for this weekend.

I do however have jewelry i can sell, but dont want to pawn becuz they are crooks. Does anyone kno a jeweler that can help me figure out how much i can sell it for?

No offense, but if you don't have the money to visit, why would you sell your jewelery to visit?!? Seems a little extreme to me (but to each his own)
Good luck to you... hope it all works out for you!!

I must say I do LOVE my hubby very much, but he made the choice to break the law. I will NOT do anything to make his life more comfortable.. Yes I know I am the exception, but I have me and my kids to worry about. He could have chosen a different path, but he did not. It was HIS choice, not mine. Yeah I sound like a bitch, but I have been dealing with this crap for too long. Sorry was venting for a sec...

bambam618 · #**184** 01-17-2012, 01:51 AM

[quote=patswife4-ever;6555981]No offense, but if you don't have the money to visit, why would you sell your jewelery to visit?!? Seems a little extreme to me (but to each his own)
Good luck to you... hope it all works out for you!!

I must say I do LOVE my hubby very much, but he made the choice to break the law. I will NOT do anything to make his life more comfortable.. Yes I know I am the exception, but I have me and my kids to worry about. He could have chosen a different path, but he did not. It was HIS choice, not mine. Yeah I sound like a bitch, but I have been dealing with this crap for too long. Sorry was venting for a sec...[/Q

Its not about making anyones life comfortable.. its about wanting to spend time with ur best friend regardless of the fact if he put himself there or not.. i know where shes coming from cause ive sold some of my things.. all the material things dont amount to the happiness i feel to see my husband & the smile i bring to his face. so if shes gotta do that i give her props.. id do anything for the chance to see my husband cuz he gives me the sanity i need throughout the week whether he put himself there or not.. we took a vow to be there for better or worse & this situation is any different.. just thought id share my thoughts..

mrsharper17 · #**185** 01-17-2012, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by patswife4-ever

No offense, but if you don't have the money to visit, why would you sell your jewelery to visit?!? Seems a little extreme to me (but to each his own)
Good luck to you... hope it all works out for you!!

I must say I do LOVE my hubby very much, but he made the choice to break the law. I will NOT do anything to make his life more comfortable.. Yes I know I am the exception, but I have me and my kids to worry about. He could have chosen a different path, but he did not. It was HIS choice, not mine. Yeah I sound like a bitch, but I have been dealing with this crap for too long. Sorry was venting for a sec...

i agree with you about having dealt with this crap way too long but if she wants to sell her stuff thats her choice. i personally probably wouldnt do it but some women honestly need to see their men. if it makes her happy to see him then so be it. you know it would make u fee good if ur man did it to come see u if the roles were switched

lol

jess11 · #**186** 01-17-2012, 03:27 PM

At this point if I had to sell my jewelry especially jewelry that is useless or broken, then why not. Like Bam said the material doesnt amount to the happiness. There are times when I am like why am I doing this he has no idea how hard it is to care for someone while they are prison. But as his wife I made a vow and so did he. So you got to do what you have to do to keep your relationship strong and alive. This is my second term with my husband so I get what Pat is saying about being fed up with this nonsense cause at times they can be so selfish but we make a choice from the moment they get incarcerated to either be there for them or not. So why half step it. If are able to sell your jewelry without going to the extent of truly making a sacrifice and the same with the money you have to maintain your life and family then why not. Good luck girls with whatever choice you got to make for you and your family just make sure its the best one!

MJ.Dubarr · #**187** 01-18-2012, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by bambam618

If its gold u can go for a cash for gold place : ) it doesnt always have to be a pawn shop.. just make sure u weigh it first they test it out to make sure its gold and they pay u by the gram.. it think its like $29 a gram now.. hope it helps

Ah no way!!! I needed a scale to weigh it but i didnt weigh it. I still.dont kno how much gold it was. But i got $80 for it. im sure it was worth more.

MJ.Dubarr · #**188** 01-18-2012, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by patswife4-ever

No offense, but if you don't have the money to visit, why would you sell your jewelery to visit?!? Seems a little extreme to me (but to each his own)
Good luck to you... hope it all works out for you!!

I must say I do LOVE my hubby very much, but he made the choice to break the law. I will NOT do anything to make his life more comfortable.. Yes I know I am the exception, but I have me and my kids to worry about. He could have chosen a different path, but he did not. It was HIS choice, not mine. Yeah I sound like a bitch, but I have been dealing with this crap for too long. Sorry was venting for a sec...

I kno my husband wud do anything to bail me out or whatever it is to make sure i have money on my books or come see me. He is my best friend and my true love. We've been together thru thick and thin. And i kno he values me doing whatever it takes just to come see him even if it is for an hour. Tho he'd most likely be upset with me for wat i did to get there, we both understand that our love for each other is greater than love for material things. Material things can be replaced, but a person cant be replaced.

I do feel u on how many times he's been in and out, but i made the decision to be with my husband knowing where im getting myself into. However, I stand by his side, because i know he stands by mine. I stick wit my husband, at the end of the day i am happy to be his wife.

Maybe not many agree or maybe many do. But whatever my decisions are, only affect my situation. I feel differently about my relationship.

bambam618 · #**189** 01-18-2012, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by MJ.Dubarr

Ah no way!!! I needed a scale to weigh it but i didnt weigh it. I still.dont kno how much gold it was. But i got $80 for it. im sure it was worth more.

Its also depends on the if its 14k or 10k

MJ.Dubarr · #**190** 01-19-2012, 08:51 AM

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Originally Posted by bambam618

Its also depends on the if its 14k or 10k

I really dont remember and i cudnt tell. the number was too small. But hey wat i got is better than nothing =)

jess11 · #**191** 01-19-2012, 03:58 PM

Hey ladies how is everyone doing? Well its super cold up here in Sacramento. I cant wait to go back down to the sfv next weekend! Im still waiting on that visiting approval its been a month sense I sent it hopefully I hear something soon cause im dieing for a visit. The last time my husband seen me I wasnt showing much. And now my belly has really grown and I want him to see it for himself. And i really really want the baby to hear his voice...i guess i will do the cliche thing and put the phone to my belly lol.

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mrsharper17 · #**192** 01-19-2012, 04:16 PM

you know what when i was preg with my oldest he was locked up. Well one day a CO let him call me from her office phone that i was not expecting at all so i didnt run for the phone. Well he left a voicemail so i recorded it on my cell phone and played it until my baby was 6 months old when they finally met in person. I know i felt stupid but i wanted him to know daddys voice.

jess11 · #**193** 01-19-2012, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsharper17

you know what when i was preg with my oldest he was locked up. Well one day a CO let him call me from her office phone that i was not expecting at all so i didnt run for the phone. Well he left a voicemail so i recorded it on my cell phone and played it until my baby was 6 months old when they finally met in person. I know i felt stupid but i wanted him to know daddys voice.

How sweet... that brought tears to my eyes and a big smile to my face. I wish that would happen to me. I got to only spend like two months with my husband before he went to prison so this will definitely make a difference when we get to visit. I wish I could record it that would be nice. so mrsharper17 did you find out if your husband is or isnt coming home in two weeks?

jess11 · #**194** 01-19-2012, 04:26 PM

now that I see your time ticker I see that you are expecting him in about 2 months. did it work out or...

mrsharper17 · #**195** 01-19-2012, 04:34 PM

ok the ticker is his new date if he doesnt make it to board so this is the at most....if he makes it to board by tmrw he should be home MONDAY!!!!! lol not holding my breathe but crossing my fingers.
how far along are you ,....i didnt even realize u were preg....and ur in sfv?
as for the vmail....it was all i could get...he did that sentence in san quentin and i was living in SFV&pasadena so i couldnt visit him due to costs. He never even got to see him til 6 m old but he did get to talk to him on the phone 1 time when he was about 3 weeks old. i loved that CO. he got to call on the office phone or me call him about once a month from the time i was 6 m prego til baby was 3 months old when another co found out and ended it

mrsharper17 · #**196** 01-19-2012, 04:35 PM

do you know what ur having yet?

jess11 · #**197** 01-19-2012, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsharper17

ok the ticker is his new date if he doesnt make it to board so this is the at most....if he makes it to board by tmrw he should be home MONDAY!!!!! lol not holding my breathe but crossing my fingers.
how far along are you ,....i didnt even realize u were preg....and ur in sfv?
as for the vmail....it was all i could get...he did that sentence in san quentin and i was living in SFV&pasadena so i couldnt visit him due to costs. He never even got to see him til 6 m old but he did get to talk to him on the phone 1 time when he was about 3 weeks old. i loved that CO. he got to call on the office phone or me call him about once a month from the time i was 6 m prego til baby was 3 months old when another co found out and ended it

Yes I am having a boy! and my husband is so excited for it. This is our first child so it hurts us both that he wont be here for my pregnancy and birth. The baby will be about 5 months when he comes home. If he stays out of trouble I pray he stays out of trouble cause I can not wait additional year. I will be so mad i cant even explain it.

. But i have to stay positive. I am 5 months pregnant. the part that im concerned with is the travel. cause for now i will be in Sacramento until I finish school in june (and then I will be back in the sfv after i graduate in june thank god!). so that 4 hour drive will be killer. Last term I was visiting like twice or three times a month. he knows this time it wont be like that cause of the distance and the pregnancy. but i do want to see him as often as i can. i dont know if i will feel right to bring the baby to visiting once he is born. unless it is a family visit. I will see what he thinks and how i feel when the time comes.

I hope the best for you. hell yeah if he comes home on Monday that will be the best. but like you said cross ur fingers cause the prison system can be tricky. whenever he comes it will be for the best, i guess that how you are suppose to think when given these circumstances, but explain that to someone who has been waiting everyday for her husband to come home its not that easy. stay strong girl he will be home in no time. will be picking him up when he is released? did you send a dress out?

mrsharper17 · #**198** 01-19-2012, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by jess11

Yes I am having a boy! and my husband is so excited for it. This is our first child so it hurts us both that he wont be here for my pregnancy and birth. The baby will be about 5 months when he comes home. If he stays out of trouble I pray he stays out of trouble cause I can not wait additional year. I will be so mad i cant even explain it.

. But i have to stay positive. I am 5 months pregnant. the part that im concerned with is the travel. cause for now i will be in Sacramento until I finish school in june (and then I will be back in the sfv after i graduate in june thank god!). so that 4 hour drive will be killer. Last term I was visiting like twice or three times a month. he knows this time it wont be like that cause of the distance and the pregnancy. but i do want to see him as often as i can. i dont know if i will feel right to bring the baby to visiting once he is born. unless it is a family visit. I will see what he thinks and how i feel when the time comes.

I hope the best for you. hell yeah if he comes home on Monday that will be the best. but like you said cross ur fingers cause the prison system can be tricky. whenever he comes it will be for the best, i guess that how you are suppose to think when given these circumstances, but explain that to someone who has been waiting everyday for her husband to come home its not that easy. stay strong girl he will be home in no time. will be picking him up when he is released? did you send a dress out?

AWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!! i miss being preg with my son. lol i loved it and had almost no issues except some swollen ankles. Even had an awesome birth. With my daughter it was HELL!!!! 9 months of morning sickness and sciatic nerve pain. ugh!! and horrible delivery cuz my epidural wore off at the last minute....it hurt so bad but if i had to do it over to get such a beautiful baby i would
As for visiting i was planning it when he was 2 months old but never got to. I wouldnt take him right away but maybe at least once before he gets out.
Naw im not picking him up. He is gunna bus it and ill get him from there. But then were gunna wrap him in a box and let the kids unwrap him. lol and he told me not to send the dressouts til we know for sure when hes coming but if its monday its too late

jess11 · #**199** 01-19-2012, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by mrsharper17

AWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!! i miss being preg with my son. lol i loved it and had almost no issues except some swollen ankles. Even had an awesome birth. With my daughter it was HELL!!!! 9 months of morning sickness and sciatic nerve pain. ugh!! and horrible delivery cuz my epidural wore off at the last minute....it hurt so bad but if i had to do it over to get such a beautiful baby i would
As for visiting i was planning it when he was 2 months old but never got to. I wouldnt take him right away but maybe at least once before he gets out.
Naw im not picking him up. He is gunna bus it and ill get him from there. But then were gunna wrap him in a box and let the kids unwrap him. lol and he told me not to send the dressouts til we know for sure when hes coming but if its monday its too late

If its monday then who cares about a dressout lol. Good luck girl my prayers are withyou. yeah it has been a great pregnancy so far. no morning sickness. he is jus so active he kicks all day long. im getting some stretch marks on my breast but its cause im small up there and i finally fill out my bra lol. im so excited for the baby it is what is keeping me strong and us so close through all of this. he is our miracle our special baby.
and that is so cute with your kids wrapping him like a gift that will be so cute. take lots of pics. i hope he comes home on monday girl that will be so awesome. i wish you guys the best!

MJ.Dubarr · #**200** 01-19-2012, 06:22 PM

I want to be preggers. =( we're planning wen he gets out to work on our girl. We have a boy, and now we want a girl.

Aw so cute. I miss being pregnant. I just had a round belly wen i was pregnant with my son.

Dont worry, everything will be better soon as he's home. ^_^