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Iamonlyme75 · #1 04-20-2012, 11:18 PM

Ok when you lovely ladies ended your relationships with your mwi what did you do with the letters? Im debating between sending them back or throwing them away.

Britrdazahead13 · #2 04-20-2012, 11:27 PM

Personally I wouldn't waste the money on sending them back. If you are sure it is over then burn them!
Best wishes for your future.

Iamonlyme75 · #3 04-20-2012, 11:40 PM

Im done its for the best. Burning them sounds like a good idea. I just remembered we have several bbq pits where I live =)

Critter07 · #4 04-21-2012, 05:01 AM

Get yourself a stick, a bag of marshmallows and have a "freedom" fire, sweetie! I had one when my ex left and it actually was rejuvenating. ;-)

bricesPnut · #5 04-21-2012, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Critter07

Get yourself a stick, a bag of marshmallows and have a "freedom" fire, sweetie! I had one when my ex left and it actually was rejuvenating. ;-)

Lol nice one I may do ur trick as well

InmateLover67 · #6 04-21-2012, 08:34 AM

I say have a big-ass bon fire and be rid of anything and everything that he gave you.

Peace~

Iamonlyme75 · #7 04-21-2012, 11:09 AM

I have the stuff to make smores =)

HisSO · #8 04-21-2012, 10:39 PM

I agree with the others burn them.

Critter07 · #9 04-21-2012, 10:45 PM

Then S'mores it is, sweetie! :-)

I just found another stack of his lying letters a couple of days ago. I feel a weenie roast comin' on...(grin)

pisces317 · #10 04-22-2012, 09:40 AM

re-read them so your sure of what he did and them throw them outside if he's not worthy of having you in his life then wasting money sending them back to him is definitely a no-no.i'm so sad for you cause i know the work we put into these relationships and these ungrateful dudes just play with our emotions

TattsNcurves · #11 04-23-2012, 04:26 PM

I tossed mine. They were hard to read and confused me. He had no use for them, so I just put them into recycle

pisces317 · #12 04-23-2012, 04:46 PM

i throw out anything that reminded me of that terrible time and missed a picture that after looking at him i burn't no strings attached are needed if the relationship is just a bad memory

FastCarGirl · #13 04-23-2012, 07:34 PM

I guess I'm lucky, I had no truly horrible relationships, I still have cards I got from my high school boyfriend, lol. But I'm a packrat...it seems the general consensus is to toss them, don't waste the money sending them back!

discoball · #14 04-23-2012, 08:04 PM

the only reason you would send them back is to entice him to keep up the relationship or b/c you think you might be hurting him somehow. neither one is healthy if you really want it to be done. so destroy them and move on. good luck

Tjames85 · #15 04-25-2012, 01:50 PM

Don't send them back. That's like trying to get the last word in. Destroy them and move on with your life.

Rachel C · #16 04-26-2012, 09:59 AM

I say save the money and mail them back to the bastard.... Nothing says it's over than seeing a pile of his letters in his hands. It lets him know you're not sitting at home pining over him either. He doesnt know if you destroyed them or not so he might find a little pleasure at night thinking of u reading and crying over them. Mail em girly...

24jf · #17 04-26-2012, 10:06 AM

I packaged mine up (with some other things that I needed to return to him... birth certificate, social security card, CD's I was holding for him because they were again his parole stipulations, etc) in a flat rate box, included a note that I thought perhaps this box of lies would mean more to him than they did to me and shipped them off. I have to admit... I did it more so hoping that the other woman was there when he opened it than for any other reason.

Rae87 · #18 04-26-2012, 10:58 AM

I'd mount them on cardboard and cut them into jigsaw pieces. Then mail them back to him. Give him something to do...

Rachel C · #19 04-26-2012, 11:04 AM

I like Rae's idea better than mine own. Hey they're always looking for things to pass the time! There you have it.

Iamonlyme75 · #20 04-26-2012, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Rae87

I'd mount them on cardboard and cut them into jigsaw pieces. Then mail them back to him. Give him something to do...

I love it

CrownTown · #21 04-26-2012, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Rae87

I'd mount them on cardboard and cut them into jigsaw pieces. Then mail them back to him. Give him something to do...

That would take up way too much of her time though.....Don't let him know you are stressin' on this girl....Send him that ish with a dirty note and move on!! JERK

CrownTown

**shaunna** · #22 04-26-2012, 03:39 PM

Everyone is different after a while I'd throw them away as sending them back will probably just do more harm than good. Just do whatever is best for you and what will give you closure

143forever · #23 04-26-2012, 05:58 PM

After a huge blowout with my ex I burned mine. Surprisingly made awesome smores off it (: gl girl! Don't let him bring you down.

JuJuWife · #24 04-30-2012, 02:09 AM

I ripped all mine up and pics and cards n everything else my husband ever sent me..my house is free from him no pics on my way or counter I broke everything and trashed it and he has no idea but he will SOON..I wouldn't mail them back bcuz that takes money n some of the facilities won't take them back or give them to the inmate..

**Patty** · #25 04-30-2012, 02:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Iamonlyme75

Ok when you lovely ladies ended your relationships with your mwi what did you do with the letters? Im debating between sending them back or throwing them away.

I've not been in your position but I'm thinking we need to ask ourselves:

WWJBD?
What would Justin Bieber do?