No mail - disappointment

[waiting090808]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

I tell J that I want a sweet letter and not him being a bad @$$ all the time. So guess what I get everytime I say that......yup a sweet heart felt letter.....those are the 5+ pages! Let him know you what that.......tell him if he doesn't do that you are not writing him, sending money/writing supplies/books whatever you have to do. That way he will get it that those types of letters mean the world to you and if you don't get them like a few times a month then he is cut off. Works with J all the time! I know it's mean but they have to understand we are the ones doing alot or everything for them and if they can't do this one thing for us then you get nothing until you do!

Hahaha I just did that in my last letter i sent out Friday.I told him I like the lovey dovey stuff. He use to write me cute poems and draw adorable pictures when he first got locked up but its been over a year so they stop & i get told the same thing "ive got nothing to talk about" he hasn't gotten it yet so we'll see later on this week what I get

****fingers crossed I get that mushy stuff again****

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by waiting090808

Hahaha I just did that in my last letter i sent out Friday.I told him I like the lovey dovey stuff. He use to write me cute poems and draw adorable pictures when he first got locked up but its been over a year so they stop & i get told the same thing "ive got nothing to talk about" he hasn't gotten it yet so we'll see later on this week what I get

****fingers crossed I get that mushy stuff again****

We do a poem together. It's backwards because apparently poems aren't hard enough as it is(?). So he wrote the first line and them me and so on then when we decide it's done we read it. The first line has become the end. Kinda fun. I didn't think to tell him I wanted sweet letters! Duh!!!

[Joshua's_Girl]

Highly peeved today......no letter from J......I highly doubt I will get a letter from him tomorrow, so I hope Wednesday I get something from him. This is literally making me want to cry right now.

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

Highly peeved today......no letter from J......I highly doubt I will get a letter from him tomorrow, so I hope Wednesday I get something from him. This is literally making me want to cry right now.

I cried Sunday night. It's hard at times. I'm sorry nothing came. I didn't bother looking. I'm trying to come up with a sweet letter to share with him.

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I cried Sunday night. It's hard at times. I'm sorry nothing came. I didn't bother looking. I'm trying to come up with a sweet letter to share with him.

I am trying to get child support for my daughter from my ex, and Wednesday I have to go to court and face him and his idiot parents and really a letter from J would have put me in better spirits about all of this. I just know this child support thing is going to be ugly. So yeah a letter from J would have been nice today. I cried a few mintues ago. I am trying to keep it together but really I am a hot mess inside!

[Sheryl P.]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

I am trying to get child support for my daughter from my ex, and Wednesday I have to go to court and face him and his idiot parents and really a letter from J would have put me in better spirits about all of this. I just know this child support thing is going to be ugly. So yeah a letter from J would have been nice today. I cried a few mintues ago. I am trying to keep it together but really I am a hot mess inside!

Aweee,that is rough.
Just pray and give your concerns to God and he will see you through this.
I hope you have a favorable outcome!
Praying you get a letter from J soon too

[Sheryl P.]

I was very happy to get not one but two letters this week and one on the way.
I guess my not visiting recently has forced him to have to resort to writing.Poor guy

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

I am trying to get child support for my daughter from my ex, and Wednesday I have to go to court and face him and his idiot parents and really a letter from J would have put me in better spirits about all of this. I just know this child support thing is going to be ugly. So yeah a letter from J would have been nice today. I cried a few mintues ago. I am trying to keep it together but really I am a hot mess inside!

Awe sorry your having so much going on, I know not hearing from your man makes it worse. Pray for strength and for God to hold your hand through your struggles. Much love and strength sent your way

[ILoveChris27]

No letter for me since last Monday. I'm so past caring. If that's the way he wants to do it then so be it. No more tears on my end. I hate that I LOVE him so much cause he's really stubborn and I feel like because I am demanding him to write more he isn't. He hates being told what to do which I can respect but NOT while you're in prison and you're not holding up your end of the bargain. I'm already going out and having fun. Communicating with guys and enjoying life. I'm not gonna play this game with him. I LOVE him though I can't lie. But, sometimes love isn't enough.

[Chucos Queen]

Yay, I finally got mail a letter and a card with another letter i'm one happy woman, but at the same time sad and beyond disgusted with Florida state prison! My husband had been in medical clinic because his mattress was infected severely with bugs, when he asked for a new mattress they asked if he thought he was special grrrr!!! So he showed all the sores he had covering his whole body to the nurse who comes around twice a.week, and she pulled him to the Dr. immediately where he was quarantined twice because it was soo bad. My poor baby then got sick...they got him a new mattress and sprayed his cell. It's bad enough hes on cm3 then to go thru this......my heart is sinking for him.

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Chucos Queen

Yay, I finally got mail a letter and a card with another letter i'm one happy woman, but at the same time sad and beyond disgusted with Florida state prison! My husband had been in medical clinic because his mattress was infected severely with bugs, when he asked for a new mattress they asked if he thought he was special grrrr!!! So he showed all the sores he had covering his whole body to the nurse who comes around twice a.week, and she pulled him to the Dr. immediately where he was quarantined twice because it was soo bad. My poor baby then got sick...they got him a new mattress and sprayed his cell. It's bad enough hes on cm3 then to go thru this......my heart is sinking for him.

I am glad you finally recieved something from him. I am sorry that your man is getting it rough in there with all the medical issues coming up. Can I ask what institution he is in? J was suppose to be transferred to his permanet facitity this week. They way he was sounding last week was that he was getting transferred at the beginning of this week. I keep checking FL DOC website and nothing yet. I will feel much better when he is at his main facitity. Maybe that is why I haven't gotten anything from him since last Wednesday??!? They are preparing him for the move??!? I don't know. I just need to hear from J.

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

No letter for me since last Monday. I'm so past caring. If that's the way he wants to do it then so be it. No more tears on my end. I hate that I LOVE him so much cause he's really stubborn and I feel like because I am demanding him to write more he isn't. He hates being told what to do which I can respect but NOT while you're in prison and you're not holding up your end of the bargain. I'm already going out and having fun. Communicating with guys and enjoying life. I'm not gonna play this game with him. I LOVE him though I can't lie. But, sometimes love isn't enough.

Tell him this. Tell him if he is not going to write then you are moving on. He should have taken it to heart and respected you enough to do what you asked of him.......it wasn't that much to ask of him, I promise!

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Chucos Queen

Awe sorry your having so much going on, I know not hearing from your man makes it worse. Pray for strength and for God to hold your hand through your struggles. Much love and strength sent your way

Thank you!

[cmascola]

My friend has been in Miami Metro West for 3 weeks. I am in another state. No calls but I have written twice. So happy I found this site because I know I am not alone. You ladies give me strength. Thank you!

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

I am glad you finally recieved something from him. I am sorry that your man is getting it rough in there with all the medical issues coming up. Can I ask what institution he is in? J was suppose to be transferred to his permanet facitity this week. They way he was sounding last week was that he was getting transferred at the beginning of this week. I keep checking FL DOC website and nothing yet. I will feel much better when he is at his main facitity. Maybe that is why I haven't gotten anything from him since last Wednesday??!? They are preparing him for the move??!? I don't know. I just need to hear from J.

Hes at Florida state prison in raiford Florida. And yes I'll bet that is why you haven't heard from your love, maybe he is in transfer. Have you signed up for Vinelinks? They inform you any time he gets moved. It's very helpful.

[ILoveChris27]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

Tell him this. Tell him if he is not going to write then you are moving on. He should have taken it to heart and respected you enough to do what you asked of him.......it wasn't that much to ask of him, I promise!

I know its not too much to ask for that's why I'm giving up. His excuses are never-ending about how there is nothing to write about. In my last letter I really let him have it. I didn't sugar coat at all so I'm anxious to see his response to that. If he still doesn't budge then I'm gonna take it as him not caring about me and I'm gonna stop writing and keep it moving. He's gotten it twisted as if I'm just gonna be here regardless. He's got it all wrong. Thats why I have been writing him once a week and sending it out whenever. I used to write every other day. Not anymore. I need him to realize I'm not playing with him.I believe he cares but I can tell he's used to doing what he wants when he wants. That doesn't fly with me. His pride is gonna cause me to say forget us and what we had. I don't wanna do that thought. That's still my baby and my heart ♥

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by cmascola

My friend has been in Miami Metro West for 3 weeks. I am in another state. No calls but I have written twice. So happy I found this site because I know I am not alone. You ladies give me strength. Thank you!

Your welcome and you are not alone! We are just a post or PM away if you need us!

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Chucos Queen

Hes at Florida state prison in raiford Florida. And yes I'll bet that is why you haven't heard from your love, maybe he is in transfer. Have you signed up for Vinelinks? They inform you any time he gets moved. It's very helpful.

No I haven't signed up for Vinelinks......do they just notify you through the phone or can you set it up for email as well?

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

I know its not too much to ask for that's why I'm giving up. His excuses are never-ending about how there is nothing to write about. In my last letter I really let him have it. I didn't sugar coat at all so I'm anxious to see his response to that. If he still doesn't budge then I'm gonna take it as him not caring about me and I'm gonna stop writing and keep it moving. He's gotten it twisted as if I'm just gonna be here regardless. He's got it all wrong. Thats why I have been writing him once a week and sending it out whenever. I used to write every other day. Not anymore. I need him to realize I'm not playing with him.I believe he cares but I can tell he's used to doing what he wants when he wants. That doesn't fly with me. His pride is gonna cause me to say forget us and what we had. I don't wanna do that thought. That's still my baby and my heart ♥

Some people never change and never learn......that is a shame!

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

I am trying to get child support for my daughter from my ex, and Wednesday I have to go to court and face him and his idiot parents and really a letter from J would have put me in better spirits about all of this. I just know this child support thing is going to be ugly. So yeah a letter from J would have been nice today. I cried a few mintues ago. I am trying to keep it together but really I am a hot mess inside!

I've never gotten any child support it's going on 10yrs now and he owes about 76,000+ they don't enforce it here in Cali. Or my part of Cali.

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

No letter for me since last Monday. I'm so past caring. If that's the way he wants to do it then so be it. No more tears on my end. I hate that I LOVE him so much cause he's really stubborn and I feel like because I am demanding him to write more he isn't. He hates being told what to do which I can respect but NOT while you're in prison and you're not holding up your end of the bargain. I'm already going out and having fun. Communicating with guys and enjoying life. I'm not gonna play this game with him. I LOVE him though I can't lie. But, sometimes love isn't enough.

I'm so sorry he's being a pill. They can't be distant while in there because they will lose their contact with the world and us. It's scary I think.


I didn't get a letter nor did I expect it today but I got contacted by the wacko woman that won't leave(because he doesn't make her) she wants to visit this weekend. I was nice and didn't tell her go after 1pm (too late to get in). My guy has us in a vague limbo and I want no vagueness but no idea how to get us out of it. If our relationship wasn't a little vague I'd be fine with wacko visiting.

[ILoveChris27]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I'm so sorry he's being a pill. They can't be distant while in there because they will lose their contact with the world and us. It's scary I think.

I didn't get a letter nor did I expect it today but I got contacted by the wacko woman that won't leave(because he doesn't make her) she wants to visit this weekend. I was nice and didn't tell her go after 1pm (too late to get in). My guy has us in a vague limbo and I want no vagueness but no idea how to get us out of it. If our relationship wasn't a little vague I'd be fine with wacko visiting.

The craziest part to me is that when he does write he's not distant at all. He tells me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He's sweet in.EVERY letter. They are just so rare that by the time I actually get a letter I'm rolling my eyes while I read it.lol. he's so hard to figure out though. Can't wait for his response to my angry letter.

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

No I haven't signed up for Vinelinks......do they just notify you through the phone or can you set it up for email as well?

You can set it up for email alert. check it out on the vinelinks online the contact you within hours of him being moved

[Lazysbby]

I haven't got any mail since last week...ugh wtf is going on my hunny is in wasco rc anybody know anything about yard D...I hope all is good with himm....
*sighs* >&hellip;<

[Lazysbby]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

Highly peeved today......no letter from J......I highly doubt I will get a letter from him tomorrow, so I hope Wednesday I get something from him. This is literally making me want to cry right now.

I cried alredy :'(....i wrote a him a letter telljng him wat is he thinking an to get his shit straight....he doesnt like me talking to him like that but i been sending letters everyday and have only received one last week wth: (