No mail - disappointment

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

No mail from J today. I hope for mail from him tomorrow!

I hope tomorrow is mail day!


I got a 4 min 28 second call. He was checking to see if I'm coming to visit, but really he called to say hi since he knows I always visit unless I can't, in which case I let him know weeks ahead.
His friend tried to make me not go but I held my ground and said we have things to talk about since we havent seen each other in 3 weeks (last week was a a shared visit, no private time really). Makes me frustrated when retired people can't go the day I don't. We set up my day vs. everyone else's day for a reason.

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Trademark

Lol! You are right....I went anyway and I had a letter! Thank god...I was about ready to pull my hair out from frustration...

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Yea mail! And you still have hair! : )

[Trademark]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

Yea mail! And you still have hair! : )

Lol....yes hair is still all there
But it was pretty close to me having bald spots... Not a pretty sight I am sure!

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[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Trademark

Lol....yes hair is still all there
But it was pretty close to me having bald spots... Not a pretty sight I am sure!

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Lol "no honey, it's not the new style, it's the no letter stress"

[Joshua's_Girl]

Still no letter from J. I am irritaded to say the least. I am just in a funk today, so anything that is said or done makes me go off. His letter I got on Thursday, I have re-read about 12 times and today when I read it, I am picking at it and the things he says I am reading way too much into. I wrote him a short letter this morning and mail it off. I told him I will answer his letter later seeing as I was in a foul mood today. I told him I didn't want to aruge with him, but I was feeling like I was getting mad at him for really no reason, so I told him I will finish his letter this weekend.

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I hope tomorrow is mail day!


I got a 4 min 28 second call. He was checking to see if I'm coming to visit, but really he called to say hi since he knows I always visit unless I can't, in which case I let him know weeks ahead.
His friend tried to make me not go but I held my ground and said we have things to talk about since we havent seen each other in 3 weeks (last week was a a shared visit, no private time really). Makes me frustrated when retired people can't go the day I don't. We set up my day vs. everyone else's day for a reason.

How did your visit go? Tell us details please???!?

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

Still no letter from J. I am irritaded to say the least. I am just in a funk today, so anything that is said or done makes me go off. His letter I got on Thursday, I have re-read about 12 times and today when I read it, I am picking at it and the things he says I am reading way too much into. I wrote him a short letter this morning and mail it off. I told him I will answer his letter later seeing as I was in a foul mood today. I told him I didn't want to aruge with him, but I was feeling like I was getting mad at him for really no reason, so I told him I will finish his letter this weekend.

i do this too! Im sure you will hear soon. I know the being moved around is a big process, give him a few days girl...keep your head up hugs

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

How did your visit go? Tell us details please???!?

Okay so our visit was wonderful but Im a huge failure. 1. When I was being hugged I went to give him his "kiss" lame kiss on the cheek, he moved and I got his chin. 2. I couldn't think of how to put the topic into the visit.
We visited from 10:30 to 3pm and I'm a total failure. I loved the flirting and stuff but we do need to get that in there somehow and I couldnt do it. Next week? Also I guess since I'm the worlds biggest failure I'm going to have to enjoy the hug and let him get his kiss "lame cheek" in, then hold his neck and give mine. Let's review my previous failures - his neck (which was nice), the corner of his mouth(slightly nice) , his ear, his chin... Need I continue? We are the lamest couple ever! His jerk friend tried to get me to not go today. But when I mentioned I will be missing a day in may for a concert and said oh jerk can go he said no, I'll go to church. Then he amended and said well he can come after church. So I feel good for telling the jerk friend "no".

I got a nice letter today saying how wonderful I am for making his bday the best and how sweet etc I am. I made a skin for my cell of his valentine picture he drew me and I took it today. He loved it.

I need some pointers or something. I'm tired of being a failure with this. I wish he'd just bring the topic up, and get over the cheek kiss. I'm over it. Lame lame lame. Help!

[ILoveChris27]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

Okay so our visit was wonderful but Im a huge failure. 1. When I was being hugged I went to give him his "kiss" lame kiss on the cheek, he moved and I got his chin. 2. I couldn't think of how to put the topic into the visit.
We visited from 10:30 to 3pm and I'm a total failure. I loved the flirting and stuff but we do need to get that in there somehow and I couldnt do it. Next week? Also I guess since I'm the worlds biggest failure I'm going to have to enjoy the hug and let him get his kiss "lame cheek" in, then hold his neck and give mine. Let's review my previous failures - his neck (which was nice), the corner of his mouth(slightly nice) , his ear, his chin... Need I continue? We are the lamest couple ever! His jerk friend tried to get me to not go today. But when I mentioned I will be missing a day in may for a concert and said oh jerk can go he said no, I'll go to church. Then he amended and said well he can come after church. So I feel good for telling the jerk friend "no".

I got a nice letter today saying how wonderful I am for making his bday the best and how sweet etc I am. I made a skin for my cell of his valentine picture he drew me and I took it today. He loved it.

I need some pointers or something. I'm tired of being a failure with this. I wish he'd just bring the topic up, and get over the cheek kiss. I'm over it. Lame lame lame. Help!

LOL I'm not quite understanding the dilemma? Do you want more to happen then the cheek kiss? And I don't think you're a failure you guys are just in that weird stage. What do you need pointers on?

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

LOL I'm not quite understanding the dilemma? Do you want more to happen then the cheek kiss? And I don't think you're a failure you guys are just in that weird stage. What do you need pointers on?

I want us to move out of the weird stage. Forward march! Hup 2..3..4!...
I want no more cheek kisses unless it's after a real kiss. He drives me batty! I'm sure I'm just as bad. I'm sure I send mixed signals. I need pointers on how not to be a failure. : ) was a great visit full of touching and flirting. Not like the folks next to us who had some weird tongue dancing happening just as we looked over. Eww!

[ILoveChris27]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I want us to move out of the weird stage. Forward march! Hup 2..3..4!...
I want no more cheek kisses unless it's after a real kiss. He drives me batty! I'm sure I'm just as bad. I'm sure I send mixed signals. I need pointers on how not to be a failure. : ) was a great visit full of touching and flirting. Not like the folks next to us who had some weird tongue dancing happening just as we looked over. Eww!

Oh I see. Well, the only way to get things moving is to be upfront with him and tell him how you feel. But, if you're not ready to go that far just stop sending mixed signals. It's obvious you know exactly what you want so send him very clear signals that you're ready to take the next step.if you guys are flirting and touching I'm sure there is something there and you just may have to be the first one to act on it. It may put you out of your comfort zone but building relationships is work. Especially in situations like the ones we are in.I have had to step out of my comfort zone many times with my boyfriend because he is not used to dealing with someone who expects a lot of love,affection and attention. When I feel sided or I feel as if he is back sliding to his old ways I let him know how I feel. Or i hint that I'm feeling a little forgotten and he straightens back up. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship,especially a prison relationship. You will never get anywhere if you guys don't start talking and expressing your feelings to each other. There is never a right time to start talking about it. You just have to do it. Hope this helps

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

Oh I see. Well, the only way to get things moving is to be upfront with him and tell him how you feel. But, if you're not ready to go that far just stop sending mixed signals. It's obvious you know exactly what you want so send him very clear signals that you're ready to take the next step.if you guys are flirting and touching I'm sure there is something there and you just may have to be the first one to act on it. It may put you out of your comfort zone but building relationships is work. Especially in situations like the ones we are in.I have had to step out of my comfort zone many times with my boyfriend because he is not used to dealing with someone who expects a lot of love,affection and attention. When I feel sided or I feel as if he is back sliding to his old ways I let him know how I feel. Or i hint that I'm feeling a little forgotten and he straightens back up. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship,especially a prison relationship. You will never get anywhere if you guys don't start talking and expressing your feelings to each other. There is never a right time to start talking about it. You just have to do it. Hope this helps

Thanks that is helpful. We do communicate really well except on this one topic.

[tomsgirl76]

still on the no mail train but had some drama pop up regarding him so im waiting patiently to hear his response.

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

Okay so our visit was wonderful but Im a huge failure. 1. When I was being hugged I went to give him his "kiss" lame kiss on the cheek, he moved and I got his chin. 2. I couldn't think of how to put the topic into the visit.
We visited from 10:30 to 3pm and I'm a total failure. I loved the flirting and stuff but we do need to get that in there somehow and I couldnt do it. Next week? Also I guess since I'm the worlds biggest failure I'm going to have to enjoy the hug and let him get his kiss "lame cheek" in, then hold his neck and give mine. Let's review my previous failures - his neck (which was nice), the corner of his mouth(slightly nice) , his ear, his chin... Need I continue? We are the lamest couple ever! His jerk friend tried to get me to not go today. But when I mentioned I will be missing a day in may for a concert and said oh jerk can go he said no, I'll go to church. Then he amended and said well he can come after church. So I feel good for telling the jerk friend "no".

I got a nice letter today saying how wonderful I am for making his bday the best and how sweet etc I am. I made a skin for my cell of his valentine picture he drew me and I took it today. He loved it.

I need some pointers or something. I'm tired of being a failure with this. I wish he'd just bring the topic up, and get over the cheek kiss. I'm over it. Lame lame lame. Help!

Since I have never meet J in person only through letters and hopefully soon over the phone, all I can say is if you want the cheek kisses to stop, you have to make the first move and go for it......kiss him for real! Or write him and tell him you want a real kiss......usually the guy will make the first move and make it happen as long as you two are on the same page. J tells me all the time, if you ever come and visit me, none of the pecking crap, I want a full blown kiss. The one that will knock your socks off! Just be up front with him. Talk to him at your visits about THAT!!!!

[Joshua's_Girl]

Originally Posted by tomsgirl76

still on the no mail train but had some drama pop up regarding him so im waiting patiently to hear his response.

Give it some time.....the mailroom at any prison/jail is usually slow as molasses. I hope you hear from him soon!

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by Joshua's_Girl

Since I have never meet J in person only through letters and hopefully soon over the phone, all I can say is if you want the cheek kisses to stop, you have to make the first move and go for it......kiss him for real! Or write him and tell him you want a real kiss......usually the guy will make the first move and make it happen as long as you two are on the same page. J tells me all the time, if you ever come and visit me, none of the pecking crap, I want a full blown kiss. The one that will knock your socks off! Just be up front with him. Talk to him at your visits about THAT!!!!

I think that people who haven't met in person and can have a great, close serious relationship are awesome. Guy do make the first move and I've never made the first move. We didn't start our relationship with dating in mind. We started it 6yrs ago as friends through different events we'd run into each other and people would introduce us. Finally about a year of being introduced we talked longer than hi, how's it going, bye. I think if we'd started with wanting a dating relationship first then things would be very different. Though I love the length and direction our relationship has gone. I'm just ready for the next phase. I got some good advice last night so I'm getting my "game plan" ready. I hope to report back with good news.

[ILoveChris27]

2 4 pagers came today!!! Ahhhh! I skip from the mailbox like a kid with a new toy! Omg. They were both soooo sweet. Cloud 9,900,000 here I come! )))))

[ilovecoffee]

Im stalking my mail lady, still no mail. Last letter I received was last monday. I have to stop this, i work myself up for nothing. I have started to get greys!!!!

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ILoveChris27

2 4 pagers came today!!! Ahhhh! I skip from the mailbox like a kid with a new toy! Omg. They were both soooo sweet. Cloud 9,900,000 here I come! )))))

Yea!!!!! Yea!!! It's mail day!!! I'm still loving my letter from yesterday and working on my game plan ; )

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ilovecoffee

Im stalking my mail lady, still no mail. Last letter I received was last monday. I have to stop this, i work myself up for nothing. I have started to get greys!!!!

I have them now too and finally think I should try something. : (

[ilovecoffee]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I have them now too and finally think I should try something. : (

Do you ever feel like its a addiction to keep on checking the mail box? I have been out there 4 times in 1.5 hours. I can aways gage when I should get another letter but sometimes my women power is off. I have actually went so far one week when I was totally fed up with my delivery that I called and complained. FOr the grey I pulled out a big bright grey hair on the top of my head. I pulled that sucker right out! I couldnt believe it

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ilovecoffee

Do you ever feel like its a addiction to keep on checking the mail box? I have been out there 4 times in 1.5 hours. I can aways gage when I should get another letter but sometimes my women power is off. I have actually went so far one week when I was totally fed up with my delivery that I called and complained. FOr the grey I pulled out a big bright grey hair on the top of my head. I pulled that sucker right out! I couldnt believe it

I pull my gray out but now I'm getting old and may need to dye it. Or just go bald. My hair is really dark so it's noticeable.

I go check mine at lunch and my guy has it down. He mails on Thursday it's here sat. Mails it Monday I get it wed. I love it. I miss him already! Is it sat yet???

[ilovecoffee]

Originally Posted by Beachhouse

I pull my gray out but now I'm getting old and may need to dye it. Or just go bald. My hair is really dark so it's noticeable.

I go check mine at lunch and my guy has it down. He mails on Thursday it's here sat. Mails it Monday I get it wed. I love it. I miss him already! Is it sat yet???

Ya my hair is dark as well, but I was pretty surprised when i seen that baby on the top of my hair! I was slightly mortified for a second.

WOW! You both have a great system down! I dont know when he mails me. I just judge the amount of days its been since my last one or I will ask him on the phone. Takes about a week for me to receive his letter. Im due now! LOL. I miss mine too! Its almost Saturday!

[Beachhouse]

Originally Posted by ilovecoffee

Ya my hair is dark as well, but I was pretty surprised when i seen that baby on the top of my hair! I was slightly mortified for a second.

WOW! You both have a great system down! I dont know when he mails me. I just judge the amount of days its been since my last one or I will ask him on the phone. Takes about a week for me to receive his letter. Im due now! LOL. I miss mine too! Its almost Saturday!

Saturday Saturday Saturday!!!

My mom had gray hair since she was in her early twenties. I'm going to be 37 so it's not horrible but dang! My guy is becoming silver. He's hot like that. I am not a makeup wearer and have never dyed my hair so I'm kinda nit. Into it but gray, No way!

[Joshua's_Girl]

No letter from J today. I am beyond irritated at him. I feel like writing him a nasty letter.....but what would that solve?!? I am glad people are getting letters from their men. I wish i was in the same boat as you all are today!