Heart broken

[MissMajor]

Hello everyone, my name is Natalie and I am new to this Site and I could have not found it at a better time. I really don't know where else to turn but my Fiancé is doing a 25 month bid and my World has crumbled he is my best Friend...I am usually am very happy with Life, but since he is gone I wake up sad every day and have a tremandous amount of anxiety, I mean we always been around each other for the past 3 years now he is gone and the best way I can describe feeling is as someone dear to me has past away. Just this feeling of sorrow , will I be ok because I don't like feeling like this thx for listening

[ILovehim1]

Originally Posted by MissMajor

Hello everyone, my name is Natalie and I am new to this Site and I could have not found it at a better time. I really don't know where else to turn but my Fiancé is doing a 25 month bid and my World has crumbled he is my best Friend...I am usually am very happy with Life, but since he is gone I wake up sad every day and have a tremandous amount of anxiety, I mean we always been around each other for the past 3 years now he is gone and the best way I can describe feeling is as someone dear to me has past away. Just this feeling of sorrow , will I be ok because I don't like feeling like this thx for listening

Aww.I'm new to this site too. I'm sorry you are feeling down. Keep your head up everything will be okay. Try writing to him everyday and sending him cards. It helps talking to him often too. Is he in a federal prison? If so Corrlinks is good to email back and forth. Hopefully you can plan a visit and see him. Seeing him would make you feel better. Stay strong. I know its hard but it will all be okay.

[NAN425]

It takes awhile, but you will get to where you can focus on making the most of what you have instead of grieving what you have lost of each other's presence in your lives. You are so right that this is a grieving process. Also important is to plan for your future together, start looking forwards toward how you will make your lives better after he is home so that this will not happen again.

It never totally doesn't suck, but you will get past the point of feeling like you can't breathe because it hurts so much. Time will start passing....25 months seems like a long time but you will be surprised how fast it will pass.

If you feel like you really can't cope, talk to your doctor about anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication. It's not a failure to ask for help.

[MissMajor]

Originally Posted by ILovehim1

Aww.I'm new to this site too. I'm sorry you are feeling down. Keep your head up everything will be okay. Try writing to him everyday and sending him cards. It helps talking to him often too. Is he in a federal prison? If so Corrlinks is good to email back and forth. Hopefully you can plan a visit and see him. Seeing him would make you feel better. Stay strong. I know its hard but it will all be okay.

Thank you. I actually did start writing him and I hope I can get to see him as soon as he gets to his permanent camp, he is doing State time but that's ok I will communicate with him in any way possible. Thanks again and wishing you the best as well.

[MissMajor]

Originally Posted by NAN425

It takes awhile, but you will get to where you can focus on making the most of what you have instead of grieving what you have lost of each other's presence in your lives. You are so right that this is a grieving process. Also important is to plan for your future together, start looking forwards toward how you will make your lives better after he is home so that this will not happen again.

It never totally doesn't suck, but you will get past the point of feeling like you can't breathe because it hurts so much. Time will start passing....25 months seems like a long time but you will be surprised how fast it will pass.

If you feel like you really can't cope, talk to your doctor about anti-depressants or anti-anxiety medication. It's not a failure to ask for help.

I am glad to know that I am not going crazy, because at first all things seemed fine until it just hit me all at once I guess. I agree I need to be more on the present and focus on building a better future. Thanks so much for your kind words.

[NAN425]

Originally Posted by MissMajor

I am glad to know that I am not going crazy, because at first all things seemed fine until it just hit me all at once I guess. I agree I need to be more on the present and focus on building a better future. Thanks so much for your kind words.

That's how it was for me too. At first you're so numb and kind of in shock that it doesn't hit you. Then, as it drags on, it becomes more real - and the full weight of it crashes down on you.

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. My husband and I have spent a lot of time planning for (and already implementing some) changes we want to make in our lives so they are better, healthier, so this doesn't happen again.

[bg1944]

Originally Posted by MissMajor

Hello everyone, my name is Natalie and I am new to this Site and I could have not found it at a better time. I really don't know where else to turn but my Fiancé is doing a 25 month bid and my World has crumbled he is my best Friend...I am usually am very happy with Life, but since he is gone I wake up sad every day and have a tremandous amount of anxiety, I mean we always been around each other for the past 3 years now he is gone and the best way I can describe feeling is as someone dear to me has past away. Just this feeling of sorrow , will I be ok because I don't like feeling like this thx for listening

Do him and yourself a great service when he gets out get as far away from FL as possible!

In case you don't know it FL has the most corrupt Judicial system in US get out when you can.

[MissMajor]

Originally Posted by bg1944

Do him and yourself a great service when he gets out get as far away from FL as possible!

In case you don't know it FL has the most corrupt Judicial system in US get out when you can.

I actually been entertaining that thought myself for some time now.