I have a warrant and have not done anything about it.

[idklorun]

Okay.

I'm twenty and live at home with parents. I have a warrant out for my arrest (for stealing $9 from job a year ago). I don't have work or school or friends, I sit in my room all day. My parents don't know about this warrant and wonder why I don't try to get a job. Why haven't I told them yet? Because it's another thing for them to be disappointed in me for.
So what's next? What do you think, PT?

[junglette247]

Just be honest with your parents and let them know what's what. And as far as the warrant goes go to the courthouse it's issued out of and ask to be put on calendar to see the judge to sort it out and be down with it so you can move forward in life your young everyone makes mistakes just clear it up. Good luck I'm sure it's going to be alright

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[xlabel]

Might as well take care of it since your sitting idle right now. I'd tell the parents, they're gonna find out sooner or later anyhow. I'd call a bondsman and explain it to him so if you do turn yourself in, you'd only spend an hour or two then get released or sounds like a misdemeanor so if your not worried about having a record you could spend a night or 2, enter a guilty plea and get a sentence of time served, 10-30 days, etc.

[Straight]

Here's a life lesson.... either you do something about it, or do nothing and let it do its thing. You'll deal with it on your terms, or on theirs.

Hint: The rest of life is like this, too

Best of luck

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by idklorun

Okay.

I'm twenty and live at home with parents. I have a warrant out for my arrest (for stealing $9 from job a year ago). I don't have work or school or friends, I sit in my room all day. My parents don't know about this warrant and wonder why I don't try to get a job. Why haven't I told them yet? Because it's another thing for them to be disappointed in me for.
So what's next? What do you think, PT?

You are avoiding the penalty for stealing $9.00? I realize theft is theft, but if you act responisbly and turn yourself in, you may find that getting this out of the way, is the best way.

I assume you do not have a good relationship with your parents, because you sit in your room all day, and do nothing with your life. It also appears that you may be dealing with depression. Sitting in your room, not getting out will make a person depressed. Why do you not have any friends?

I would suggest you be honest with your parents about your situation. Only you can start to make changes in yourself, for the better. I suggest you share with them about your warrant and tell them you are going to do the right thing and get it taken care of. It is possible that you will only get communtiy service or something you can get through rather easily. Yes, you will probably get some probation, but you can get through it and put this behind you.

I hope you get the courage to speak with your parents, and get this behind you. I am surprised they allow you to sit in your room all day and not look for a job. What do you tell them when they ask you why you are not seeing employment?

Peace~

[26thncaliswag]

Originally Posted by idklorun

Okay.

I'm twenty and live at home with parents. I have a warrant out for my arrest (for stealing $9 from job a year ago). I don't have work or school or friends, I sit in my room all day. My parents don't know about this warrant and wonder why I don't try to get a job. Why haven't I told them yet? Because it's another thing for them to be disappointed in me for.
So what's next? What do you think, PT?

So basically, you're saying that you have allowed $9 to hold up your life. You are not working, going to school or doing what you admit that you need to do in life, over $9. It's a warrant. It sounds ugly, but it's for a $9 theft. It's hardly anything to stress over. You know that you were wrong, so it's time to fix it. motion your car, quash your warrant and get on with your life. It's time to learn from your mistakes and do the right things that wpn't disappoint your parents. Prolongin things always makes the matter worse.

Good luck.

[Momma Ann]

after you deal with the warrant, it might be a good time to talk to a counsellor about your overall listlessness. Could be a sign of depression--they can really help. Talk with your family doctor.

[Straight]

I think the resounding answer here is to get off your butt and deal with things in your life.

If you're really lucky, a $9 issue will be the biggest obstacle you ever have to overcome

[idklorun]

Originally Posted by InmateLover67

You are avoiding the penalty for stealing $9.00? I realize theft is theft, but if you act responisbly and turn yourself in, you may find that getting this out of the way, is the best way.

I assume you do not have a good relationship with your parents, because you sit in your room all day, and do nothing with your life. It also appears that you may be dealing with depression. Sitting in your room, not getting out will make a person depressed. Why do you not have any friends?

I would suggest you be honest with your parents about your situation. Only you can start to make changes in yourself, for the better. I suggest you share with them about your warrant and tell them you are going to do the right thing and get it taken care of. It is possible that you will only get communtiy service or something you can get through rather easily. Yes, you will probably get some probation, but you can get through it and put this behind you.

I hope you get the courage to speak with your parents, and get this behind you. I am surprised they allow you to sit in your room all day and not look for a job. What do you tell them when they ask you why you are not seeing employment?

Peace~

After it happened, I started hanging out with a new group of people. They didn't know, and so it got pushed out of my mind and didn't matter. I told them, and as soon as I did, I left them.
I have no friends because I'm a loser for letting $9 stop me from living. I don't want to talk about it and what do you talk about with friends if you don't talk about your life. Nothing, so it is pointless to me. I've had good friends that I left many times because of being depressed, we both gave up on each other.

My parents and I aren't close. I'm just some person who lives in their house. I can't be close to them for the same reason I can't be close to friends. I'm bad at small talk, so I avoid it. I'm bad at big talk, so it doesn't happen.

I would like to tell my parents that I'm getting it taken care of but 'getting it taken care of' is hard to grasp.

They don't ask me why I do what I do. I've had many depression episodes in the past; which lead to dropping out of high school four different times. I assume they think that I'm depressed so they don't get onto my case.
My mom did give me an application to some place and asked me if I wanted to work there. I said no. I can't even begin to think of actually working at a place until this is over with. It is not going to be over with until I take initiative. Initiative is life. I wasn't taught to care about taking the first step. That's an excuse or something I'm sure, but it's how I have always been. I have always had trouble with whatever is different.

[Real Checker]

First of all you are NOT a loser. Your issue is only a big deal because you are allowing it to escalate in your own mind. As a parent myself I will tell you that my kids (who are all grown now) used to feel the same way when they did something bad. Especially my youngest. I heard him say more than a couple of times that he was worthless and a failure. It would break my heart because he is anything but. The problem was he hated to disappoint me and would hide the stupid stuff from me. I finally told him that if he would give me the bad news right after it happened that I would never yell or make him feel bad about it. I kept my word and very shortly he would open up and tell me just about everything going on in his life.

Maybe your parents are not like that, but I will tell you this much, they will help you if you tell them about it and in the long run (after the initial anger, disappointment, or whatever) they will most likely be proud that you trust them and depend on them for help. You have got to realize that us parents get mad at actions and situations, but never at our children themselves. They might hate it that you stole something, but they certainly don't hate you.

You say you are not close to your parents. This could very well be an opportunity for you to get closer to them. You haven't had a lot of dialogue with them ... this gives you something to discuss and work on as a family. You heard the saying "If life gives you lemons, make lemonade" and this is a perfect chance to make lemonade. The proverbial ball is in your court. Don't alienate yourself further, get in there and make your parents part of your life.

Tell them, get the issue fixed and I would bet you a thousand bucks in a few days you will be feeling good about yourself and your parents will become proud of you for coming clean and wanting to fix the issue.

[Teddysgurl]

Well said Real Checker. I'll match your thousand bucks. Great advice :-)

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[Mcox'sbabygirl]

Originally Posted by Straight

I think the resounding answer here is to get off your butt and deal with things in your life.

If you're really lucky, a $9 issue will be the biggest obstacle you ever have to overcome

Amen!!!