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sleepless in Tu · #76 04-29-2012, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by deedeeortiz

I went back to work this week. I think it's helping me to be busy at work. Yesterday I had some missed calls on my cell phone while at work. Last night after I got home I realized its from the same area code where my son is. There was no message but it really upset me that I may have missed his call. Is it possibly he called? He's only been there a week today.

I'm late in posting.I have been following your posts and I'm so sorry for all that has happened.I just wanted to add another possibility here regarding the missed calls and the area code,it could have been a family member or friend of another inmate calling.I made some of those calls myself to other moms.The relief and thanks expressed by the moms once they learned a little information about their daughters will always stay with me.I had the chance to meet a couple of them at visitation.Once your son is out of reception, and able to call, there is a process to go through to set your phone up to receive calls from him.Usually that information can be found at the DOC website for the prison where your son is located.Also,you can always receive help with those questions here.This site is truely a blessing.I have received so much help and support here.I pray your daughter in law will realize the need for your grandchildren to visit their Dad.Once again,I'm so sorry and hope that by finding PTO some of the difficulties can be lightened,and questions answered.

deedeeortiz · #77 04-29-2012, 03:50 PM

Thank you. It is nice to come here and hear from other moms.

mandymoo · #78 04-29-2012, 04:43 PM

I hear you-PWCIP really got me through when I was so fearful and full of despair. Don't know what I would have done without this forum!

deedeeortiz · #79 04-30-2012, 04:15 PM

I read the posts from wife's & girlfriends and feel for them. But when I read the posts from other parents, I know their pain first hand. I'm so glad this forum is here & I found it.

I heard today that the younger brother of the victim came to my house after the verdict. He said no one answered the door, but he thought he heard someone in here. Typical, we have a big house and lots of kids. I seen him a couple of months after this happen and we talked and cried together. I think he was just as confused and hurt as I was. I hope everyone can heal from this and move on. He's had a tough adult life himself & has been in & out of prison.

So many life's have been change by this terrible thing. I've had people say to me that all things happen for a reason. I can't for the life of me understand why this has happen. The pain it's caused so many people.

tglsmom · #80 04-30-2012, 05:44 PM

What you say is true. It's a shame that the ones who are committing the crimes don't stop and think that they are not only hurting themselves and their victims, but their friends and families as well. We have to go on, sometimes for years, with the pain and hurt that their actions have caused. They may be serving time in prison, but the ones they leave behind are serving time as well. It's a sad situation all the way around.

Btw, have you heard from your son yet? I'm hoping a letter or note is on the way soon - I know how much you need to hear from him! Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

deedeeortiz · #81 04-30-2012, 07:32 PM

I still have not heard from him and it is killing me. My daughter finally got through to the prison. They said he can write and we can write. I just worry he is in such a state of depression that he isn't writing. It worries me 24/7, It's been a month since I've talked to him. It's so hard. After getting such a sentence, I have no idea how he is.

mandymoo · #82 04-30-2012, 07:46 PM

Though he may indeed be in no shape to write, it will help he and you both when you write, deedee.

tglsmom · #83 04-30-2012, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by mandymoo

Though he may indeed be in no shape to write, it will help he and you both when you write, deedee.

Yes, I agree. I'm sure that he is having a rough time and I know you are worried about him but, if you can, try writing every day - even if it's just a short note saying that you love him. Those letters will mean so much to him and will help him through this very difficult time. And, as mandymoo says, it will help you feel better knowing that there is something you can do for him when everything else is out of your control. I hope you'll give it a try.

1bird2 · #84 04-30-2012, 10:05 PM

I agree!!! DO WRITE HIM....OFTEN!! I'm sure he feels a lot of things right now that will be difficult for him to communicate maybe. BUT, it will be VERY IMPORTANT for him to get lots of "I love you" letters. That will help him more than we can possibly imagine. My cousin is serving a life sentence, and we are now at the place where we write each other some pretty funny things...it took awhile to get there....but we DID get there! You will too....
And those phone calls will be priceless!!! Hang in there....and things will ease up.
Love and prayers,
XXOO

deedeeortiz · #85 05-01-2012, 04:34 PM

I found today that the info or the mailing package they gave my daughter yesterday was different that what they told my niece today. We had just mailed the package when we found out today. Still no word from him today!!

szcunane · #86 05-04-2012, 05:52 PM

just doing some catching up . . .I am so sorry you haven't heard from him yet . . . I have been praying for both of you. do keep writing assure him nothing he could ever do would stop you from loving him. when you think the time is right, and you think it's okay, please send me his contact info and I will send him a card from time to time. I hope you hear from him soon or that you can get a visit. I am sure he is overwhelmed. Have you tried to call the prison to talk to his counselor?
sometimes they can help give some insight.

tglsmom · #87 05-04-2012, 09:46 PM

deedee - I wouldn't worry too much about the package you sent. If it was just paper, envelopes and stamps, it will get to him eventually if you had the right facility and CDC# on the envelope. Not only that, but I think they are entitled to indigent writing materials if they don't have any money on their books.

szcunane had a good idea about calling his counselor. We did that several times when our son was in reception and it was helpful. Maybe he/she can fill you in on exactly where he is and how much longer she expects he'll be there before being transferred to his home prison. It's worth a try.

Please let us know when you hear from your son. We're anxiously waiting with you!!

deedeeortiz · #88 05-05-2012, 11:47 AM

Still no word from my son.

. My daughter & niece have both been trying to reach the counselor, but so far no luck. It seems almost impossible to get though to a real person. I texted his ex to see if the kids have got any mail from him, she said no. He usually always writes to his kids. I pray everyday I get a letter. I just can't even imagine what he is going through and not hearing from his family after the verdict. I just wish I could hear his voice and know he is ok.

Judeca · #89 05-05-2012, 01:03 PM

I know from past experience that the mail takes forever in reception. It took at least two weeks or more before I received my first letter, and it took even longer for my son to receive mine. Even after he was there for a few months the mail was always at least a week or more behind. If you send postcards to him he will get there faster (but not fast enough)

deedeeortiz · #90 05-05-2012, 08:15 PM

I didn't know I could send postcards. I'll send some Monday.

momalways · #91 05-06-2012, 04:49 PM

deedee, I'm slow here but I just wanted to say, I'm so sorry for all that your family is going through. I'm glad that you've found this little forum, there is great support here. Sending prayers that you hear from your son soon!

deedeeortiz · #92 05-06-2012, 08:03 PM

Spent the day with my oldest daughter, & her 3 kids, and my youngest sobs girlfriend and my granddaughter. We went to my 12yr old sons basketball game, then a movie, then dinner & home to pie at my house. I really enjoyed my day. Now if I just hear from my son tomorrow, that would be great.

I hope you all had a good weekend. I look forward to checking in here, it really helps to hear from other moms. Thank you all for your friendship & support.

deedeeortiz · #93 05-07-2012, 10:11 AM

This roller coaster is getting the best of me. After a great day yesterday, I had a terrible night. I woke up off and on from 1:00am, with my son so heavily on my mind. Today I feel exhausted and so emotional. My daughter found out this morning who the counselor is, but who knows when she'll actually reach him and get any info.

deedeeortiz · #94 05-07-2012, 10:33 AM

My daughter just got off the phone with the counselor. He's been very concerned about my son and thinks he may have some mental health stuff going on. They have not been able to communicate with him. They didn't even know if he had family or anything. They said he just looks at them when they talk to him. He has not answered one question. COunselor is suppose to call me at some point. I just want to see my son.

tglsmom · #95 05-07-2012, 12:39 PM

I don't have a medical background, but it sounds like your son is in deep shock. Who wouldn't be with the sentence he has been given?

I hope the counselor calls you soon. Have you been approved for visiting yet? Since your son is not communicating, I doubt that he has sent you visiting forms and, if not, I don't think you can visit him. However, when the counselor calls, I would ask him if it's possible to visit without prior approval, especially since the circumstances are so unsettling. It would certainly be worth a try and I would hope that he could make an exception in your case. Maybe seeing you in person would be just what your son needs.

I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and hoping that things improve soon.

deedeeortiz · #96 05-07-2012, 12:43 PM

The counselor has not called me. He said my son would have to send us the forms. Mail hasn't run today. I'm praying something comes from him, but I know in my heart it won't.

ldlovely758 · #97 05-07-2012, 12:45 PM

i know the feeling my son was due to come home in 32 days but he recived a dirty urine ticket cause he has shy bladder syndrome and could not go so now he needs asat and lost 6 months and 28 day good time im so sad over this he has done so good but after he watertown prison it wnet down hill ugh i just want to cry he now comes home jan 7 2013

tglsmom · #98 05-07-2012, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by deedeeortiz

The counselor has not called me. He said my son would have to send us the forms. Mail hasn't run today. I'm praying something comes from him, but I know in my heart it won't.

It doesn't sound like your son is in any shape to send the forms. Please ask the counselor - hopefully he will call you soon - if there is any way to get the forms to you considering your son is not communicating. All they need is his signature and if they can get that on the forms, someone with a good heart might put them in the mail. I hope you get some answers soon.

deedeeortiz · #99 05-07-2012, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by ldlovely758

i know the feeling my son was due to come home in 32 days but he recived a dirty urine ticket cause he has shy bladder syndrome and could not go so now he needs asat and lost 6 months and 28 day good time im so sad over this he has done so good but after he watertown prison it wnet down hill ugh i just want to cry he now comes home jan 7 2013

I'm so sorry to hear that. That must be so hard for you.

deedeeortiz · #**100** 05-07-2012, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by tglsmom

It doesn't sound like your son is in any shape to send the forms. Please ask the counselor - hopefully he will call you soon - if there is any way to get the forms to you considering your son is not communicating. All they need is his signature and if they can get that on the forms, someone with a good heart might put them in the mail. I hope you get some answers soon.

I will ask that. I think if we could see/talk to him maybe that would help him.