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COMPLETElyhis · #26 05-08-2012, 02:02 PM

I don't think you're done with him and I wonder if you've seen him since he's been released??? I mean it's all good... be happy!

Peace and blessings...

**shaunna** · #27 05-08-2012, 03:46 PM

I hope she is for the simple reason she deserved a lot better than how he treated her! Hope everything is working out for the best

elaine86 · #28 05-08-2012, 09:02 PM

No I hv not seen him... It was easy for me to get through it wen he was locked up n I didn't c him but I know that if I c him now all these emotions are coming back... And by emotions I mean... How I hate him, anger disappointment... When I think about him I think of that day I got the letter n how he hurt me... That made me block all the other things like how happy I got wen I received mail, when I would go visit. Phone calls,,, it all got blocked wit that letter. I just hope I dnt see him right now cuz it's bound to happen some day... Ugghh

elaine86 · #29 05-11-2012, 03:58 PM

I'm so proud of myself.... He called me last nite to "hang out" and I said NO... I think he was shocked cuz he said...u don't want to? That's crazy.... He kept insisting and I did not care... Sorry!! lol

skellerton · #30 05-11-2012, 04:06 PM

Glad to see you getting over this- going back is usually more of the same. I wish you a happy future.

InmateLover67 · #31 05-11-2012, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by elaine86

So I got a letter from my guy talking bout him dropping me n erasing me from his head cuz that's how pissed he is at me cuz I didn't answer my phone... Yes with less than a month to go.. It really smells like bs.... I think he just had it planned to dump me... I'm soo mad I stood there for almost 2 years... I am not trying to fix it anymore that's it!!!!! If he's willing to throw everything away for such a dumb reason than too damm bad.... I'm so hurt I just want to ughh cry!!! I hate him for being so imature but I'm too much of a grown woman to deal with this... Wth.... I'm going to exit the way I entered.... Wats wrong wit u... I feel so used!! :-(

Wow, what a douche-bag he is! I am sorry you stood beside him and now he is being an jerk and wants nothing to do with you. I seriously doubt he is breaking up with you over a missed phone call. In my opinion that is a lame excuse for ending a relationship and he probably wants to be free to date and go out and have fun.

Trust me hun, the karma train will run over his ass, in time. Everything happens for a reason, even if we do not undertand it at the time. Allow yourself to heal and be thankful you did not give him anymore years of your devotion.

Through pain comes healing...you are strong and you will make it through this and be even stronger for it. He will probably realize what he had, once it is gone....so smile and keep moving on with your life. It is his loss anyway.

I wish you the very best in the next chapter of your life.

Peace~

countryzgirl · #32 05-11-2012, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by elaine86

I'm so proud of myself.... He called me last nite to "hang out" and I said NO... I think he was shocked cuz he said...u don't want to? That's crazy.... He kept insisting and I did not care... Sorry!! lol

Good for you! Glad to see you're doing OK and holding your ground.
Go you!

MRS.GRIFFIN · #33 05-11-2012, 06:56 PM

I'm proud of you myself, i know its hard....but girl you going on with your life. Dont give up on love though.....its someone for everybody. Wishing you the best

InmateLover67 · #34 05-11-2012, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by elaine86

That's the word I was looking for... Betrayed! Should I write back to give him a piece of my mind?

If you feel the need to write, do so, but burn it once you write it. If you send it, you will only stay stuck.

Hun, pick your chin up and count your blessings. You deserve better than this.

Peace~

hisbabygurl2014 · #35 05-12-2012, 04:47 PM

reall support isnt just when you miss your other half-but its also when something like this happens. I just want to say Thank you ladies!!! <3

elaine86 · #36 05-20-2012, 04:19 PM

Hello PTO,
Gosh I need to vent, lately idk what's going on with my emotions, I have not talked or seen him but lately I've missed him, I miss the feeling of waiting for his call and talking to him.... Idk if it's right or wrong but lately he's been on my mind, I'll be thinking about him then the whole situation of the letter comes to mind, then I tell myself, screw him!! Then it starts all over wit the thinking/ missing him... Ugh

InmateLover67 · #37 05-20-2012, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by elaine86

Omg he got released.... Hope I don't run into him.. ;(

Get a restraining order on him, then if he violates it, he will go back to jail.

It seems like you are not preparing to avoid him but that you hope you will run into him. If I were you, I would quit talking to him and protect myself against further contact.

Your pain is NOT going to heal, until you do away with this guy.

Peace~

nimuay · #38 05-20-2012, 04:35 PM

Ah, what are you actually missing? The person you thought he was? Well, he isn't that, so you're missing having a fantasy. That's OK, but you need to acknowledge that it's the fantasy you're missing, not the actual person.

princesspat · #39 05-28-2012, 12:11 AM

Hey sweety did you ever run into him since you said he got released? Old post I know but wanted to know.

hisbabyny · #40 05-28-2012, 12:35 AM

i really am wondering before this letter was everything good? and then all of a sudden he acts like that and then its over? two years is a long time for some one to just change, i kept trying to put myself in the same situation but my man is very easy going about things he cant control like the phone' so if something weird was to happen if i got a crazy letter' i would think he was having a nervous breakdown or something

i would not feel used. i would know something happen to him cause its just not him. so im thinking was this a pattern because you said you think maybe he was looking for any little thing as a excuse to break up with you?
was that a gut feeling or you had other red flags?
i hope you are doing good and im very sorry for all your pain'

elaine86 · #41 05-28-2012, 09:01 PM

Hey girlies,
Since he got released I hv not seen him at all, he hasn't called or anything... It was good before I got the letter now that I think back I remember that the plan was for me to pick him up but as it got closer to his release I asked if we were sticking to the plan and his response was idk I'll let u know cuz they're going to transfer me... But in the back of my head I wondered why he would get transferred... I really had no idea when I got the letter I was shocked, I taught it was a reaction and that he was going to get over it but I guess it was just a perfect opportunity to put his plan in action... I would like to know wat the he'll he was thinking nut I guess I will never kno