Kristlesmommie, daughter in jail again!

[KristlesMommie]

Hi my name is Carla,

My daughter is in jail again also... Facing prison this time.

This is my first time to reply or even post on this site. I am so happy I found this site. I need an outlet and support. My husband just doesnt understand and there really isnt anyone else i care to confide in.

My friends and my family just dont want to talk about it and are just either too nice about it , too critical or just dont really act like they want to hear it.

I really feel judged.

My daughter is an absolutely beautiful 25 year old. She knows how pretty she is and she uses that to get whatever she wants from her friends. and trust me her friends are not the pick of the litter.

I turned her in this time. She was on something called Drug Court. She was out of treatment not even a month. I told her when she came home from treatment that there was a zero tolerance policy at home now. We have dealt with this for the better part of 10 years now and cant deal with it anymore. Well she lied about her curfew, decided to spend the night away from home knowing that it was against the rules. Drug Court rules too. She was drinking, a lot. and the only thing i could see was the past 10 years back again so rapidly it really made my head spin. I called the person over the Drug Court and turned her in and now she may be going to prison.

She has a wonderful 2 1/2 year old little baby, Ava Jade. she treats her so badly. I had to go to the babies father and let him know that Kristle was in no shape to have alone time with the baby. He has had the baby for a year now. he got Ava from Kristle when she was taken to rehab last February. But once Kristle got out she was getting Ava on the weekend and during the week. We are scared for Ava's safety.

Wow, this has been a horrible month.

Dont mean to sound so desperate, but i am just devistated. confused, angry, hurt, lonely.

Praying.....

[Verytiredmom]

I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. It was very hard for my husband too. It took a long time for him to come around. He went 2 1/2 years without seeing our son. He talkes to him on the phone, but couldn't stand the thought of seeing him in prison. Finally, I told him that his son needed to see him and he went. We are a great bunch for the most part. We know what it is to be alone and not being able to share this with the people around you. You are welcome here, you can vent and cry and we will be here to support you. The only thing I will tell you is that this site is monitored, so do be careful you don't say anything that can be used against your daughter, especially before she is sentenced.
The next important thing is to take care of yourself. Your family needs you.

[mandymoo]

So glad you've found us, Kristle's mom, there is so much support and information here! As for feeling judged, you don't know WHAT is going on in other people's lives, know that you are accepted here and let those who judge go while you are going through this

[wickit]

WELCOME TO PTO!
I am so sorry to hear about your daughter! Glad you have decided to join us!

[hitulily]

I hope you are doing o.k. Sometimes things happen for a reason.
Keep your head up and find some good friends here to share your heart felt feelings.

[iminprisontoo]

Carla,

Oh my, sounds like she needed to be stopped and hitting bottom sometimes includes prison. Having that time to be SOBER and think about life will sometimes allow drunks and addicts to have "a moment of clarity" where they finally see what they are doing and can admit and want to stop. Until that happens it will continue and anyway you can help her to hit bottom sooner is good to do, my opinion. She sounds like she has lost her child and her mothering instincts are nonexistent right now. Prison can only help her to face the consequences of her actions and I say good for you. She broke the rules not you and you helped her. It is so hard but the earlier she can get sober the better. I was worried sick about my son, rapings beatings and all that stuff you hear about but 3 months later he seems to be OK and is accepting his punishment. Al-Anon.org was so helpful for me in letting go of things I can't control anyway, like my loved ones alcoholism (I have a couple of them) and it gives me a confidential place to talk and listen. I love that program. Mary Beef

[szcunane]

Carla,

I am so sorry that things are as they are ...sounds like you have been through some very rough times. I do hope that you will be able to do something to help your gransdaughter, and that something happens to help your daughter find the courage and strength to put her addictions behind her. Life can be so hard . ..join us here, we all know what it is like . ..the roller coaster of emotions. we understand. we care. we are family.

[wickit]

Hello everyone! I have created a new intro thread for our member mydearestson! Let's all give her our warmest wishes and support she needs! Thanks wickit!

[twinzmom]

Originally Posted by KristlesMommie

Hi my name is Carla,

My daughter is in jail again also... Facing prison this time.

This is my first time to reply or even post on this site. I am so happy I found this site. I need an outlet and support. My husband just doesnt understand and there really isnt anyone else i care to confide in.

My friends and my family just dont want to talk about it and are just either too nice about it , too critical or just dont really act like they want to hear it.

I really feel judged.

My daughter is an absolutely beautiful 25 year old. She knows how pretty she is and she uses that to get whatever she wants from her friends. and trust me her friends are not the pick of the litter.

I turned her in this time. She was on something called Drug Court. She was out of treatment not even a month. I told her when she came home from treatment that there was a zero tolerance policy at home now. We have dealt with this for the better part of 10 years now and cant deal with it anymore. Well she lied about her curfew, decided to spend the night away from home knowing that it was against the rules. Drug Court rules too. She was drinking, a lot. and the only thing i could see was the past 10 years back again so rapidly it really made my head spin. I called the person over the Drug Court and turned her in and now she may be going to prison.

She has a wonderful 2 1/2 year old little baby, Ava Jade. she treats her so badly. I had to go to the babies father and let him know that Kristle was in no shape to have alone time with the baby. He has had the baby for a year now. he got Ava from Kristle when she was taken to rehab last February. But once Kristle got out she was getting Ava on the weekend and during the week. We are scared for Ava's safety.

Wow, this has been a horrible month.

Dont mean to sound so desperate, but i am just devistated. confused, angry, hurt, lonely.

Praying.....

No judgement here! I'm a mom of 19 year old twins. In the last five years, they've been to rehab twice, juvie and jail mutiple times. One is now headed to prison for with a 25 year sentence. I know it's hard, but try to take care of yourself. I can totally relate to what you are going through. I'm new to this site too. Glad we found it! Have you tried Al-Anon meetings? I've been to a few and they are SO helpful. Hang tough! Love from a fellow mama in Texas!

[brookesmom]

Wow. Your story sounds just like mine!!! My daughter Brooke is already in prison. She went Feb 2nd. We aren't sure if she will get out in May or October. She too had a baby. But we have permanent custody of him since he was 3 weeks old. I got to visit Brooke for the first time yesterday. It was so sad seeing her there. But she hasnt changed her thinking much. I can't believe it!!! What are we supposed to do with kids like this? I'm still trying to believe she has changed but I'm just not sure. I'm here if you want to pm me. Our story is so alike!!!

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[koolaidmom]

Welcome,

So sorry that you had the need to find us. There are wonderful ladies here with lots of knowledge,love and support. Take care of you,first..

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